Would You Move?

ramstein1027 · March 2014

I have been mulling this around in my head for a few days. I have always dreamed about living in Florida or near the ocean, but never thought it would actually happen until I was much older, like retirement age. But now I'm thinking, what's holding us back? We don't have kids, we don't own a home, we can be lawyers anywhere (except taking the extra bar exam would suck)...and my family is thinking of moving down there anyway eventually.

I'm afraid I'd miss things about Indiana (like autumn, for example), but this winter has me re-thinking it. Plus, the allergens suck here.

Would you move out of the state or country? Why or why not? I am curious...

islandmonkey8 · March 2014

I would love to move south or to southern CA. But DH and I probably never will because our family is all here. Damn family.

Otherwise, yes, I would move in a heartbeat!

WillyH19 · March 2014

I moved about 5 years ago. I packed up my car and drove from MI to DC. I had a friend who let me stay on her couch while I looked for a place and a job. I was single, living with my parents (sexy) and working a crappy retail management job. I felt like I had nothing to lose. My family is a less than 2 hour plane ride away or we can get there driving in 1 day, easily. I think it was the best decision I ever made. Plus, it allowed me to meet my H!

brainybrunette · March 2014

H and I just made a big move and it's been a really great decision!

Although we don't have friends or family here, we're just happier here than we were in Upstate NY. We definitely took a risk, but H is so much happier in his job and I know that I'll find a job eventually. Like you, we don't have kids and we didn't own our town house so there was nothing holding us back.

Life's too short to not love where you live.

mrshall1027 · March 2014

I really love where we live, but I've always dreamed of living in Europe. We can't because of the shared custody and our business or else I would seriously push for moving there.

I think if you are unhappy where you are and are willing to take the risk, then do it. If you don't like it, it's not like you can't move back...

minionlover · March 2014

DH and I seriously thought about moving to West Palm Beach when we were there for our wedding. He even applied to a job down there. The problem for us was that the starting salary for his job would have been about $12k less than what he made here and I would be without a job.

I think that if the salary was more we would have moved there. It is definitely a hard decision but I think that it is easier to do now than when you have kids.

ETA: I would move to Austin in a heartbeat if there was a great opportunity there. I LOVE it there.

catwine · March 2014

We own our house and H has a good job here so we wouldn't move now. We would consider moving if he got an even better job somewhere else, but it would be hard to leave our house because we bought it less than 2 years ago.

I wouldn't leave Canada and there are cons to every other province besides Ontario (as far as I'm concerned)...like the Maritime provinces for example: some older cities still dump sewage into the ocean!

I'd say it's worth it for you guys to move, Evan. You could always come back for the fall season to visit family adn stuff.

goatlady12 · March 2014

I always wanted to move to where it never snowed. I had big dreams when I was younger, but then got too comfortable. DH and I would like to retire somewhere warm, no one wants to shovel snow in their 60s!

My sister lived in Florida for 5 years. In that time they ended up broke. She and BIL moved back home and doubled both of their incomes doing the same job. Kind of scared me out of moving without a solid plan!

LDubHawksFan · March 2014

I made the big move solo after college from IA to southern Cali and it has been great. I ended up meeting DH here. I miss my family, but we go back a few times a year, and he is from here, so we do have at least part of our family close.

I would say to go for it if you both want to. I would never move without a job, but if you are serious, take the next few months to figure out which area you like and start applying.

mrshall1027 · March 2014

Cathyl7910 said:

DH and I seriously thought about moving to West Palm Beach when we were there for our wedding. He even applied to a job down there. The problem for us was that the starting salary for his job would have been about $12k less than what he made here and I would be without a job. I think that if the salary was more we would have moved there. It is definitely a hard decision but I think that it is easier to do now than when you have kids. ETA: I would move to Austin in a heartbeat if there was a great opportunity there. I LOVE it there.

Move to Austin!!

