What is Scaring You??

JLyn821 · March 2014

So I've been thinking about this more and more recently for whatever reason.

Out of everything that is going to happen in the next couple weeks (med-free labor, delivery, becoming a mom, etc.)...the only thing that actually terrifies me is the possibility of my water breaking in public/at work/anywhere except my house. I know the stats are working in my favor that my water won't even break outside of the hospital, but it still freaks the crap out of me. I bought Depends yesterday...but am too vain to even open the package and try them on. Ugh.

What's freaking you out/scaring you?

Moms - - any advice???

sparklingdiamond · March 2014

I have a lot freaking me out right now actually. The whole childbirth thing still scares me and breastfeeding makes me nervous, as well as recovery! I think it's just that it is all new and unknown to me. You are brave for trying med free! I don't think I could do it!

smbenevides1989 · March 2014

In all honosty, the only thing that scared me the first time around was getting the IV. This time around, I'm scared about handling two kids at one time along with setting up routines, work schedules, etc. I'm still afraid of the IV, but definitely not scared of the labor/delivery.

bobcee · March 2014

I was also scared my water would break somewhere it'd be hard to clean up. So much so that I slept on a waterproof pad, and sat on towels on the couch and in my car towards the end. Turns out the first time my water didn't break until after DDs head came out and the second time when I was about 8 cm dilated laying in the hospital bed.

And I agree, that scared me more than the med free births. The thought of possibly needing an epi or c/s also scared me, just because of huge needles, not being able to move freely, people digging around, etc...but luckily I didn't need those either.

But I just kept telling myself, whatever was going to happen was going to happen and I didn't have much control over it so I might as well just go with the flow. That helped me. Also in the moment you realize that you lose all your modesty and really don't care about things like where your water broke for more than maybe the initial shock.

alexisanna44 · March 2014

My dad and sister are leaving Sunday and I'm a bit nervous about handling Lucy and Norah and taking care of the house without the extra help.

wiggyslilsis · March 2014

I am really nervous about Ava Nichol starting preschool soon. Dropping her off and just letting her be with other kids. She has never been around other kids without me there so it freaks me out but that is also why I want to get her in the classes.

fallbrideoct05 · March 2014

The news scares me right now:/. But as far as birth... Tearing was my big fear and my first BM after delivery but I ended up in a c section so didn't end up having to worry about either thing.

fallbrideoct05 · March 2014

My epidural only set up on my left side. They tried redoing it. It still didn't work so they ended up doing a spinal block which was amazing. I ended up with an emergent section due to baby's heart rate but was glad I had the spinal in so I didn't have to get completely knocked out. You just have to go in with the mind set of anything can happen and my ultimate goal was healthy baby, healthy mom. I found my friends who went in with these extensive birth plans ended up disappointed because something didn't go the way they planned. I just went in with an open mind and feel that was helpful for me when making different decisions during labor. Wow that got long.... Sorry!

Lynn0514 · March 2014

I've had a terrible run with The Bump eating my posts lately (typed and lost my birth story twice! I'm apparently a slow learner at hitting the "save" button), but here goes nothing...

I'm a pretty big baby when it comes to all things medical, and I was scared of so many things prior to labor and delivery. My water breaking, getting the IV, the epidural not working, tearing, recovery, etc. But like fallbrideoct05 said, I really tried to go in with an open mind, and an attitude that I would just handle each thing as it came. Some unexpected things happened, like my water breaking outside the hospital, which was no joke. But I didn't feel super unprepared for anything that happened.

And the bonus is that things that would have seemed scary before, don't seem like a big deal now. I used to fear the dentist like no other, but this morning I went to get a cavity filled without a second thought. It's weird, actually.

ETA: Bump issues, once again.

PandPMeant2B · March 2014

The only thing I'm terrified of is not being able to BF. I had surgery about 7 years ago and it made my chances 50/50. I never knew how important BF was to me until I got pregnant. I know it is what it is and there's nothing I can do, but I still think about it a lot.

LittleLady77 · March 2014

I have been terrified of my water breaking! I'm not leaving the house until this is over. The thing that really scares me right now is coming home from the hospital with two infants and no experience. DH and I are going to be such a mess.

ljraff29 · March 2014

I'm hoping to have a med free birth. I worry that I won't be able to handle it and cave to an epi. What scares me is tearing, needing a c-section and not being able tp bf. So much is unchartered territory so I'm going to do my best to take things in stride. Bottom line is a healthy babuy and I'd do whatever it takes to achieve that.

Uptowngirl2009 · March 2014

I'm scared of not being able to breast feed and of having to send LO to daycare so young. I'm also scared about getting an epi...I want the option in case I need it but I have a moderate case of scoliosis and so I'm afraid they won't be able to do it or will screw it up somehow. It doesn't help that my aunt had a really terrifying experience with her epidural with her first son.

MRads · March 2014

My water breaking was such a non event I thought I just peed myself. I know that isn't everybody's experience, but I didn't even get my bed sheets wet.

I took labor and delivery one step at a time. I literally just focused on the contractions as they came. I think that was helpful to keep me calm.

bobcee · March 2014

MRads said:

My water breaking was such a non event I thought I just peed myself. I know that isn't everybody's experience, but I didn't even get my bed sheets wet. I took labor and delivery one step at a time. I literally just focused on the contractions as they came. I think that was helpful to keep me calm.

See, when my water broke it was a huge gush and got all over the hospital bed. Luckily, I was in the hospital bed. I agree though, you can't really plan and it's best just to take things as they come. Deal with the present and what is reality and not what may/can happen. That's basically all you can do.

Lynn0514 · March 2014

bobcee said:

MRads said:

My water breaking was such a non event I thought I just peed myself. I know that isn't everybody's experience, but I didn't even get my bed sheets wet. I took labor and delivery one step at a time. I literally just focused on the contractions as they came. I think that was helpful to keep me calm.

See, when my water broke it was a huge gush and got all over the hospital bed. Luckily, I was in the hospital bed. I agree though, you can't really plan and it's best just to take things as they come. Deal with the present and what is reality and not what may/can happen. That's basically all you can do.

Mine was a huge gush too, and happened when I was literally just laying on the couch. TMI alert: and it kept gushing pretty much throughout labor. Yuck. But I totally agree with you both on the important point - it's best to just take things as they come.

carcrashheart · March 2014

Yeah you gush throughout labor once your water breaks. They put down a big pee pad under you.

Labor and delivery comes in stages, which makes it less overwhelming. You can focus on one part at a time while your body works it's way up to pushing. You don't go from 0-60 in a few minutes.

sgautschi · March 2014

I wasn't really scared of childbirth, even the morning of my induction. Honestly, the excitement and natural maternal instinct take over, or at least it did for me. I was so in the moment the entire time. It just happened, my body took over and it was an amazing experience.

As for breastfeeding, I was nervous it would be weird, but it is such an amazing experience. It makes me so sad for those who are unable to experience it.

The biggest piece of advice I have for moms-to-be is to just go with the flow and trust your body and instincts. You are made for this ladies, you can do it!

bridget0117 · March 2014

I was scared of pooping myself while in labor. When i started pushing I kept asking dh every 2 minutes if I had pooped Lol. I didn't.

I was also scared about giving birth. It's a pretty big freaking deal but after knowing it was really going to happen i tried to relax and the epi really helped with that.

All I can say is, just go with the flow. Things will happen that maybe you didn't plan for but it'll be okay in the end. Go in it with an opened mind and if in the end you can't breastfeed or go med free, whatever the case may be, just know that you tried and that it really will be okay because no matter what, you are doing the best you can for your baby.

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