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Hello? Hello??

Where is everybody?
 

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  • I'm trying not to be negative, so I haven't posted. All I've got today are vents.

    I slept like crap last night, partially thanks to my cat being annoying and smelly. (I dread giving him a bath.)

    I am tired of solo parenting. I am tired of putting my designs on hold indefinitely. I am tired of being tired.

    I have been feeling like Dory lately: "Just keep swimming, just keep swimming, just keep swimming..." But I don't know what has to happen for me to stop feeling this way!

    We are going to MIL's this weekend. Tomorrow would have been FIL's birthday, in addition to Father's Day on Sunday. I totally respect her right to be sad that her husband is gone, but she can be such a pessimist that I really dread how much complaining there could be while we visit.
    Heather Margaret --- Feb '07 and Todd Eldon --- April '09

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  • Hang in there Amy--solo parenting is tougher than tough.  I have no idea how single moms are able to function. 

    And, holidays after losing a loved one are rough too.  And at the risk of sounding selfish, I hate being around my husband on holidays since both of his parents passed.  I mean, I do it and I try to give him what he needs, but to be honest, sometimes he just wants to be miserable and there is nothing I can do but let him be (and try to avoid him). 


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  • I'm suffering from the same thing as Amy. I have nothing positive to say AT ALL so I'm just STFU.

    I'm finishing week 1 of 3 (in a row) of solo parenting. I feel you, Amy!

    A person on my team is taking a new position so I just got all of her work heaped on me. They'll "backfill" her position when they can. Joy!

    Related: Is anyone looking for a technical writing job?
    Ryan & Casey Married July 17, 2004
    Gabriel John Born February 23, 2012

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  • amyjoy18 said:

    but to be honest, sometimes he just wants to be miserable and there is nothing I can do but let him be (and try to avoid him). 


    OMG, yes. It is this exactly.

    My college BFF lost her husband two years ago and my parents have both lost both of their parents, and yet I don't dread being around them on holidays and birthdays. We talk about their sadness, but it isn't the same kind if wallowing and complaining.

    May and June are very hard for my BFF - her son's birthday, Mother's Day, Father's Day and the anniversary of her husband's death. Not only is she in therapy, but she fills these months with activities so that she CAN'T wallow in her sadness. I would give anything to get my MIL to see a therapist. To take CONTROL of the things that make her unhappy instead of just complaining.

    Heather Margaret --- Feb '07 and Todd Eldon --- April '09

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  • Work has been insane, and I am losing my mind!!!

    DH is out of town again as well.  I'm in the minority though, I kind of enjoy my evenings to myself!  (Of course it's much easier now that the boys are older!)

    I need it to be Friday!

  • MrsAmers said:
    but to be honest, sometimes he just wants to be miserable and there is nothing I can do but let him be (and try to avoid him). 


    OMG, yes. It is this exactly. My college BFF lost her husband two years ago and my parents have both lost both of their parents, and yet I don't dread being around them on holidays and birthdays. We talk about their sadness, but it isn't the same kind if wallowing and complaining. May and June are very hard for my BFF - her son's birthday, Mother's Day, Father's Day and the anniversary of her husband's death. Not only is she in therapy, but she fills these months with activities so that she CAN'T wallow in her sadness. I would give anything to get my MIL to see a therapist. To take CONTROL of the things that make her unhappy instead of just complaining.
    It's been 2 years since DH lost his dad and every single holiday since has sucked.  I also would love for him to go see a therapist because it seems like he just got stuck in the anger stage of grieving. 

    Does your MIL try to engage you in conversations when she's complaining?  Or can you sit quietly in the corner and knit while you let the kids distract her?
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  • Meghan - I am fine with being alone once the kids are in bed. It is the drop-off, pick-up, breakfast making, lunch packing, dinner making and kid wrangling by myself. When he's not traveling, DH does all of the drop off and pick up if kids - he works closer and I do all the cooking. I'm totally worn out by the time the kids are in bed!

    (This time is worse because I didn't prepare well. I didn't go to the store this weekend, didn't get gas and didn't go to bed early on Sunday. Totally dumb on my part.)
    Heather Margaret --- Feb '07 and Todd Eldon --- April '09

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  • I'm so sorry so many of you are stressed out!  Hang in there! 
     
  • MrsAmers said:
    Meghan - I am fine with being alone once the kids are in bed. It is the drop-off, pick-up, breakfast making, lunch packing, dinner making and kid wrangling by myself. When he's not traveling, DH does all of the drop off and pick up if kids - he works closer and I do all the cooking. I'm totally worn out by the time the kids are in bed! (This time is worse because I didn't prepare well. I didn't go to the store this weekend, didn't get gas and didn't go to bed early on Sunday. Totally dumb on my part.)
    It is definitely a lot of work and gets old.  DH only travels about one week a month, so I have my "routine" down.  By routine, I mean that my dinner making consists of Eat n Park or Mac n Cheese and lunch making consists of PB&J and applesauce cups!  I am also not at work earlier than 9:00 on weeks he travels!
  • MrsAmers said:
    Meghan - I am fine with being alone once the kids are in bed. It is the drop-off, pick-up, breakfast making, lunch packing, dinner making and kid wrangling by myself.
    I do all of this and my DH doesn't travel. It IS exhausting! Thankfully he cooks on the weekends and helps with baths in the evenings when he is at home and not sleeping bc of his night shift. Hang in there, Momma.

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  • Add me to the stressed camp.  VBS starts next week.  So exciting. SOOOO overwhelming.  (149 of our 150 spots are FILLED!)  So much to do.
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