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Family Birthdays....Do you do this?
DH's family are local and since we've been together we've attended every birthday on his Mom's side (Mom, Grandma, Grandpa, Uncles, Brother) and it was fine. We only do this with DH's mom's side. These birthdays go: dinner, break, cake and ice cream then presents. (Totally like a child's bday) We now have two kids (3.5 years and 9 weeks) and I think it might be time to be able to miss some of these birthdays, especially if they are not milestones. Although when I brought this up to DH he has issues with it because it's something he enjoys doing; which I've always respected. Also, before DS2 arrived, it was getting tough because DS1 would never want to eat (he'd barely eat cake and ice cream too) and would just want to play, which is fine, but he's the only kid that's ever there and then he gets bored. Then when it's time to go, it takes an hour to say goodbye and get hugs in. Obviously this is my issue, but I'm wondering if any one else does this too.
Re: Family Birthdays....Do you do this?
My advice - divide and conquer. Your DH can go to these parties alone if he enjoys them. You can stay home w/ the kids. And really- having TWO young kids w/ different nap/sleep schedules is the perfect excuse.
My xILs used to do this for every single occcasion, too: for the uncles, the aunts, the cousins and the little kids.
The celebrations also get very costly, gift giving wise. (these people weren't happy with something like a book or maybe a CD of music --- it had to be "a present.")
They also had a huge celebration on Christmas Eve...another party...which means...yep, more presents.
If it isn't a milestone birthday, I say skip the celebration with company and a big party. Limit it to only immediate family and maybe a cake.
OMG. Hate these. While really not quite an hour, what happens w/ my ILs is we do all our goodbyes at the door, then we walk out to the car.... followed by the ILs. And they stand there STILL talking to us as we load up and then of course - we have to go through all the goodbyes again.
DRIVES ME BATTY!!!!
Lol, honestly, MY Mother does this! She wants to still have a birthday party for all of her kids and her grandkids. We have always done this. Yes it gets very tiring. Expensive. Us, her own kids, try to tell her we don't need these birthday parties. I feel she just likes having reasons to get everyone together. I admit, I enjoy getting together with my family, but these things can get a bit much.
We have actually skipped out on a few, but it were because we had other commitments. My DH gets upset about it sometimes, but it just is the way it is. I feel, may as well be thankful for having such a large loving family that enjoys getting together than a family who hates each other and never gets to see one another. I am thankful we all live close enough to do this. This is just me though. I will tell you it gets annoying sometimes.. So I understand your side of things.