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NIAW

DH and I have decided to come out about our struggle to everyone and Facebook, tomorrow.

I know I want to link Resolve's 25 things to say and not to say to someone with infertility. I also want to change my profile picture and cover image.

I'm not photoshop friendly. I would love to do something about eggs for Easter and my eggs not working right since tomorrow is also Easter. I would love some insight and ideas from you wonderful women. If any of you are photoshop friendly and could make something I could share I would love that too.

Is anyone else coming out tomorrow or this week? If so, how?

I know there are a few ladies on here who share every year on this week. How did you ladies come out initially to social media?

Thank you all in advance. I'm both excited and nervous about what tomorrow may bring.
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TTC 24 months, IUI #3 BFP 6/4/14 Beta 6/5 58, 6/9 508, 6/11 1227 TWINS! EDD 2/15/15
With heavy hearts, we said goodbye to our precious angels on 8/12 at 13 weeks 2 days.
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IVF #1 Lup/Brav/Meno, ER 11/28 10R/10F, ET "Rudolph" 4AA embryo 12/3, 7 frosties.
BFP! Betas: 12/12 225, 12/15 706, 12/17 1512. EDD 8.21.15
12/29 hb 120. 1/5 perfect, GRAD DAY! 1/15 perfect at OB. NT 2/6 PERFECT, HB 158!

Baby Girl born 8.9.15 at 38.2 due to IUGR 4lb7.8oz 17" 
Our princess is being watched over by her older siblings every day <3
Anniversary 

Re: NIAW

  • I posted this last year, and changed my cover photo to this:

    It is National Infertility Awareness Week. Infertility affects 7.3 million people in the U.S, which represents 12% of women of childbearing age, or 1 in 8 couples. This means, chances are you know someone struggling with infertility (whether they are open about it or not). Please be mindful of this painful struggle and don't throw out glib cliches. If you would like some great information about infertility and the delicate etiquette it can require, definitely check out http://www.resolve.org/support-and-services/for-family--friends/infertility-etiquette.html

    ...hello out there!
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    dx with anovulatory PCOS 2005
    off bcp 11/11
    a few rounds of clomid and femara... no response.
    injectables/IUI 12/12... BFN
    Feb 13 IVF cycle converted down to IUI due to low follicle response... BFFN
    one last IVF attempt April/May 2013: 19 retrieved. 10 fertilized. 2 transferred in a 3dt. 4 frosties... BFP!!
    EDD: 1/21/14... Induced early at 36+6. Our LO was born 12/30/13
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  • I hope you find the perfect way to post and that you receive a wonderful response IM.

    Poppies, I love what you're writing, but not that you have to write it. :(
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    Daisypath Anniversary tickers
    TTC since July 2012
    BFP #1: 11/9/13; spontaneous m/c at 6w2d, 11/25/13
    BFP #2: 12/31/13. B/w 12/31: betas >1000, progesterone 13.6; B/w 1/2: betas 3065, progesterone 10.2
    B/w 1/8: betas 17,345, progesterone 25.6
    Progesterone suppositories started 1/2. Please stick, baby!!
    Fiona Elise born 9/9/14 - welcome beautiful girl!
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  • I post things much like the other ladies have posted above.  We never really came out, we were just always verbal about infertility. 

    Good luck.  I hope you find the support, in real life, that you deserve :)
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    TTC Since January 2011 - We have bad sperm 
    February 2013: IUI #1 = BFN 
    October 2013: We made the decision to stop TTC and live without children.

    Nestie Besties with Xan921 
  • @islandmonkey8 - I am posting around noon! I am thinking of you today and sending courage and warmth to you and DH.
    TTC #1 since Feb. '12. dx: "unexplained" IF
    After 2 shitty IVF cycles and 1 loss at 6+2 (EDD 11/7/14), DH and I are pursuing DIA.
    11/17/2014 - ACTIVE AND WAITING!
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    Pregnancy was never the end goal; being a mom was.
    I've been holding out on GP: I got drunk once and started a blog: Here it is (11/7 update)
    3T<3

  • Thank you! Same to you, @poppies717. I'm still tweaking what I want to post, but hope to post soon.

