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AW: Donors

I just need to share this somewhere, and I know you ladies will understand how this felt to us.  I would share it on my blog, but we've decided it's something we wouldn't want our families knowing about and a few of them read my blog.

Last night BIL came over for dinner.  He asked us if we were still TTC or if we were persuing any assistance again.  We told him that we are just letting things be for right now and aren't planning to get assistance again for a while.  He responded with this, "well I don't know exactly what your issues are but I just want to let you know that if you ever need donor sperm I'm willing to do what I need to in order to help."  We let him know that wasn't part of the issue, but we appreciated it and love that if we were ever to need it, our child would have the same genes that H would pass on.

Then I called my best friend to do our weekly chat.  She knows every single detail about our losses, struggles, and plans.  I told her what BIL had said, and she told me that she was wanting to wait until I'm in Cali next week to tell me in person but she'll tell me while we're on the topic.  Her and her husband had a long discussion and she's willing to help us out with donor eggs or be a surrogate if it is needed.  Their family is complete to them, and they would love to help us to complete ours.

Neither one of these things are something we've ever thought about needing or persuing if we had to, and H has been a bit against either option from the start. But just knowing that BIL and my BF have been thinking about these things and are willing to help us create our family, makes us feel so much more hopeful for our future and options. I'm not shocked by this offer from my BF, it's something she's hinted at here and there.  But BIL is a year younger than me, still lives with MIL, and doesn't have many aspirations for his life and future.  He also isn't the most giving person and is pretty selfish.  So we know this had to have taken him a lot of thinking and a long time to build up the courage to talk to us about it. 

TTC since 1/13  DX:PCOS 5/13 (long, anovulatory cycles)
Clomid 50mg 9/13 = BFP! EDD 6/7/14 M/C 5w6d Found 11/4/13
1/14 PCOS / Gluten Free Diet to hopefully regulate my system. 
Chemical Pregnancy 03/14
Surprise BFP 6/14, Beta #1: 126 Beta #2: 340  Stick baby, stick! EDD 2/17/15
Riley Elaine born 2/16/15

TTC 2.0   6/15 
Chemical Pregnancy 9/15 
Chemical Pregnancy 6/16
BFP 9/16  EDD 6/3/17
Beta #1: 145 Beta #2: 376 Beta #3: 2,225 Beta #4: 4,548
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  • That's nice to know. I hear ya, I wouldn't be sure what I would ever want to do if we had problems, but I bet it feels great knowing that you have this support. xo
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  • That's amazing! It's so wonderful to have so many people in your corner. You're very lucky, but it seems you know this already.
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  • That's really nice to know that your family and friends care so very much!!

    Cheering on all of my 3T ladies!  DX with PCOS - 11/2012 DH S/A & HSG - Normal - Too many rounds of Clomid = BFNs - New RE 5/2014 - Repeat Testing - Losing 40lbs before injects/IUI



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  • It's a wonderful feeling having such love and support behind you! I'm so glad they both told you guys how they felt and their willingness to help if you should ever want/need it. That's an amazing gesture on both their parts.
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    BFP #1: 11/9/13; spontaneous m/c at 6w2d, 11/25/13
    BFP #2: 12/31/13. B/w 12/31: betas >1000, progesterone 13.6; B/w 1/2: betas 3065, progesterone 10.2
    B/w 1/8: betas 17,345, progesterone 25.6
    Progesterone suppositories started 1/2. Please stick, baby!!
    Fiona Elise born 9/9/14 - welcome beautiful girl!
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  • It is fantastic that they are so very supportive of you!
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    TTC 24 months, IUI #3 BFP 6/4/14 Beta 6/5 58, 6/9 508, 6/11 1227 TWINS! EDD 2/15/15
    With heavy hearts, we said goodbye to our precious angels on 8/12 at 13 weeks 2 days.
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    BFP! Betas: 12/12 225, 12/15 706, 12/17 1512. EDD 8.21.15
    12/29 hb 120. 1/5 perfect, GRAD DAY! 1/15 perfect at OB. NT 2/6 PERFECT, HB 158!

    Baby Girl born 8.9.15 at 38.2 due to IUGR 4lb7.8oz 17" 
    Our princess is being watched over by her older siblings every day <3
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  • That's so great that they were both thinking of you guys and offered to do this for you!  It's great to have that support!
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    TTC since June 2011 dx: PCOS
    Clomid+IUI: Cancelled b/c didn't respond (June 2012)
    Femara+Trigger+IUI #1: BFN :-( (July 2013)
    Natural Cycle (8/7/13)- BFP!  Beta #1 (9/10/13): 509 Progesterone: 18.64  Beta #2 (9/12/13): 1118
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  • What a wonderful gift!

