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njbride0603 · April 2014

So you find out your husband has a profile on a social networking site called Skout and is posing as a single guy seeking women...what do you do?

jtmh2012 · April 2014

Find an attorney....

buttercup1958 · April 2014

Yeah time to protect your assets, get a great attorney and serve him with papers.

TarponMonoxide · April 2014

njbride0603 said:

So you find out your husband has a profile on a social networking site called Skout and is posing as a single guy seeking women...what do you do?

Boot the bum and slam the door behind him.

I'd wonder also where else he's trowling for women; I've never heard of Skout.

OP: if this is your H, serious thought to saying goodbye to him. You have small kids? All the more reason why he needs to go: this is not a healthy home environment for them.

They will pick up that something is wrong; kids are sharp as nails --- they'll know something isn't right between their parents.

Kids need strong figures that show them actively what a good relationship is like; they need a man to show them how to treat a woman the right way: with respect and with love.

Protect your assets; put your assets into an account he knows nothing of.

Get your finances ready and see an attorney. And when all of that is done, file and don't look back.

cloudymeatballs · April 2014

Kick his ass...

cloudymeatballs · April 2014

No but really, I would leave. Whether he has or has not cheated, he is trying to. I would be livid. I really would leave or kick him out. Wtf is with these men out searching for women when they are married? I mean, if they are unhappy then they should talk to you about the problem. I would really get the hell out and never look back... Sorry for this girl. That really sucks

Kimbus22 · April 2014

I'd get an STD test, an attorney, and a therapist.

jennifermcnatt · April 2014

I am sorry! Would look at divorce or martial counseling.

blondii428 · April 2014

Most definitely confront him and seek counseling. My ex did something very similar and we ended up parting ways shortly after (for many reasons--this was just icing on the cake).

TarponMonoxide · April 2014

No decent happily married man signs up for accounts on dating websites.

Sorry for your troubles.

Tofumonkey · April 2014

I don't know. If it were my husband I would be upset, but I would at first assume it was a joke or something he did out of boredom to 'see what would happen'.

But that's my relationship - and we're pretty chilled out and secure in our marriage.

(famous last words, right?)

Erikan73 · April 2014

I went & looked up what Skout is because I hadn't heard of it before. It looks like it's a cross between Facebook and Linkedin. According their information they help to introduce you to people in your area with similar intersts to help develop friendships & networking. Now of course I'm sure more can develop then that. Any chance your husband is into a new sport and is trying to find other people who are into the same sport or is he looking for a job & looking for another avenue to find people in his field to develop networks? Also any chance that he just blew through the profile and didn't realize he didn't put the correct marital status? I know...I'm looking for the silver lining. But personally I wouldn't want to end a marriage unless I was 100% sure about what is going on. If I were in your shoes I would probably do one of two things. The first which isn't very honest is to create a fake profile and try to friend him & see where it goes. The second (and more honest approach) would be to confront him when you are alone that you found out he has this profile & ask him why he has a profile on this site. If he says it's to meet friends that are into an activity he likes or for networking ask him if you can see his profile & the site because you've never heard of it before and your curious. Then you can mention the marital status thing as you are looking at it with him. Because if he is on it for innocent reasons, he should have no problems with showing you his page & messages that he's received. If he is on this site for other reasons, then he probably won't want to show you that page and I think opens the door then for you to talk about any issues there are and why is he on this site. Then you can figure out where you want to go from there. I know this doesn't look good for him, but before calling a divorce lawyer, I think you should talk to him.

nyc artist · May 2014

I would talk to him about it before calling a lawyer etc. How did you find out about this, anyway? Just curious.

I've thought of putting up a fake profile on a dating site at times, just for the sake of knowing what that world is like. I met my DH the old fashioned way and never did online dating. Honestly I have so many single friends who are on there and it's just a curiosity thing like, I wonder what kind of people are on there, and if I would get hit on? (Admittedly an ego thing) I would never ever EVER act on anything, and have no desire to look for men outside of my relationship. I'm very happy w my DH, but it's sort of a curiosity as to what happens on these sites. For entertainment purposes only and to get a better idea of what my single friends go through. I'll say even though it's crossed my mind, I haven't actually made any accounts like this.

Maybe your DH was just wondering about the same things. If he would get attention from women. Not saying he'd act on it, but maybe he's feeling insecure and looking for a little ego boost?

shiningcrystal · June 2014

You can post as a singel woman on that platform.

LizzyRB · June 2014

Totally agree with Erikan73... It looks more like a networking site than a dating site. I was also going to say maybe he skipped over the marital status thing. Talk to him before you go packing your bags and try your best to approach it with an open mind. Especially if he has never given you reason before to question him.

pmontgomery87 · June 2014

I agree with Erikan73. I would have a conversation with him first and see where that leads. If he has no issues being open with you about this site and people that he has talked to through it, then I would say its harmless. If not, then you need to think about whats best for you and your children. Trust him until you find out he has given you a reason not to.

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