Well as H and I are exploring our options, we've stumbled across a house that has been on the market since October. It's an excellent location - literally across the street from the children's park, surrounded by established neighborhoods, lots of sidewalks, restaurants, shops, etc. The houses around it have sold for $400K+ more than this one is currently listed at.
The problem? The inside of it is a "dumpster fire" (to use my H's phrase).
It's a very old house, and so it has some of those cool old house things still intact - big chandeliers, heavy crown molding, original hardwoods, etc. The exterior is also really cool - tons of curb appeal. But it would need to be fully gutted to be habitable. It's just nasty on the inside. And while you're gutting a house that old, you might as well bring it up to code and insulate it at the same time.
H and I have talked to a couple of contractors in town with great reputations who do guts on old houses like this. Nobody has walked through the house with us, but the ballpark figures of what these guts usually cost in this part of town are inline with our house budget. They all say that a full gut is significantly cheaper than updating a house piecemeal... since the walls are open and they can basically re-wire, re-plumb, etc. in a couple days, rather than having to do it slowly to keep the walls intact as they go.
What do you think? Worth pursuing? Or would I probably end up divorcing H over the experience....?
Re: Gutting a house
Our house was gutted at the beginning of the previous ownership.
From watching other people go through a similar process, I do know that gutting a house can be incredibly time consuming even if you and DH don't suffer from the decision making issues DH and I do. I know people who love spending their spare time working on their houses and would relish the fun and challenge of gutting a house. If that is you and DH, this sounds like it would get a great opportunity. If dealing with contractors and/or doing the work yourself would be unpleasant, then it's probably not such a great opportunity.
In your situation, I would be trying to weigh the short term costs in terms of all the time and energy you will have to put into the house that could otherwise to used to enjoy your new life living with DH (unless you guys would love doing that house stuff together) and investing in your careers against the long term financial and lifestyle benefits of buying a house that will quickly grow in value in a desirable location with character that you like.
Many loans require the house to be in a livable condition, and to appraise at a certain value. Getting a loan will definitely be more complicated. If it's in that rough of shape, you may have difficulty getting homeowners insurance until it's rehabbed.
Make sure you can afford much higher property taxes, based on the home's value AFTER the work is complete. In my area, just the $400k "undervalued" amount (difference between what you would buy it for and what the rehab would add to the value of the home) would equate to over $500/mo extra in property taxes, plus whatever you would already be paying on the purchase price.
It sounds like a good deal, but I'd have a bigger contingency than the contractor's recommend. I would also talk to the city first and make sure there aren't any other big things to know about the rehab on that home.
It sounds like the location is good and within your price range so you should really think about making a move.
Since it has been on the market, you may be able to wait a few more months and still buy it.
Our house was a full gut and remodel, and we had planned to be living in it within 3 months. It ended up being 5 months, and we moved in while work was still being done.
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