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  • It's such a great gift to have people in your life that are willing to do so much for you!  
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    That is such an amazing gift from not one but two very special people. I got a little teary reading this!
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    Dx PCOS August 2012
    Clomid x4 = BFN
    Femara+Follistim IUIs x 6 = 3 BFN, 2 C/P, 1 early miscarriage
    IVF June 2014- 43 R, 34 M, 24 F, 12 blasts frozen and severe OHSS
    FET September 12, 2014!
    Beta #1 12dp5dt- 724
    Beta #2 14dp5dt- 1631
    Beta #3 20dp5dt- 12,813
    EDD 5/31/15 until OB tells me otherwise. Grow babies grow!

    "I might have to wait. I'll never give up. I guess it's half timing, and the other half's luck. 
    Wherever you are, whenever it's right, you'll come out of nowhere and into my life." ~ Michael Buble

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  • That's really nice. It's so sweet to know you have that support system in place if you ever need it!

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    Cycles 1-14 (Natural) all BFN
                                  Starting IUI#1 procedures Nov '13
                          IUI Cxl'd due to surprise natural BFP 11/1/13
            Calvin born on June 19th, 2014 via emergency c-section at 3lbs7oz
         
  • That's really nice.  It's wonderful to have great people in your corner.
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    TTC Since January 2011 - We have bad sperm 
    February 2013: IUI #1 = BFN 
    October 2013: We made the decision to stop TTC and live without children.

    Nestie Besties with Xan921 
  • That is so sweet. Definitely gives me warm fuzzies. :)


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  • Sounds like you have a great support system on your side! :)

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  • Wow, what wonderful people you have in your life.  To offer something like that is amazing.  You're very lucky to have such a great support system.
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    TTC since March 2012 w/irregular and anovulatory cycles.  
    Moved to an RE October 2013  HSG- All clear , S/A- Normal , Bloodwork -Normal
    Uterine polyp found-  Hysteroscopy and D&C 12/6/13  DX w/complex endometrial hyperplasia
    Endometrial Biopsy 3/21/14 - Hyperplasia still present  Endometrial Biopsy #2 6/24/14 - All clear!
    IUI #1  w/stims and trigger - Started stims 7/7/14 - IUI 7/24/14 = BFP 8/7/14
    Beta #1 8/8 - 47  Beta#2 -137  Beta#3 - 96 Beta#4 -287 Beta#5 -519 Beta#6 121 = early miscarriage 5w4d
    Nestie Besties with Nfp147 
  • Wow, you are blessed to have such supportive and loving people in your life. What a beautiful gift if you and DH end up pursuing that route. 
    Congrats to my TTC buddy Madeline! Cheering for all the strong 3T ladies! 

    TTC since March 2012; DX: PCOS 4/2013 
    BFP 7/6/2013; EDD 3/6/2014 
    Diagnosed with Pre-E: 2/15/201
    Emergency induction: 2/16/2014
    Baby E born: 2/16/2014 at 12:56pm. 5lb 15oz



  • You have some pretty great people in your life :) that's awesome <3
  • That's so great that you have that kind of support from such generous friends and family. :)

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    TTC #1 August 2014. BFP 9/26! EDD 6/9/15
    Baby A born 6/17/2015
  • That's so sweet!
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  • Nothing new really to add, but that is super sweet! :)


    TTC since 3/2012 
    DH - 36; nml swimmers; Me - 36; almost no AMH (last 0.081), low AFC, nml FSH/LH
    Clomid + IUI #1 (6/2013) - BFN; #2 (7/2013) - BFFN
    IVF 1.0 5R/5F/2T (ET 6/11/2014) - no frosties, but BFP 8dp5dt (EDD 3/1/2015) 
    Lost our sweet baby boy, Lincoln Alexander 10/3/2014 (19w)
    IVF 2.0 - ER 3/25/2015 - 3R ZERO mature.
    Ovaries are done...
    DE IVF ER - 12/2/2016 (17R/10F = 8 frosties); FET 1.0 (1/27/2017) - BFP 6dp5dt (EDD 10/16/2017)
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