Birthday/Graduation conundrum

Saragem1982 · May 2014

Hey ladies,

So, I'm wondering If I'm being unreasonable. My bday is tomorrow, no big deal, however...with H and I having had troubles recently I'm a little sensitive. His cousin graduates tomorrow, and his aunt and uncle are having a get together in a town about 2 hours from here. He told me he feels like he has to go since his parents aren't able to make it, and he'd like to see his other family while he's up there. Mind you, most of the family going up there, is family that lives here, we just don't go visit..for whatever reason. Anyway, I thought, ok, I'll go...and suggested we get a room, not even a fancy one and he's kind of just been shrugging It off. He has told me that he's going regardless of if I go or not. I really do like his family, but I have friends here that want to go to lunch or hang out and actually celebrate my Birthday. I guess what I'm trying to say is I'm hurt that H doesn't even seem to care it's my bday. What would you do? Am I out of line? Suggestions? Help, please

court115 · May 2014

Normally, I would say just go to the graduation and do something special there (like getting a room as you suggested) to celebrate and then celebrate when you get home with your friends. My birthday is 5 days away from Christmas though so I'm pretty used never really getting a huge birthday celebration because everyone is so wrapped up in the holidays. However, since this seems like a sensitive time in your relationship, I can see why you would want your H to go the extra mile for your birthday this year. I don't know all of the details but it's obviously important to you to celebrate and he should respect that. I don't think you're being unreasonable by wanting to do something special with your husband on your day. Your marriage is what is most important right now and if a birthday celebration is what is going to make you happy, I think he should do it. Good luck! Let us know how it turns out!