    We told my SIL in person last night because DH and I are pretty close with her and didn't want her to find out via FB. I'm happy to report she said nothing offensive, just a simple "I don't know what to say, that isn't something I can understand." I'm hoping our posting to "the world" today with some information will help everyone understand more.
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    TTC 24 months, IUI #3 BFP 6/4/14 Beta 6/5 58, 6/9 508, 6/11 1227 TWINS! EDD 2/15/15
    With heavy hearts, we said goodbye to our precious angels on 8/12 at 13 weeks 2 days.
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    IVF #1 Lup/Brav/Meno, ER 11/28 10R/10F, ET "Rudolph" 4AA embryo 12/3, 7 frosties.
    BFP! Betas: 12/12 225, 12/15 706, 12/17 1512. EDD 8.21.15
    12/29 hb 120. 1/5 perfect, GRAD DAY! 1/15 perfect at OB. NT 2/6 PERFECT, HB 158!

    Baby Girl born 8.9.15 at 38.2 due to IUGR 4lb7.8oz 17" 
    Our princess is being watched over by her older siblings every day <3
    Anniversary 

  • You are all amazing ladies & so brave. My thoughts & prayers are with you.
    DX: 6/2012 PCOS  TTC: 6/2013  BFP: 9/6/2013  Attempt Natural m/c: 10/29/2013 D&C: 2/20/2014
    BFP 2: 7/7/2014 Beta 7/8: 115, Beta 7/12: 638, Beta 7/16: 3793, Beta 7/21: 21,625

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  • Us too @poppies717! ::gulp::
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    TTC 24 months, IUI #3 BFP 6/4/14 Beta 6/5 58, 6/9 508, 6/11 1227 TWINS! EDD 2/15/15
    With heavy hearts, we said goodbye to our precious angels on 8/12 at 13 weeks 2 days.
    image
    IVF #1 Lup/Brav/Meno, ER 11/28 10R/10F, ET "Rudolph" 4AA embryo 12/3, 7 frosties.
    BFP! Betas: 12/12 225, 12/15 706, 12/17 1512. EDD 8.21.15
    12/29 hb 120. 1/5 perfect, GRAD DAY! 1/15 perfect at OB. NT 2/6 PERFECT, HB 158!

    Baby Girl born 8.9.15 at 38.2 due to IUGR 4lb7.8oz 17" 
    Our princess is being watched over by her older siblings every day <3
    Anniversary 

  • I will send poop to any negative people!
    DX: 6/2012 PCOS  TTC: 6/2013  BFP: 9/6/2013  Attempt Natural m/c: 10/29/2013 D&C: 2/20/2014
    BFP 2: 7/7/2014 Beta 7/8: 115, Beta 7/12: 638, Beta 7/16: 3793, Beta 7/21: 21,625

    Pregnancy Ticker
  • I love you all and poppies I may steal your post! I love it!

    Cheering on all of my 3T ladies!  DX with PCOS - 11/2012 DH S/A & HSG - Normal - Too many rounds of Clomid = BFNs - New RE 5/2014 - Repeat Testing - Losing 40lbs before injects/IUI



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  • I'm debating on stealing all of @poppies717's posts in one way or another!
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    TTC 24 months, IUI #3 BFP 6/4/14 Beta 6/5 58, 6/9 508, 6/11 1227 TWINS! EDD 2/15/15
    With heavy hearts, we said goodbye to our precious angels on 8/12 at 13 weeks 2 days.
    image
    IVF #1 Lup/Brav/Meno, ER 11/28 10R/10F, ET "Rudolph" 4AA embryo 12/3, 7 frosties.
    BFP! Betas: 12/12 225, 12/15 706, 12/17 1512. EDD 8.21.15
    12/29 hb 120. 1/5 perfect, GRAD DAY! 1/15 perfect at OB. NT 2/6 PERFECT, HB 158!

    Baby Girl born 8.9.15 at 38.2 due to IUGR 4lb7.8oz 17" 
    Our princess is being watched over by her older siblings every day <3
    Anniversary 

  • Oh my gosh Poppies.  I can't help but absolutely love that blog post.  Thank you!  Yesterday was a bad day in my IF world, and I vented to my co-worker.  She kept saying of how she can't even imagine the things running through my head right now and how I can keep it together. I think I'm going to send her this blog post.  Thank you!

