random question about wedding gift

egpitt22 · May 2014

If you were going stag to a wedding, what do you feel is the going rate these days? I don't think I've ever been to a wedding without Brian, and now we are in a situation where we are attending weddings taking place on the same day separately, and I wasn't sure if there was a difference in the gift/amount you give if it's just one person attending.

denalea · May 2014

I wouldn't say there would be a difference...I never see a gift as "paying for your dinner," although I know some do. I would send the same if I was going to a wedding or not. I would say give what you are comfortable with, based on your relationship with each couple.

lala5507 · May 2014

I would probably still base it on how well I know the person/ how close I am to them. Like we have a standard cousin rate. And a best friend would get more than a casual friend.

Meghan&Rich · May 2014

I would give the same amount, with or without Rich. We do give more now as a couple than I did when I was attending weddings solo, but that's more of a 20's vs. 30's/40's thing than a I'm here alone vs. with a guest thing. We usually base our amount how well we know someone (co-worker vs. close family member, etc.)

egpitt22 · May 2014

Ok, good to hear... I was thinking the same thing, that we would just each give what we usually do, but a conversation with a friend had me doubting myself, that that was not the standard.

I also do the "tiered" level of gift giving as many of you mention...more for close friends and family vs. casual friends or coworkers!

kris356 · May 2014

Meghan&Rich said:

I would give the same amount, with or without Rich. We do give more now as a couple than I did when I was attending weddings solo, but that's more of a 20's vs. 30's/40's thing than a I'm here alone vs. with a guest thing. We usually base our amount how well we know someone (co-worker vs. close family member, etc.)

All of this.

csuave · May 2014

I have gotten to the point where I just keep it simple. No close family is getting married any time soon so I just lump everyone in the same category and give the same gift whether or not we attend or if for some reason only one of us would attend.

But then again we don't get invited to weddings for people that are in the acquaintance category; they are all good friends or family.

There might be 1-2 exceptions for really close friends and/or if standing up for them.

FWIW when we got married 8 months ago we had a wide range of gifts and were grateful for all of them. From a purely statistical standpoint the most frequently occurring gift amount (the mode) was $50 per person/$100 per couple.

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