Getting Pregnant
Dear Community,

Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.

If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.

Thank you.

Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.

On his time

My boyfriend and I have discussed getting married and having children. He wants us to wait until we go on "one more vacation". I don't want to wait, as we both are in our 30s. How should I go about handling the situation? Please help me have a meaningful conversation without an argument.

Re: On his time

  • Why not just go on the vacation?
    "How long till my soul gets it right? Can any human being ever reach the highest light? Except for Galileo, god rest his soul, king of night vision, king of insight." ~ Indigo Girls Anniversary
    When you've been married this long, you need a ticker to remind you.

    Baby Boy M - 08/01/2013
  • KatieCutie05KatieCutie05 member
    100 Love Its 100 Comments Second Anniversary Name Dropper
    edited May 2014

    thats easy give a definite date you want to be engaged by, married by, have kids by, etc... men tend to need timelines or they'll drag their feet.. Ask what his timeline is... don't just settle for "one more vacation".. thats not a timeline unless its already booked. Figure out what you want to do first... if you want to get married before getting pregnant then start by when you want to be engaged by. Talking to a boyfriend about babies is generally a "some day" conversation. but all of a sudden even once we were engaged he was fine talking about it as a "real plan".

    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
  • If he is unable to give the time of this vacation, I'd be a little worried that he is just putting you off.  You can tell him that weddings are often paired with honeymoons. :-) 
    photo Isbell-232_zpsdaf64dd5.jpg
  • cinderin said:
    Why not just go on the vacation?
    He said that last year
  • OceanHutt said:
    I think given the timeline you have lined out ie: 'get married and have children' that you may have a few things to do prior to being ready for this talk....Go on vacation, get proposed to if you aren't already (you used boyfriend) get married, and start talking about getting started.... When will you come off birth control (if you are on it currently), etc etc Also food for thought? You tend to get a little more of a response if you provide a more thoughtful intro here :)
    Thanks. Perhaps I'm just a little anxious about being in my 30s.
    And thanks for the advice on the intro :)
Sign In or Register to comment.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards