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driving with baby

so I finally met with the babysitter i've been drooling over and she is fantastic!

the only thing she said that gives me pause is that on Friday's they drive to the library.  Its not that far of a drive, but someone driving my baby around gives me anxiety.

she is licensed and insured and has all of her state certifications and my friend that takes her son there has never had any issues.

what are your thoughts on this? I feel like she's safe, its just knowing Bear would be on the road at all that gives me anxiety. what the heck am I going to do when he's really here if i'm already having anxiety!!

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    I think it is great that your kid will get out of the house. I know it is hard to let go of control before he is even here but if you were a sahm, wouldn't you want bear to get out of the house and explore the world?
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  • That's tough. I'm sure the anticipation of it is worse than her actually driving him, but I personally would not be comfortable. I don't even like when other people drive when I'm with A in the car. That's just me though. You may end up having no problem with it.

    I hope no matter what you decide that your anxiety doesn't get the best of you.

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  • Is there any possibility of you not working Fridays?

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  • I could probably work from home on Friday's but she doesn't offer a 4 day a week rate, so i'd have to pay for her to watch him 5 days a week. unless maybe she'd be willing to work with me on this one.

    I think I may need to talk about this a bit more with Ben and see what we can come up with.

  • MRads said:
    I think it is great that your kid will get out of the house. I know it is hard to let go of control before he is even here but if you were a sahm, wouldn't you want bear to get out of the house and explore the world?


    yes and thats actually one of the reasons I like her as a sitter! the kids won't be stuck in the house and will get to explore and learn.

    i'm feeling conflicted about this one thing!

    my sister watches kids (in another state) and she drives them places and that seems okay to me. maybe i'm just being a nervous nelly.

  • I think this might be a FTM/soon to be mom thing. At our first DC, I didn't like the idea of her possibly going in a car with anyone else (however, it would have only been in an emergency). When we switched DCs at 13 months old, Cora started going in the car with our DCP 2-3 times a week. It doesn't even phase me now. I trust her. 
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  • I would definitely be hesitant and it would cause me anxiety but I also think it is a good thing and would try to put my anxieties aside.
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  • DS is 17 months and the only instance that someone else has driven him has been when I was working at the mall and my mom was meeting us there to watch him for a couple hours. He had fallen asleep in the car and she slid in and took my place in the car to drive him around the parking lot until he woke up. That happened maybe twice. I don't trust anyone else to put him in the seat and buckle properly and I don't like the anxiety of worrying about an accident. Nobody else has a car seat for him since nobody has driven him.
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  • Could he go a half day on Fridays? Just stay with you or DH for the morning or afternoon that she goes to the library?

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  • Like @MRads said, if you trust her enough to take care of all of his needs, then taking a car ride occasionally should be no big deal. I think it's great that he'll be able to get out of the house and see/do more with her. My MIL has W half of the week while I'm at work, and she takes him to the park as often as she can. I was nervous at first since she hasn't had a baby in a car for 30 years, but after going over how to strap him into his seat, and I had her show me that she could do it, then I was okay with her taking him. I know it's hard, but it seems like she's a seasoned pro, and I'm sure she wouldn't take any chances that would put Bear into any harm.

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  • thank you everyone for the suggestions and the reassurance!

    I guess I need to look into getting another carseat base for her car?

  • I definitely agree with @MRads

    You will probably need to look for another seat, but that is the question you will have to ask the DCP. Most likely she will need you to leave one with her. 

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  • amccul20 said:

    thank you everyone for the suggestions and the reassurance!

    I guess I need to look into getting another carseat base for her car?

    Yep, if you're using the infant seat, she'll just need an extra base.

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  • amccul20 said:

    thank you everyone for the suggestions and the reassurance!

    I guess I need to look into getting another carseat base for her car?

    The infant car seat bases are a convenience and the car seats can be installed without a base so you don't necessarily need to get another base if you don't want to spend the money. But then you'll want to make sure she knows how to install the infant seat without the base. Since it's only once a week she'll need to be doing this and only for maybe 6-12 mo until he moved to the convertible seat, I'm not sure I'd buy another base.

    Also if you'd prefer her to have a base, I would just give her the one out of my car when I dropped him off that one day. It's not a big deal to have to remove the base once a week.

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  • bobcee said:

    thank you everyone for the suggestions and the reassurance!

    I guess I need to look into getting another carseat base for her car?

    The infant car seat bases are a convenience and the car seats can be installed without a base so you don't necessarily need to get another base if you don't want to spend the money. But then you'll want to make sure she knows how to install the infant seat without the base. Since it's only once a week she'll need to be doing this and only for maybe 6-12 mo until he moved to the convertible seat, I'm not sure I'd buy another base. Also if you'd prefer her to have a base, I would just give her the one out of my car when I dropped him off that one day. It's not a big deal to have to remove the base once a week.

    are they difficult to reinstall though at the end of the day?
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    bobcee said:

    amccul20 said:

    thank you everyone for the suggestions and the reassurance!

    I guess I need to look into getting another carseat base for her car?

    The infant car seat bases are a convenience and the car seats can be installed without a base so you don't necessarily need to get another base if you don't want to spend the money. But then you'll want to make sure she knows how to install the infant seat without the base. Since it's only once a week she'll need to be doing this and only for maybe 6-12 mo until he moved to the convertible seat, I'm not sure I'd buy another base.

    Also if you'd prefer her to have a base, I would just give her the one out of my car when I dropped him off that one day. It's not a big deal to have to remove the base once a week.


    are they difficult to reinstall though at the end of the day?

    No the bases aren't too bad to install, especially if you have a latch system.

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