WWGPD?

Xan921 · May 2014

I received an email today from a friend of mine's sister regarding my friend's bachelorette party. They are planning a long weekend at a beach that is about 4 hours away in September. She needs to know who will be able to attend this bachelorette getaway by Monday May 12th. This friend was my college roommate for two years and we became best friends; however, over the last 2 years or so we've really grown apart. We only talk via text once every couple of months and see each other even less than that, so we're definitely not close anymore. Last time we hung out she posted a facebook status that said it was 'nice to hang out with an old friend' so I'm not even current apparently lol.

Anyway, I'm not sure what to say. I think a drunken beach weekend away would be fun regardless of how close we currently are but if all goes well with my next biopsy we hope to do our first IUI in July, if it doesn't take the next one in August, etc. If I were to get pregnant then I wouldn't want to attend the bachelorette weekend because really the only way I think I'd have fun with this particular group is if I was at least buzzed most of the time.

So what would you all do? Would you say you'd go and then if you get pregnant just deal with being sober for the weekend, or would you decline? What kind of explanation would you give if you decline? My friend knows about our IF but I don't feel like telling her sister specifics.

I'm torn because I hate that I let the potential of getting pregnant stop me from doing things but I also don't want to commitment to something and then either cancel or be bored while everyone else is a sloppy mess.

seahorse01 · May 2014

I would agree to go, maybe with the caveat that you have some medical stuff going on that might change your plans later. It sounds like it could be really fun.

LooneyLife · May 2014

It sounds a little like you're questioning your friendship with this person, but she must still care enough to put you on the invite list. So that sounds like a positive. I think if you're interested in going and think it would be fun, then I'd say yes. If I got pregnant, I'd deal with it then (go sober, back out, whatever).

GFrunner · May 2014

I don't think you should hold back with the possibility of being pregnant. I think that it would be a fun weekend to look forward to and give you something to think about. I also think that you should do what Seahorse said and say you may have a couple medical things to deal with later in summer so a "yes" for now but that might change.

Aimothy · May 2014

As long as you don't have to put money down by May 12, and would be able to make the financial commitment when you were closer to know what your situation was going to be in September, I would say you are a yes for right now. Talk to your friend specifically and let her know what your RSVP means. You don't have to say that you aren't going to want to go because you'll have to be sober, but you can just say, With the fertility treatments you hope to be doing, you don't know if 4 hour travel is going to be doable, but you are hoping that it works out and isn't a problem.

FutureMrsWright2012 · May 2014

I agree with Seahorse 100%... After 2+ years of 3T, I would have missed out on a lot if I based my plans on whether or not I was able to get pregnant.

BruinsBabe33 · May 2014

I wouldn't go, then again I hate overnight bachelorette parties. If you think you would have fun, go for it!

Xan921 · May 2014

This is exactly why I ask you all stuff like this, you give great advice! Thanks for the help on this.

nfp147 · May 2014

I agree with Aim. As long as you don't have to make a financial commitment by May 12th, I would tell the sister you are interested.

brij2006 · May 2014

I would still attend the bachelorette party and let her know you're in. If you get pregnant in the meantime then still go and don't partake in the drinking. Or maybe offer to be the DD.

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