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Visiting a dying person

The title sucks and I'm sorry, but I had no idea what else to say. DH's uncle's mom is home on hospice care. She is a very sweet woman who I see at all of DH's family parties. She is invited to our house when we have Christmas and Mothers Day and birthday parties. She mentioned to DHs uncle that she would love to see us and asked if we would bring M and come visit her. I HATE doing stuff like that. I mean I'm going to go b/c she asked, but I always feel uncomfortable and feel like I always say the wrong thing. And what do we say when we leave knowing we wont see her again??

 

Re: Visiting a dying person

  • I'm sorry, Karen.

    Honestly, I think the best thing to do is to try to just make it like a normal visit.  When my grandfather was in hospice, we talked a lot about his childhood.  He always used to tell me stories about being in the Marines when I was little, but I never knew much about when he was young, so I asked him lots of questions.  I also told him about things that were going on with me and asked for his advice on stuff.

    And when you leave, just tell her that you love her and are thinking about her.  That will be true no matter what.

    *hugs*
  • Thank you!

     

  • I'm so sorry Karen :(

    I agree with Janet. Just try to make it as normal as possible. I know you feel awkward but really, who doesn't? I would just make the visit short and sweet. Just let her know that you care and you enjoyed the good times you did get to spend with her.

    Sending hugs and prayers!
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  • I'm so sorry Karen. That's so hard. I also feel so awkward, but remind myself it's for the other person.

    Just say you love her.
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  • Thanks girls! We had a nice visit. Only stayed about 10 minutes. I could tell she was real tired. Toward the end of the visit she mentioned that she just wanted it to be over. And how hard the waiting was. Then she told is to "have a nice life". That's when I started to tear up. I didn't want to cry in front of her so I said that I was glad she was a part of it. That made her smile. Then we both kissed her and told.her that we loved her. Even DH was getting bothered when we were leaving.

     

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