October 2012 Weddings
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Busy weekends, wedding vent.

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edited May 2014 in October 2012 Weddings
I posted a while back about being upset that my baby was not included on two wedding invites a while back. I got over it, made arrangements for family to watch the little guy and attended both weddings. Overall, it went well but I'm a little upset about this weekends wedding.

DH was in the wedding. We traveled two hours and paid for one extra room for my mother to stay with us. An hour and a half before the ceremony, I get a text from DH that says, "bad news, we aren't sitting together".

Am I crazy, or does it seem incredibly rude to separate couples? I get that he was in the wedding and they seated the wedding party together, but seriously, we went through a lot of trouble and money for that wedding. I almost wish I hadn't gone, except I was seated with people I knew and liked so it turned out alright. I ended up having to leave early because I left my flange for my breast pump at the hotel by mistake and I needed to pump...it wouldn't have been an issue if LO was with me since I could have just nursed him. There were children at the wedding, not many, but they were there.

Re: Busy weekends, wedding vent.

  • That really stinks! I hate when brides don't sit people in the bridal party with their SOs!
    I'm really not a fan of head tables...I feel like it's eating on display, haha. I sat my bridal party at tables with their SOs near our sweetheart table. They were happy that they weren't separated, I was happy that no one was eating on display.

    As far as the no babies thing... I can understand that people don't want kids at their wedding. But if there were kids at this wedding, what's the harm in invited a little baby? Especially if your H was in the bridal party, I'm assuming that he must be close to the couple and they'd understand.



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  • Plus the couple has a baby and one on the way...

    My little guy rarely cries and I have the manners to remove him if that happens. Unfortunately, people don't necessarily do that and it ruins it for everyone.
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    That sucks!   I understand how the couple may not have wanted a baby to possibly cry during the ceremony, but since you said he is a good baby, I think they should have let him come.  Personally, I find kids to be more of a disturbance than babies!

    And as for not sitting together, that's just plain rude.  We let our wedding party bring dates for our wedding and sat them all together at one table.


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  • I understand how the couple didn't need to invite your baby. It's their right, although we extended the children invite to our wp also. However, the head table is bullshit and just rude.

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  • I also understand about having kids at the wedding. I do think that I would be a little upset if there were other guests with kids AND I (or DH) was in the wedding party.

    As for seating, I hate when they don't seat couples together. You are going to celebrate a marriage, ya know people coming together, but you are going to separate other couples? How would they like it if they had to sit apart from their new spouse? DH and I already said if that ever happens to us one of us is moving their chair to the other table.
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  • We didn't even have seating arrangements or a sweetheart/bridal party table.  It was just very casual, sit wherever, cocktail party kind of thing. I don't like being micro managed, and I didn't want to do it to my guests.  
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  • I can also respect the whole baby thing. Yes, I was upset by it but made the appropriate arrangements and was accepting of it by the time I left (no tears on my part!). It was not sitting with my husband that sent me over the edge.
  • That's incredibly rude! We did assigned tables, but it was flexible. We had some people not show up (a lot, actually....grr) and so people rearranged themselves, and that was fine! We just wanted people to sit near people they knew since there were so many different people that weren't crossover friends. 

    I understand why they might not want a baby there, but if your H was in the wedding party and they know you have LO and there were other kids, AND you're traveling from OOT? I know 2 hours isn't a super long drive, but if you're having to get a hotel, they should have been considerate enough (IMO) to allow the baby. If there were no other kids allowed, then no, but since there were others...meh. people. 
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