PattySmith101 · March 2014

So funny because around the 500th snowstorm this year ... I was trying to convince dh to move to key west!!! We dont have kids or a house and we both have crappy jobs! Lol one of our coworkers daughter lives there ( shes about our age) she works at southern most point resort and could have gotten us both jobs there with benefits and full health/ dental etc... and I said whats the worst that can happen if we dont like it we move back! I almost had him convinced! I would like to live everywhere- dh doesnt like change and our families are both here- so it looks like we are staying

pengy16 · March 2014

I had a job offer to go to Georgia last year. I almost took it. H is a trucker so all he has to do is call his company and tell them his new location and he has work. The only reason I turned it down was because of my mom's heath which turned out to be a good decision since I was slated to move down there in August and my mom passed away in September.

pockysquirrel · March 2014

H and I have thought a lot about moving to Georgia. There's work for both of us down there - although I would have to reapply for my social work license - and the cost of living is SO much lower than in NY. Plus we have some family and friends who live there. But, both sets of parents live up here. We're not too keen on leaving them since they're getting older and all. Plus when and if we have kids, we'd prefer to have the grandparents close by. And beyond that, I think it's all just inertia on our part. We've both lived in the same place our whole lives, and it would be a BIG change.

xxjen015 · March 2014

We would both be willing, I think. We would have moved to Atlanta if he'd continued the interview process and got that job, but he was offered his current position instead. It would all depend on salary, cost of living, etc., but we'd both consider it!

ramstein1027 · March 2014

PattySmith101 said:

So funny because around the 500th snowstorm this year ... I was trying to convince dh to move to key west!!! We dont have kids or a house and we both have crappy jobs! Lol one of our coworkers daughter lives there ( shes about our age) she works at southern most point resort and could have gotten us both jobs there with benefits and full health/ dental etc... and I said whats the worst that can happen if we dont like it we move back! I almost had him convinced! I would like to live everywhere- dh doesnt like change and our families are both here- so it looks like we are staying

We LOVE key west and we ALWAYS stay at the southernmost hotel. I would move down there but I don't think there is a huge need for attorneys, lol. It's a tiny island and I know they already have a few bc I've seen their offices. If we didn't have student loans I wouldn't mind taking a lower paying job, but we're kind of locked in by that : (

My dream is to write full-time from home, so if I ever make enough to live down there, Key West is where we will end up

sjs1013 · March 2014

If you really want to go, now is the time. You don't have anything, but a job, tying you down. Would you be ok being so far from family?

I know the Bar is not an easy exam, but you passed once, and now you have experience under your belt, I am sure you could pass another exam. I know a girl who is definitely not the brightest crayon in the box. She passed NY and NJ on her first attempt and took them on consecutive days.

If you're considering moving, take the Bar before quitting any job and moving. You probably couldn't get a job without passing the state's bar exam, right?

I could never move. I am a New Yorker, through and through. H is too, although he says he would leave in a heartbeat. Anywhere I moved, I would take a minimum of a 50% salary cut. I couldn't afford that. I know housing is cheaper elsewhere, but food and other items are the same or more.

mana8503 · March 2014

If there were jobs in NC I would move in a heart beat. The area H grew there is nothing. I could probably get another govt position but we would still be hours away from the kids. We seriously talked about it, for about a year. It just wasn't a good idea. If H were down there he'd have to be an over the road trucker so we would see each other daily, and he said at the time, he needed 500 miles between him and his ex. Mind you, at that point, she was trying her best to get him back (this kept up until the night before our wedding).

So that's when we built our house here. We are close to my parents but I honestly think they would move of we did. My dad is also from NC.

I always say if we win the lottery we would move down.

ramstein1027 · April 2014

@sjs1013 I would miss my family, but they are all moving down within the next couple of years I think. A few cousins already moved down, then my aunt and uncle and grandma are going, and then my parents. So in the long run I think I would only be missing them for a year or two. And thank you for the vote of confidence on the bar exam!

I think I would try to find another writing job, since that's kind of what I do now, but I might take the bar. I don't really fit in in the legal world...I'm probably too nice/a pushover, but it's also because I love being creative and you don't get a lot of chances to do that as an attorney. Now H is 100% lawyer, he would definitely have to take the bar. The tricky thing is that it's only offered in July and February, and it's way too late to study for July (we studied 60+ hours a week for 3 months for the first one...yuck!) but February seems soooo far away!

We do have a friend from law school who says he can get H a job (not that I'm relying on that, but we do have at least 1 person to network with down there) for double what he makes now. Firms down there just pay more in general, so that's another thing to consider.

I love Indiana and I'm proud to be from here, but I don't want to look back one day and wish I had given Florida a shot. I miss the ocean, I love to fish, and my asthma and allergies are wayy better down there.

Agh, decisions, decisions!!

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