How Often...

rayraex · January 2014

How often do you and your husband have sex? Since we got married we have only been having sex about once a week... I get turned down if I try to initiate more. How do you encourage your husband to have more sex?

artbyallie · January 2014

We had it once or twice a week right after we got married. We slowed down to once or twice a month just due to regular life getting in the way. Have you had an honest discussion with him about sex? Maybe he's satisfied with the frequency and doesn't realize you aren't.

But realize that sometimes, rejection just happens. Sometimes I turn him down; sometimes he turns me down. It's not that we don't love each other or even that we don't want to have sex. There are occasions when we might both want it mentally but one of us can get there physically, so we have to stop and try again another day. Don't take it personally.

schuette2 · February 2014

I don't have to encourage DH, I swear I just look at him and he's ready. Due to different work schedules at the moment, we're at about once a week to once every other week. I'm hoping that changes soon. When we first got married, it was more like a few times a week, but that's slowed up since I changed BC.

moonprincessd · February 2014

I'd like to say once a week, but I think it's more like 3 times a month (since mother nature claims one week). We're both not really sex craved people. We enjoy it of course, but it's not like we need it every day every hour, etc... I would talk to him about it, maybe you have more sexual needs than he does. Also, you shouldn't force someone to do something they don't want, so if he has lower sexual needs, then you might have to turn to pleasing yourself.

Mrs.Rad888 · February 2014

Sometimes it's 2X a week, sometimes it's once a month. It varies, like any part of a marriage. But, if this is a sudden change from how it was prior to the wedding, I'd ask him about it. Outside the bedroom, of course.

Wulfgar · February 2014

Just have an open communication with your husband. That is what MW and I do. She makes an attempt to give it to me at least once a week. Sometimes we have dry spells but since we are trying to conceive, when we are in our window we have it daily.

Kimbus22 · February 2014

3-4 times a week pre kid. 2-3 after kid. 1-2 now that I'm pregnant again AND there's a toddler.

sunflowerwife · February 2014

Once every other day. We've been married about 2 months.

biojess · February 2014

We've been living together for almost four years. We go between once ever two weeks to three times a week, depending on work stuff, vacation, illness, other life stuff. Lately, we've been trying to conceive, so 4-5 times a week right in the middle there.

MsPiggy37 · February 2014

1-3 x a week. Normally 2 and 99% of the time during the weekend.

mimiphin · February 2014

We average a day, we both have full time jobs but no kids. Have been together for 4 years living together for 3.

theholmanherd · March 2014

2-3 times a week. And usually one of those times involves more than one session in a night. If you're not getting what you want, ask him about it. Maybe it's as simple as a need to change things up a bit. We were 2-3x a month for a while last year but we changed things up and it got much better after that. Sex, like marriage, requires a lot of open communication to stay satisfying.

jtayl962 · March 2014

once a week. I want more but my husband doesn't. believe it or not we were both virgins when we got married so you would think we would do alot more. :-<

TexasGal24 · March 2014

It varies but probably 0-2 times per week. I've been trying to make it more of a priority and we have both talked about it. When we first started it was anything from 3-5 times PER DAY but that was years ago

arh1990 · April 2014

We go between 9-12 times a week. When we first met it was about 5 times a day and resting on the weekends for about 6 months. I think we only would break to eat or watch a movie lol

KonaCoffeeBean · April 2014

In H's ideal world, it would be at least once a day. For me though, it varies a lot. Carefree on vacation, everyday. During times of major stress, once a month. Currently, it's been about twice a week.

formerlyGDaisy09 · April 2014

artbyallie said:

We had it once or twice a week right after we got married. We slowed down to once or twice a month just due to regular life getting in the way. Have you had an honest discussion with him about sex? Maybe he's satisfied with the frequency and doesn't realize you aren't.

But realize that sometimes, rejection just happens. Sometimes I turn him down; sometimes he turns me down. It's not that we don't love each other or even that we don't want to have sex. There are occasions when we might both want it mentally but one of us can get there physically, so we have to stop and try again another day. Don't take it personally.

So glad we're not the only ones! we've lived together for almost 4 years...started out as 2-3 times a week, when we got married it was like once a week. now it's about once a month to once every 6 weeks. We're both so tired all the time...and I'm not a big middle-of the day sex person. so if one of us isn't feeling it when we go to bed, or if one of us is already asleep when the other finally makes it to bed it just doesn't happen.

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