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Randoms/vents/confessions
It's a rainy, dreary hump day....anyone have anything they want to share? let's get some posts going this morning!!
My vent is this: I really need to just be done reading all of these parenting articles. I don't seek them out, but I can't seem to help but click on them when they're reposted a thousand times on facebook. You should play with your kids more, they're only little once! No, parents aren't entertainers, let them play by themselves!! You're all going to get sick because you eat GMOs, corn syrup, and whatever other terrible food choices are out there everyday! No, organic doesn't matter, it's all just a ruse.
It's exhausting. I'm cutting myself off.
My vent is this: I really need to just be done reading all of these parenting articles. I don't seek them out, but I can't seem to help but click on them when they're reposted a thousand times on facebook. You should play with your kids more, they're only little once! No, parents aren't entertainers, let them play by themselves!! You're all going to get sick because you eat GMOs, corn syrup, and whatever other terrible food choices are out there everyday! No, organic doesn't matter, it's all just a ruse.
It's exhausting. I'm cutting myself off.
Re: Randoms/vents/confessions
I always like the stories about 'do what makes you happy!' and 'life is short - do what you want!'. If only my mortgage company and utilities would be on board with me sitting around reading all day:-/
Emmy, I feel the same way! The articles are rarely even helpful, they either scare me or make me feel like I am doing everything wrong. I saw a clip of Jerry Seinfeld recently, where he was talking about parenting and said something like "We're just too into it!" and I thought that was spot on. I really think this generation of parents needs to dial it back.
And Gwen, I feel the same way too! Although to be honest, I have no idea what I'd want to do! Maybe if I was inspired by something I'd be more willing to take a risk? I always try to remember that life is short, but sometimes responsibility gets in the way.
My right shoulder/arm area hurts. I blame work ergonomics. Cause it was sore last week, fine over the weekend and sore again yesterday.
I also ignore parenting articles, especially anything that comes from a blog. Cause bloggers =/= science. I do what is best for my family. and trust myself in parenting EJ the best way for her.
I have my exit interview today. Not looking forward to it - I just want it to be over!
Random: We won the soccer weather lottery this week. The kids' first soccer practice was last night and the weather was awesome! Doesn't look like the rest of the teams will be so lucky.
I have to admit that the story about the drowning has thrown me for a loop. Maybe its close to where I live so I feel like someone I know must know them, but I can't get those kids out of my head.
I'm at wits end with Eamon and his tantrums. I feel like I spend most of my little time at home with him screaming and me trying to figure out whether I'm doing the right thing and picking the right battles. Its sad when you are only home from 6 pm - 8 am and you can't wait to get in the office. I seriously don't remember the girls being this bad.
How time flies! Caileigh (9), Keira (6) & Eamon (3)
I completely agree about the parenting articles and the chemicals in plastic, shampoo, fabreez...we're all going to die! It's exhausting.
I am throwing the diaper pail out tomorrow and it feels so good! My youngest has been potty trained for a year but up until last month would only poop in her bed in a pull up. She finally broke that habit and stays dry all night! I normally hold on to all the baby stuff for dear life but I will be doing a happy dance when that diaper pain goes into the garbage truck.
I rarely read those articles too - who has time? I'm too busy as a parent as it is to have a few moments to read about how I should be doing more! Which is exactly why I'm not on Pintrest....
My vent is that I'm over being pregnant. I seriously didn't realize how hard it would be having 2 kids, working full time, and growing someone else's baby at 40. I'm tired of having zero energy, my right arm & hand is completly numb 90% of the time thanks to lax joints and pinched nerves, and my digestive issues are at times debilitating.
My second vent is that I'm tired of being the only person who cares / does their job right in my group. Because of this & doing things effectively and efficiently, I get to clean up other peoples' messes. Wow - thanks. As if I didn't do that at home most of the time....
I'd also like to confess that I hope it rains Noah's arc-esque levels of rain in the next few days so soccer practice and Sat's game is cancelled. These extra activities just aren't working this week with eveyrthing else.
That makes me even sadder. I hope he was just in pure shock and couldn't react. I can't imagine.
I wondered if you were a surrogate from your post the other day - wow what a blessing you are giving to some lucky couple! Hang in there, being pregnant with 2 already at 40 is not fun!