    TTC since 1/13  DX:PCOS 5/13 (long, anovulatory cycles)
    Clomid 50mg 9/13 = BFP! EDD 6/7/14 M/C 5w6d Found 11/4/13
    1/14 PCOS / Gluten Free Diet to hopefully regulate my system. 
    Chemical Pregnancy 03/14
    Surprise BFP 6/14, Beta #1: 126 Beta #2: 340  Stick baby, stick! EDD 2/17/15
    Riley Elaine born 2/16/15

    TTC 2.0   6/15 
    Chemical Pregnancy 9/15 
    Chemical Pregnancy 6/16
    BFP 9/16  EDD 6/3/17
    Beta #1: 145 Beta #2: 376 Beta #3: 2,225 Beta #4: 4,548
    www.5yearstonever.blogspot.com 
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  • Thanks for sharing that Poppies.

    I'll be honest. I've often had trouble relating to a lot of common 3T emotions because I feel like our journey was different. My husband and I went into our marriage knowing that there was a very strong possibility that IF treatment was in our future. I never had to grieve the loss of that "normalcy" because it's not something I ever really had to begin with, so it wasn't mine to lose.

    So thank you for sharing this post. I appreciate getting to read that perspective.





    dx:  Unexplained IF (mild MFI)

     TTC since May 2011, 1 year trying, and then 3 TI, 2 IUI = BFN

    IVF #1 (May 2013):  Antagonist Protocol: 
    24R, 18M, 15F w/ICSI; 5dt of 2 early blasts, no frosties = BFN
    IVF #2 (August 2013):  Lupron Stop Protocol: 
    28R, 23M, 15F w/ICSI; 5dt of 1 partially hatched blast, 7 frosties = BFP
    EDD 5/23/14, blighted ovum (6w6d), D&C (8w6d)
    FET #1 (April 2014):  transferred 2 5d blasts = BFP

    C.J. born 01/09/15

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  • Today:

    One of the greatest things about being semi-open about our struggles in the past has been everyone who has supported us. Friends and family have rallied around us to cheer us on and listen when we need to vent. Not every struggling couple is as lucky as we are, and even I have heard every single one of these comments/bits of advice. What couples who are going through fertility treatments need more than ever is to have someone who will listen and grieve with them, not someone who will tell them this just isn't in God's plan.

    Infertility is a medical condition. No amount of relaxing will help. No, a vacation doesn't work either. None of these were in the brochure from our RE; trust me, they would be if they actually worked. Keep these in mind if someone opens up to you, or just enjoy a horrified laugh at some of these. Resolve to Know More this NIAW: http://www.blogher.com/10-things-not-say-your-infertile-friend


    TTC #1 since Feb. '12. dx: "unexplained" IF
    After 2 shitty IVF cycles and 1 loss at 6+2 (EDD 11/7/14), DH and I are pursuing DIA.
    11/17/2014 - ACTIVE AND WAITING!
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    Pregnancy was never the end goal; being a mom was.
    I've been holding out on GP: I got drunk once and started a blog: Here it is (11/7 update)
    3T<3

  • @poppies717 I just noticed your blog link.  I'll be heading off to read now :)





    dx:  Unexplained IF (mild MFI)

     TTC since May 2011, 1 year trying, and then 3 TI, 2 IUI = BFN

    IVF #1 (May 2013):  Antagonist Protocol: 
    24R, 18M, 15F w/ICSI; 5dt of 2 early blasts, no frosties = BFN
    IVF #2 (August 2013):  Lupron Stop Protocol: 
    28R, 23M, 15F w/ICSI; 5dt of 1 partially hatched blast, 7 frosties = BFP
    EDD 5/23/14, blighted ovum (6w6d), D&C (8w6d)
    FET #1 (April 2014):  transferred 2 5d blasts = BFP

    C.J. born 01/09/15

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  • @LooneyLife - Aw, thanks! I started it after our first cycle failed. I was pretty intoxicated and it all just came out. I've kept it up though! There is some PR stuff in there, but not much (obviously, sad face).
    TTC #1 since Feb. '12. dx: "unexplained" IF
    After 2 shitty IVF cycles and 1 loss at 6+2 (EDD 11/7/14), DH and I are pursuing DIA.
    11/17/2014 - ACTIVE AND WAITING!
    image
    Pregnancy was never the end goal; being a mom was.
    I've been holding out on GP: I got drunk once and started a blog: Here it is (11/7 update)
    3T<3

