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What would you (and DH) do if either of you lost a wedding ring?
So, DH is in Florida on a guys golf weekend. DH and I also have lost a bit of weight recently and he noticed his wedding ring would spin around on his finger but has never fallen off. Neither he nor I take off our rings....ever (I do if I'm doing a sterile procedure). We leave them on in the shower, at night, beach, etc and have never had an issue (I did have to scour through large bags of medical waste because one of my rings came off in a glove one time).
Anyway, DH was in the ocean yesterday in Naples and lost his ring the first 5 minutes in the water (I'm presuming the shrinkitude from a slightly cool water temp).
He's devastated...before calling me, he and the guys searched for 3+ hours. He already had looked up the company for the rings to make sure they still had the same one and had called the priest that married us to see if he could bless our rings over the phone.
I understand a ring is just a symbol (yes, I would love to have had the same ones, but it's lost and likely never to be recovered unless by some miracle) and I'd rather have a strong marriage than a wedding ring. DH thought I'd be angry but I'm not. Accidents happen...that's why we have separate insurance policies on our rings....I just told DH that he buys himself some new bling in the form of a new ring and either I'm buying myself some pretty bling or we'll have to go back to our honeymoon spot and renew our vows....
So, have you ever lost your wedding ring or has DH lost his?
How would you react if you lost your ring or DH lost his?
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Re: What would you (and DH) do if either of you lost a wedding ring?
Jake - 1.15.08
Liam - 5.17.11
I'd be really upset if I lost my e-ring but not as much with my wedding ring. Last year one of my wedding ring diamonds fell out and I didn't notice so I lost that and had to be replaced.
I think you have the right attitude, sad but not angry.
I would be more upset to lose my engagement ring, personally. All three of our rings are antiques and technically irreplaceable, but the e-ring has the most memories attached to it and is very "me". The wedding bands are very simple designs.
DH lost his about 4 years ago. He was upset about it, but it didn't bother me. His ring was just plain white gold or platinum (I can't even remember!) so we didn't have it insured. We haven't replaced it. I'm sure we will someday but now that DH has RA, it would probably be difficult for him to wear a ring. It really bothers him though, so I will probably surprise him with a new one for an anniversary. I honestly don't care either way...ring or no ring, we're married. My lack of reaction towards the loss of his ring balances out the meltdown I would have if I ever lost my ring!
DH has lost 3 rings in the past 7 years. He lost his original band within months of us being married. I was a little upset about that one because it was the one I bought him especially for our wedding - but in the grand scheme of things, it wasn't a huge deal. One of the reasons I bought him a less expensive, more indestructible ring for the wedding was because I know that he often destroys/loses things.
He went and bought the replacement because he knew I would be upset. He also bought the next replacement. He can't really wear jewelry in his line of work though, so we've never replaced the 3rd one.
I would also be in the sad but not mad camp (so long as it wasn't from being stupid.) It is a symbol of our vows, and I love when DH wears it (he usually does!) because it is a sign to the whole world that he chose me. But it is just a sign. We're no less married when he takes it off. If he lost it I would likely get him a new one for an anniversary or something.
And, as an aside, I know of a pastor who would gladly travel to any tropical destination to renew some vows.
DH lost his ring about a year into our marriage, he was a tree climber and he wore it religiously, despite his job. I was sad, but not upset as it wasn't anything fancy. We ended up buying a replacement ring (around $200) and then for our 2nd anniversary, I think, I bought him a really nice band that he wears for Church and nice occasions.
I never felt the need to buy myself something, though, as a sort of consolation to myself I guess. Granted, we don't have the money for that either!
My three sons!
About 3 months later hubby surprised me with a new (upgraded) ring. The new rings are beautiful and still symbolize the same thing my first set did so I'm kind of ok with it all now looking back. But every once and while I still do get upset... I was 21 when I got those rings. I grew up wearing them. It's a little bittersweet without them.
How time flies! Caileigh (9), Keira (6) & Eamon (3)