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Staying Home
After many LONG discussions, H and I came to the decision last night that I will stay home, or possibly work part time, if it will work.
We couldn't come up with a plan that we are comfortable with, no matter how flexible our hours/jobs would be- that didn't include day care of some sort, and financially, that doesn't make sense for 2.
So. I get to stay home. Which is something I always dreamed I would have the opportunity to do.
So I am excited!
But I really didn't think this was the decision that would be made, so when my boss asked if I was coming back, I told her that was our plan (and it was).
Now I have to tell her I was wrong. Ugh.
I am dreading this conversation. I've only been here a year, and I feel awful about the timing of it all.
Any tips? I don't even know when I should have this conversation. I hate to let her continue on thinking I will be coming back and she just needs a temporary replacement, but I have a feeling things will be very awkward after I tell her- like the world's longest 2 week notice.
We couldn't come up with a plan that we are comfortable with, no matter how flexible our hours/jobs would be- that didn't include day care of some sort, and financially, that doesn't make sense for 2.
So. I get to stay home. Which is something I always dreamed I would have the opportunity to do.
So I am excited!
But I really didn't think this was the decision that would be made, so when my boss asked if I was coming back, I told her that was our plan (and it was).
Now I have to tell her I was wrong. Ugh.
I am dreading this conversation. I've only been here a year, and I feel awful about the timing of it all.
Any tips? I don't even know when I should have this conversation. I hate to let her continue on thinking I will be coming back and she just needs a temporary replacement, but I have a feeling things will be very awkward after I tell her- like the world's longest 2 week notice.
After 2 years of TTC, lots of tests, and a Hysteroscopy/Laparoscopy to remove several polyps,
Clomid/IUI #1 3/14: cancelled due to surprise BFP 3/8/14.
Beta 1 3/11: 398 Beta 2 3/13: 728 Beta 3 3/20: 11,482
Surprise BFP turns into Surprise Twins!
Zoey and Garrett born 10/24/14 at 36+3
Re: Staying Home
I'd just approach them later on and tell them your original intent was to continue working but after reevaluating you've decided to stay home.
dx: Unexplained IF (mild MFI)
TTC since May 2011, 1 year trying, and then 3 TI, 2 IUI = BFN
IVF #1 (May 2013): Antagonist Protocol:24R, 18M, 15F w/ICSI; 5dt of 2 early blasts, no frosties = BFN
IVF #2 (August 2013): Lupron Stop Protocol:
28R, 23M, 15F w/ICSI; 5dt of 1 partially hatched blast, 7 frosties = BFP
EDD 5/23/14, blighted ovum (6w6d), D&C (8w6d)
FET #1 (April 2014): transferred 2 5d blasts = BFP
C.J. born 01/09/15
I went back part time after W was born and I kinda dragged out telling my boss. He's really easy going, but I felt like I was letting him down by not coming back full time. I told him when I was 8 months pregnant that I was going to change my schedule, which was probably later than I should have brought it up.
With twins, though, the cost of daycare is going to be a lot, so just be honest with them and let them know that you had intended on coming back, but once you sat down and evaluated things, it would just be best for you to stay home. I'm sure they'll be understanding.
My new bff Gayle Forman!
“You can have your wishes, your plans, but at the end of the day, it's out of your control"
- Gayle Forman
"People talk about escapism as if it's a bad thing... Once you've escaped, once you come back, the world is not the same as when you left it. You come back to it with skills, weapons, knowledge you didn't have before. Then you are better equipped to deal with your current reality."
- Neil Gaiman
Married Bio
I definitely want to give them enough notice to replace me, and for me to train the person.
It took about a month for me to get hired (umpteen interviews) and then I had a week and a half to train. So I would imagine they would have the same timeline this time around.
Would it be crazy to wait then until 2 and a half months prior? Maybe mid-august? Unless she asks me flat out again, as she has been.
After 2 years of TTC, lots of tests, and a Hysteroscopy/Laparoscopy to remove several polyps,
Clomid/IUI #1 3/14: cancelled due to surprise BFP 3/8/14.
Beta 1 3/11: 398 Beta 2 3/13: 728 Beta 3 3/20: 11,482
Surprise BFP turns into Surprise Twins!
Zoey and Garrett born 10/24/14 at 36+3
With twins, there is a greater chance of delivering early, so I'd give her a bit more notice, especially given how long it took them to hire and train you.
My new bff Gayle Forman!
“You can have your wishes, your plans, but at the end of the day, it's out of your control"
- Gayle Forman
"People talk about escapism as if it's a bad thing... Once you've escaped, once you come back, the world is not the same as when you left it. You come back to it with skills, weapons, knowledge you didn't have before. Then you are better equipped to deal with your current reality."
- Neil Gaiman
Married Bio
After 2 years of TTC, lots of tests, and a Hysteroscopy/Laparoscopy to remove several polyps,
Clomid/IUI #1 3/14: cancelled due to surprise BFP 3/8/14.
Beta 1 3/11: 398 Beta 2 3/13: 728 Beta 3 3/20: 11,482
Surprise BFP turns into Surprise Twins!
Zoey and Garrett born 10/24/14 at 36+3
I don't have an advice about telling your boss, but YAY for getting to stay home!!
The Rowdy Roberts
B Born 6.27.13
TTC #1 since July 2012
Cycles 1-9: BFN
Cycle 10: Surprise BFP on 10/17/2013!
EDD: June 25, 2014
Baby Girl born via induction June 26, 2014
My TTC Journey Blog
I hope that whenever/however you decide to tell your boss, that it all goes well and she understands.
B/w 1/8: betas 17,345, progesterone 25.6
Our lifestyle will certainly change, but it will be worth it in the end
After 2 years of TTC, lots of tests, and a Hysteroscopy/Laparoscopy to remove several polyps,
Clomid/IUI #1 3/14: cancelled due to surprise BFP 3/8/14.
Beta 1 3/11: 398 Beta 2 3/13: 728 Beta 3 3/20: 11,482
Surprise BFP turns into Surprise Twins!
Zoey and Garrett born 10/24/14 at 36+3