  • @poppies717 I just noticed your blog link.  I'll be heading off to read now :)
    I just read through it, too. And bawled my eyes out all over again. <3
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    Daisypath Anniversary tickers
    TTC since July 2012
    BFP #1: 11/9/13; spontaneous m/c at 6w2d, 11/25/13
    BFP #2: 12/31/13. B/w 12/31: betas >1000, progesterone 13.6; B/w 1/2: betas 3065, progesterone 10.2
    B/w 1/8: betas 17,345, progesterone 25.6
    Progesterone suppositories started 1/2. Please stick, baby!!
    Fiona Elise born 9/9/14 - welcome beautiful girl!
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    Badge Unicorn
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  • Don't cry!!!!!! Thank you. My therapist concluded yesterday that it is VERY important to me that people are sad with me and grieve with me. I don't want pity, but I want people to be in the hole with me. It sounds fucked up, but it's exactly how I feel. I know many here sit next to me and grieve with me, and it's so appreciated. I really don't think I'd be getting up in the morning if I didn't know I could come here and interact with you all. 
    TTC #1 since Feb. '12. dx: "unexplained" IF
    After 2 shitty IVF cycles and 1 loss at 6+2 (EDD 11/7/14), DH and I are pursuing DIA.
    11/17/2014 - ACTIVE AND WAITING!
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    Pregnancy was never the end goal; being a mom was.
    I've been holding out on GP: I got drunk once and started a blog: Here it is (11/7 update)
    3T<3

  • Sharing and grieving with others helped/is still helping me work through the emotions from my own loss. So I understand. At least a little. And really, I'm pretty sure we've all had some fucked up emotions about things at this point. But they're emotions, so what are you going to do?
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    Daisypath Anniversary tickers
    TTC since July 2012
    BFP #1: 11/9/13; spontaneous m/c at 6w2d, 11/25/13
    BFP #2: 12/31/13. B/w 12/31: betas >1000, progesterone 13.6; B/w 1/2: betas 3065, progesterone 10.2
    B/w 1/8: betas 17,345, progesterone 25.6
    Progesterone suppositories started 1/2. Please stick, baby!!
    Fiona Elise born 9/9/14 - welcome beautiful girl!
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    Badge Unicorn
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  • Today:

    Last NIAW post! Thank you to everyone who has reached out in one way or another. So many amazing people have shared their stories and journeys with me this week. I stand with you and honor your struggle.

    A special thank you to those who have been incredibly supportive over the past few months. You've sat and cried with me/us, and you share in our grief. I will forever be grateful for your love, friendship, and compassion. Thank you.


    ***I'm totally comfortable with the passive-aggressive subtext.
    TTC #1 since Feb. '12. dx: "unexplained" IF
    After 2 shitty IVF cycles and 1 loss at 6+2 (EDD 11/7/14), DH and I are pursuing DIA.
    11/17/2014 - ACTIVE AND WAITING!
    image
    Pregnancy was never the end goal; being a mom was.
    I've been holding out on GP: I got drunk once and started a blog: Here it is (11/7 update)
    3T<3

  • Thanks for sharing that Poppies.

    I'll be honest. I've often had trouble relating to a lot of common 3T emotions because I feel like our journey was different. My husband and I went into our marriage knowing that there was a very strong possibility that IF treatment was in our future. I never had to grieve the loss of that "normalcy" because it's not something I ever really had to begin with, so it wasn't mine to lose.

    So thank you for sharing this post. I appreciate getting to read that perspective.

    LL same here.... We found out our first year of dating DH that he had Kleinfelters and I actually researched and talked with my mother about what this meant and what I wanted to do... What 22 year old had to make that type of decision ya know? But now that it's in black and white and fully tested it has hit me like a ton of bricks :(
    Ashley & Jeremy 10/10/10

    Getting fit for IVF! :) (add another 20lbs and you have my total weight lost! :) )

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