My DH's aunt called today. She wants him to drive 6 hours one way to be in a family portrait for a Christmas present for his grandparents. She wants him to come next Saturday 1 day before my possible due date. It's no big deal, she says, because my mom is coming down here that day, to be with us.
This makes me upset on so many levels, because 1) this is our first child and he shouldn't potentially miss it for a family portrait. 2) she told him the picture "wouldnt be the same without him" but didnt mention the fact that his wife (nor his child that could be born) wouldn't be in it... 3) who does a family portrait as a christmas gift 5 days before Christmas!
Of course he think's it is crazy and said no way, but she is being persistent. She told him that he needs to come and that they will even "buy his gas". They think its NBD because she has a bunch of kids and did what ever she wanted up til the day they were born. His dad even was making excuses for her "oh that is just how she is, no we dont expect you to come...." but made it sound like it wasn't that unreasonable. These people!!!!! I can't even believe this is up for discussion!
I'm just glad DH said "no". He told his dad "this is my first child and I'm not going to miss it" he thinks it's crazy too, which is good because like he told his dad "if I came, I probably wouldnt have a wife when I came back.. lol"
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Re: I'm married into crazy-rant/vent
Lol. Good call dh.
Glad your DH is not part of the crazy.
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I'm glad your H just said no straight up. I can't believe people are that crazy!
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For me it's my MIL. My BIL broke up with his girlfriend a few months ago and my MIL keeps inviting her to lunch and family events, even though BIL has told her to stop. His ex is a sweet girl, but those ties need to be broken.
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Second, whenever your in-laws go full on crazy, remember you married your husband, not them. And, from what you said, he seems to love you very much and, more importantly, know what his priorities are.