not excited for best friend's wedding (vent)

bpphoto785 · April 2014

Remember a while back when I vented about a shower invite? Well that shower is this weekend and I'm not excited to go.

But she's one of your best friends, why aren't you excited? Well I'm glad you asked.

Through her wedding website, I just learned that we're not invited to her actual ceremony, just the reception. A friend of ours did this a few years ago and the bride-to-be was PISSED, but now that it's her wedding I guess it's okay. I really don't understand why people do this. I go to a wedding to see the couple get married. That's the whole point. The party after is nice, but that's not what it's about. If you don't want people to watch you get married elope and have a party after, but don't invite family to an intimate ceremony and then everyone else to the party.

I hate that one of my best friends is getting married and I'm not excited for her.

Also, her invite has no date for the RSVPs... good luck with that.

OK. My vent is over. Thank you all for listening :-)

mancila60 · April 2014

Wow! I don't understand wedding etiquette these days. It seems like when we got married (it was forever ago) that if you didn't follow etiquette you would be crucified. Yet now it's like whatever you do that isn't normal or is just tacky then you are praised for it. I just don't get it! I wouldn't be excited either.

mildlymailyn · April 2014

I also love weddings to, you know, see the actual wedding. In fact, I care less for the reception when I surrounded by people I probably don't know and I am expected to socialize... awkward. At least let me talk about how gorgeous your ceremony was or how the groom teared up when the bride walked down the aisle or how the bride cried when she was reading her vows.

I am sorry you have to go through this. I agree with @mancila60, we were crucified for etiquette mistakes and now people are applauded for taking risks!!! I remember how annoyed I was when my cousin's registry info was included in the wedding invitation.