October 2012 Weddings
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talking separation :( *long
Hi ladies,
This last while in my relationship has been at its worst and I need to reach out and speak to someone. You ladies arehisesome and o feel like I can reach out to you for support and hope that you will keep me as part of this community regardless of what happens with my marriage.
I've posted before about things not being so great but things are horrible now. There are very few moments, if any when either of us is happy. My husband has become very self centered and does not help around the house AT ALL and to be truely honest, he isn't a very good father either. His temper is horrible and it is rubbing off on my son.
Yesterday for me was my breaking point. I haven't been sick in a very long time but Monday night I got a severe migraine which continued through Tuesday along with a sick stomach. I felt so tired and weak. It was my husbands day off so I was thankful he was home and figured I'd at least have a little help....I was wrong. He didn't care that I was sick at all. It was pulling teeth to even get him to change a diaper.
By the evening my stomach was super suck and I had to go to the bathroom. The entire time ilI was in there I could hear him raising his voice at my kids (including our 9 month old). This is a common occurrence and I feel like I can't leave himalone with the kids bcs he ddoesn't have the patience and he has a short fuse.
Come dinner time I felt so horrible that my hands were shaking but I still offered to make him dinner but I had to change plans from our original dinner bcs I didn't have it in me. He got really angry for no reason and scoffed at me and told me just to make whatever for me and the kids. I said Iwas sorry iI couldn't do the original dinner but I felt horrible, then I said something along the lines of "even though I feel horrible I am still making dinner for the kids" and he snapped back with "I didn't ask you to make dinner for the kids"....he has never made a meal in this house, if I didn't make the dinner then the kids would not have eaten.
He truly showed me yesterday how little he cares for me. The respect is gone, trust is damaged and the love is all but gone. I don't know what we have anymore.
Last night we had a long discussion and I've given him until the end of June to clean up his act or we are over. I would love to do marriage counseling but we cannot afford it at $90-$150 per session. Where we live there are limited options and trust me, I've looked into everything.
I do not want my marriage to end, nor do I want my children to have to grow up in a broken home
I feel so low right now
Sorry to be a downer ladies
This last while in my relationship has been at its worst and I need to reach out and speak to someone. You ladies arehisesome and o feel like I can reach out to you for support and hope that you will keep me as part of this community regardless of what happens with my marriage.
I've posted before about things not being so great but things are horrible now. There are very few moments, if any when either of us is happy. My husband has become very self centered and does not help around the house AT ALL and to be truely honest, he isn't a very good father either. His temper is horrible and it is rubbing off on my son.
Yesterday for me was my breaking point. I haven't been sick in a very long time but Monday night I got a severe migraine which continued through Tuesday along with a sick stomach. I felt so tired and weak. It was my husbands day off so I was thankful he was home and figured I'd at least have a little help....I was wrong. He didn't care that I was sick at all. It was pulling teeth to even get him to change a diaper.
By the evening my stomach was super suck and I had to go to the bathroom. The entire time ilI was in there I could hear him raising his voice at my kids (including our 9 month old). This is a common occurrence and I feel like I can't leave himalone with the kids bcs he ddoesn't have the patience and he has a short fuse.
Come dinner time I felt so horrible that my hands were shaking but I still offered to make him dinner but I had to change plans from our original dinner bcs I didn't have it in me. He got really angry for no reason and scoffed at me and told me just to make whatever for me and the kids. I said Iwas sorry iI couldn't do the original dinner but I felt horrible, then I said something along the lines of "even though I feel horrible I am still making dinner for the kids" and he snapped back with "I didn't ask you to make dinner for the kids"....he has never made a meal in this house, if I didn't make the dinner then the kids would not have eaten.
He truly showed me yesterday how little he cares for me. The respect is gone, trust is damaged and the love is all but gone. I don't know what we have anymore.
Last night we had a long discussion and I've given him until the end of June to clean up his act or we are over. I would love to do marriage counseling but we cannot afford it at $90-$150 per session. Where we live there are limited options and trust me, I've looked into everything.
I do not want my marriage to end, nor do I want my children to have to grow up in a broken home
I feel so low right nowSorry to be a downer ladies
Re: talking separation :( *long
You guys are in my thoughts and prayers. Good for you for standing up and saying this is not how you want to live.
I agree about checking into any services churchs around you have. I hope you find something that works, even if that's separation for a while. He really needs to get his head out of his ass.
I will look into church counseling but I'm not sure if any of the churches here will do it if u are not religious.
I will be sure to keep you guys updated over time