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So sick of co-worker!! PR(not me) Vent

So one of my co-workers got his on again off again GF pregnant. He has been coming to me for 2 weeks now between her MC scare, then them fighting over and abortion or keeping it. On Friday, he ended our discussion with the fact that he is not ready for a kid, and will up leaving his GF if she keeps the baby. After his GF agreed to have an abortion he then got furious that she was doing it because he wanted her to and not because she wanted to. I saw a whole different side of him last week that has labeled him a disgusting person in my book.
All of a sudden yesterday morning he tells me they are keeping the baby to raise it together. My thoughts, my how your mind changes on a day to day basis. All day yesterday he heckled me about getting DH on board so they can be Dad's together. Keep in mind this is after a week of him telling me he doesn't want a kid. I bit my lip and just nodded now all day today he is complaining about how he can't eat anything he is so nervous and anxious about this baby.
Now he may not know about my history with TTC but I swear on EVERYTHING he is about to get kicked so hard in the nuts he won't ever be able to father another child!

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Re: So sick of co-worker!! PR(not me) Vent

  • Ugh I am sorry!  I wouldn't want to listen to that crap either :-(  
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  • I literally just shoved like 30 M&M's into my mouth at once after posting that. I'm too emotional for this guy right now!

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  • What a D Bag

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  • How have you not hit him yet? Oversharing a-shole he is!
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  • keep popping those m&m's ... I wouldn't have the patience for such nonsense. Douche.
  • What an asshole. That sucks. I'm sorry.
  • Wow... so sorry you have to deal with that! 
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  • He sounds like a real prize.
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  • Ugh... so annoying... Can't wait to hear what he decides on tomorrow, douchebag.


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  • I'm literally counting the minutes until DH gets here to pick me up.

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  • Ugh... so annoying... Can't wait to hear what he decides on tomorrow, douchebag.
    This is exactly my thought!!! I'm half expecting them to get in a fight and him to make her agree to an abortion again. I just don't want to be involved and I don't understand who stamped my forward with "Please Share Your PG Drama With Me"

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  • Wow. This is so much worse of a PGR work story than I expected... what a huge D bag! I'm sorry you have to put up with that... 
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  • Wow. What I douche! You have much more self control than I do!
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  • sgautschisgautschi member
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    edited March 2014
    Ugh I'm sorry...I hope he leaves you alone...

    ETA I don't think I could've kept my mouth shut. I'm still shaking my head at the stupidity...ugh!

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  • Ugh, I'm sorry you're dealing with this. I hope you're treating yourself tonight for having to listen to that.

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  • Yeah, I'm harsh and would have called him out to his face, even if he is a coworker. But I guess a swift kick to the balls would work too! I'm sorry you have to put up with the douche bag!

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  • What a prick! You are good, I would have said something or punched him in the balls. Sorry you had to deal with his shit. Good luck tomorrow. We will see where he is on this then. Eew! This is not what I was expecting on this post, this is worse! :( Sorry girl! xo

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  • What a lucky knocked-up GF he has.
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  • This sucks... I would have totally said something.  But I can be emotionally explosive like that when someone ignorantly blabbers on about something that is close to my heart.  Good for you for keeping your composure.  I understand that this is likely a very difficult decision for them, but somehow I don't think a co-worker is the appropriate outlet for weighing that decision.  Sorry that you have to work with this dude Sewilson
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  • I'm glad I'm not alone in this! I've prepared myself for Day 13 of this nonsense with a huge doughnut.

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  • arj14arj14 member
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    Ugh, what a douche!  I would have exploded at him for sure!
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  • Did he "update" you today?
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  • Tell him to shut up already!! Good effing God, do people have no concept of what is and is not appropriate to discuss with coworker?! It's not like he's your best buddy who happens to work with you. 

    Next time he starts up, seriously, tell him to stop talking to you about it. And then tell him you'll complain to HR if he doesn't keep all his personal crap to himself. For all he knows, he could be deeply offending people with all his talk of ditching his pregnant GF or pulling for an abortion.
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  • Sewilson33Sewilson33 member
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    lfk2013 said:
    Did he "update" you today?
    He hasn't mentioned anything besides the fact that he still can't eat or is nauseous. I just nod...

    @luckyangel07 - he really has no idea who he is offending and not for nothing but he is talking to the wrong women at the wrong time. Not like he knows about my IF issues but these issues are JUST being introduced into my life right now and everything makes me cry now so neck time he mentions something he might end up with a sobbing co-worker to deal with.

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