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pregnant friend having a tough time..how can I help?
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Hey all, ok I dont have kids, so moms or expecting moms out there, I need some advice. I have a friend who is six months pregnant, but she isnt showing at all. Pregnancy is going ok, she's just really small framed. Its really bugging her that she isnt showing (she doesnt even have a little bump to show off) and poeple are starting to gossip that shes not pregnant, just wants attention, etc. I know shes pg because went and did the sonogram thing with her last week. This is her first kid and she's really letting it get to her, regardless of doctors saying the baby is just small and more towards the back of the uterus. She called me crying hysterically the other day after she went in a babystore and got asked who she needed a shower gift for and if they were registered there. She was shopping for herself. I dont know what to say to help her feel any better. Any other moms have had this issue or know of anyone who went through this? Im not sure what to do to help her and dont want to hurt her feelings any worse than they already are. Any advice would be most helpful.
Re: pregnant friend having a tough time..how can I help?
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Baby Boy M - 08/01/2013
um thats terrible! I didn't really show until I was about 22 weeks pregnant and then bam! whoa thats a belly. I'm sure the same will happen to her. its not odd that she's not showing yet
why is she letting all the talk get to her? does she have a weird situation? I would just be there for her. make sure she knows you're excited about the pregnancy/baby. and listen to her when she's upset. and let her talk about baby all the time, ask her how she's feeling and so forth.
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I'm sorry she's feeling bummed, but unfortunately I don't think there's much you can do besides letting her vent and reminding her that people are rude and no matter what she'd be getting some sort of stupid comments.
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It truly is amazing how incredibly rude people can be. I would just keep reassuring your friend that every woman is different, just the same as every pregnancy is different and the way they carry the baby is different. And remind her that ultimately as long as the baby comes out healthy, that is the most important thing. If you see someone being rude or if they start gossiping to you about your friend, tell them to put a sock in it and mind their business. And tell your friend to do the same - or she should just ignore the a-holes. I know it's hard to not let stuff get to you when you have all these crazy pregnancy hormones raging, but those people will get quiet very quickly once the baby comes.
I've heard that if it is your first pregnancy, you sometimes won't show until much later. I'm on my first and I'm not really showing, but it's also still pretty early for me. I do remember my mother saying that when she was pregnant with me though, she did not start showing until she was like 7 months - just one day completely popped out. Since your friend is small framed, I imagine this is probably what will happen to her.