The Bossy Campaign

Re: The Bossy Campaign

• brainybrunette member

  

  March 2014

  I think it's a great campaign. I've been accused of being too opinionated and therefore too bossy. I've always ignored it, but I can definitely see how saying these things sends a wrong message to girls.

  
  

  I don't necessarily agree with the whole Lean In book...I definitely have mixed feelings on that one. I haven't read the book, but I've read of it. So I feel like I can't really comment on it in detail.

  
  
  
  

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• mana8503 member

  

  March 2014

  I agree with you. My boss has told me I have a bad attitude, I said if I were male you would call me a go-getter. He's also told me I should make nice with an engr and "bake him some cupcakes", I wanted to smash a cupcake in his face. But I politely said, no why can't HE bake me something to "make nice"... Or better yet, would you tell a male to Bake? NO!
  
  I hate the discrimination here, I hate I can't voice my opinion without having a bad name. I'm sorry, I'm not a delicate flower, I've never been one, never will be one.

  Eliza Mae - September 16th, 2014

  
  

  

   

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• catwine member

  

  March 2014

  Personally, I disagree with the idea of banning bossy  (to some degree).  I openly admit that I'm bossy because I think bossy means telling people what to do but not necessarily in a good or leadership way.  Like how I used to order my brothers to clean up their toys when we were kids.  

  
  

  I know some little boys who I would call bossy, too.

  
  

  I think being bossy is essentially the same as being opinionated and both genders have that trait.  

  
  

  Maybe kids today are softer than they were when I was growing up, but being  told I'm bossy didn't have a negative effect on me.  I'm outspoken when I need to be, I'm a leader when I need to be and I'm bossy when I need to be.

  

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• ramstein1027 member

  

  March 2014

  ^^ That's what I meant, I disagree that we should ban a word.  They meant well with the campaign, but it's actually pretty condescending to imply that we can't handle being called a word.  

  
  

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• mana8503 member

  

  March 2014

  I love this commercial.
  
  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kOjNcZvwjxI&feature=youtube_gdata_player

  Eliza Mae - September 16th, 2014

  
  

  

   

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• xxjen015 member

  

  March 2014

  I agree with @christinavy 's statement. I think bossy as a characteristic as she described should still be able to be used, and it shouldn't apply to just girls. Now if it's being used as a double standard (such as in the situation where a woman is in charge and simply due to that fact is being called bossy), whereas a man would just be called a leader, that'a different story and we need to get rid of that connotation. Easier said than done, of course!

  
  

  @mana8503 I love that commercial! It's so true and shows the double standards that so many people are held to. 

   

  
  

  
  
  

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• mana8503 member

  

  March 2014

  This also opened my eyes to how I talk to my stepdaughter. Should be ban a word? No, but I think we need to encourage girls to be independent, to have a brain, and use it.
  
  I focus on how she's doing in school, we read, we play games, and I usually remind her college is an option. She told me once she didn't know girls could go to college/work for the army/be a Mathematician (everything I am) ... I decided then that she needed to be reminded of this whenever we hang out. H agreed and does it too. We tell her, if she wants to go to college we will help her in any way! Where she lives women are housewives, teachers or nurses. We try to let her know the sky is the limit, that she can do whatever she wants.
  
  http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/882510/

  Eliza Mae - September 16th, 2014

  
  

  

   

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