How time flies! Caileigh (9), Keira (6) & Eamon (3)
I thought you were reading my brain when you wrote this. I just told a teammate yesterday that I am really tired of holding other people's hands. Especially when they are 3 levels higher than me and making more $. I'm running circles around them with projects and working tons of overtime. My other colleague and I think that it might be because of our working remote that we are expected to take on more and do more - I also think it's because our boss knows our work ethic. I'm just plain exhausted and am taking a comp vacation day tomorrow bc of it.
Sheila - I'm physically out of state now, but I'm also strangely affected by that news. Probably because of being the same age as the Mom, having lived in that area for so long, and then having worked at the hospital and dealing with the PR side of another child situation... it's so, so sad and makes you question faith and humanity.
My confession is that Sean accidentally dumped his container of food (pancakes) this morning on the daycare hall floor and I just scooped it up, said "5-sec rule" and brushed it off. All in front of the director (who also has 3 kids and just laughed). The kid is already on his 3rd antibiotic in 6 weeks, so I figure that will take care of any germs!
I'm already tired of house hunting. It's only been 3 weeks. The market down here is ridiculous and houses go under contract within days, or even 1 day, of going on the market. And some of these houses are 30 yrs old and original owner and decor, so they need a lot of TLC. I came to the conclusion last night that we may have to go just across the border of the county to get something newer in our price range - I'm ok with that, except it puts us in a different school district which is not as top notch as the one we are in. Granted, this won't affect us for another 7yrs when we switch to public high school and this other school district is newer and growing, so it can only get better, right?
First world problems.
My three sons!
I'll be honest, this is really bothersome. Your friend should not be disclosing that information to anyone. Isn't that a violiation of patient confidentiality? We should not be making assumptions about the father's reaction. Maybe he wasn't caring, but maybe he was in a state of shock that his wife just drowned two of his children. None of us know what was going on with that family. I can't even fathom my reaction if my spouse tried to kill my children, but I would hope that the people responsible for my family's care wouldn't judge my reaction and spread it around to others. She should have kept the details to herself, if not out of decency, then at least out of professionalism. It's upsetting to know that a health professional would discuss something like this.
Regardless of the circumstances, my heart goes out to that family. It must be incredibly lonely and scary to have to deal with mental illness, where our mental health system is lacking and our society doesn't bother to undersand. Mostly, my heart breaks for those children.
Their pastor was interviewed and said that he knew that the family had concerns about her, and that they were handling in "ways that seemed appropriate to them". She was clearly not getting the help she needed.
I thought her parents stayed with her during the day while the husband was at work - her mom had dementia, and her dad stepped out to run an errand at the time of the incident? It's hard to confirm what is fact/rumor at this point though.
To the kids, they had to be fascinated by the helicopter and the fire truck. I know the director and a lot of the staff over there - I'm sure most knew nothing until they got home last night (outside of the director - and even then, I doubt she knew in "real-time"). They're a fabulous facility.
We just have to keep everyone involved in our thoughts and prayers. From the EMTs and police and first responders, to the hospital health providers and the rest of the staff, to the neighbors and teachers and friends, and to the family.
And I agree with everyone else about the state of mental health in this country. Like so many other aspects of healthcare, the system is broken and letting people down no matter your race, color, ethnicity, etc.
And then there is pride and the stigma latched onto mental health that needs to be overcome. And the fear to "get involved" because it's "none of my business".
In the end, it's not my job to judge anything else but our broken system.
My three sons!
Along the same lines as the health care providers, I think its very unprofessional for their Pastor to discuss this family with the press. Police are one thing, press are another. I would be pissed if my Pastor talked about a time when we sought his help and support to the press. And worse that he makes it seem like the previous accident was not an accident in one article. Regardless if it wasn't, he doesn't need to comment on it.
How time flies! Caileigh (9), Keira (6) & Eamon (3)
I agree, but I thought he was the spokesperson for the family?Along the same lines as the health care providers, I think its very unprofessional for their Pastor to discuss this family with the press. Police are one thing, press are another. I would be pissed if my Pastor talked about a time when we sought his help and support to the press. And worse that he makes it seem like the previous accident was not an accident in one article. Regardless if it
wasn't, he doesn't need to comment on it.