May 2012 Weddings
Saragem1982
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Here it is...
Hi there,
So, H and I had our 5th counseling session today. The other night I had posted the back story of what I feel got us to this point. H and I had a great year and a half, but things slowly started going downhill about 6 months ago. H, who only drinks on his weekend, was going out 3 to 4 nights a week, until all hours of the night, then driving home. In the back of my mind, I knew this behavior wasn't ok, but he would justify it by saying that's the way he's always been...I would tell him I wasn't ok with it, but I would stay, so the behavior would continue. About 3 weeks ago, He went out on a Friday night, and told me we would hang out the following day, and he would be home around 9 or 10, same time he would if he had to work the next day. ..well, he got home at 2:00 am again...I checked his phone the next morning (something I never do) and there was an extremely inappropriate text that he sent to his friend the night before. I had enough, I left for Washington for a few days to spend with family...he told me he always thought I would be there..so, why wouldn't he keep acting like this, right??. We had completed 2 sessions prior to me leaving. Since I've been back we've been to 3 more. Before, H wouldn't participate, I would talk, he would just sit there and say a word or two now and then. Today's session went really good, there were laughs, and talk about the future, and how we can keep thing positive. I never, ever thought I would be in marriage counseling, let alone 2 years into our marriage, but I'm trying to take this one step/day at a time and be positive. Thanks to you all for being so supportive. I know everyone has their problems in their marriage, so I apologize for putting mine on blast. You ladies are great!
So, H and I had our 5th counseling session today. The other night I had posted the back story of what I feel got us to this point. H and I had a great year and a half, but things slowly started going downhill about 6 months ago. H, who only drinks on his weekend, was going out 3 to 4 nights a week, until all hours of the night, then driving home. In the back of my mind, I knew this behavior wasn't ok, but he would justify it by saying that's the way he's always been...I would tell him I wasn't ok with it, but I would stay, so the behavior would continue. About 3 weeks ago, He went out on a Friday night, and told me we would hang out the following day, and he would be home around 9 or 10, same time he would if he had to work the next day. ..well, he got home at 2:00 am again...I checked his phone the next morning (something I never do) and there was an extremely inappropriate text that he sent to his friend the night before. I had enough, I left for Washington for a few days to spend with family...he told me he always thought I would be there..so, why wouldn't he keep acting like this, right??. We had completed 2 sessions prior to me leaving. Since I've been back we've been to 3 more. Before, H wouldn't participate, I would talk, he would just sit there and say a word or two now and then. Today's session went really good, there were laughs, and talk about the future, and how we can keep thing positive. I never, ever thought I would be in marriage counseling, let alone 2 years into our marriage, but I'm trying to take this one step/day at a time and be positive. Thanks to you all for being so supportive. I know everyone has their problems in their marriage, so I apologize for putting mine on blast. You ladies are great!
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