Confession Thursday

minionlover · June 2014

Anything you need to tell us?

catwine · June 2014

H has been away since Sunday and I'm ashamed to say i haven't missed him that much. I'll be glad when he is home, but I've been fine on my own. I feel extra ashamed because when we skype at night he says how much he misses me and can't wait to see me and sleep in our bed.

bad wife!

goatlady12 · June 2014

I confess that I'm a little too distracted by my own siggy gif. Might need to change it. Something about the flying tongue. I have to stop on it each time I scroll, like I forgot it was there or something.

mana8503 · June 2014

H has been really insecure. I've never had girlfriends, and he's always been ok with me hanging out with my male cws... Until now. I chat with one a lot. It's usually when H and I are both chilling on the couch - H will also chat with his female cws. And it's stupid sh!t like articles about harry potter , game of thrones, and other books we love that H has no interest in. H made the comment I should have married him. Um what?! The next day H said he was joking.

Then I went to one of their 30th birthday parties. H didn't go since he worked. He got jealous I wore a dress. Also, someone somehow send a happy anniversary card to our printer (it's wireless) and he thought I went out with someone, thus the dress. No, you wear a dress to a birthday dinner especially since I'm 6 months pregnant and only have jeans. He said I haven't worn a dress for him in a long time. I rarely wear them! Sometimes I would when it's hot, it's just now getting hot here.

He finally came out and said he's gained 30 lbs since the wedding and feeling insecure. I just blank stared at him. Seriously, now... When my body is going crazy your gonna get sensitive about yours. 1. Stop getting fast food daily. You've already blew through your spending for the month... All on fast food. 2. Work out. I even offered to get t25 because I wanna do that after baby is born. Of course these are not things he wants to do... Fine. But stop accusing me of things because you're insecure!

Then the other day he out right asked if I was cheating. *headdesk *. No babe, I'm not. He said he couldn't remember if it was a dream or real-life when he was on my phone and saw a hidden folder of pictures. My phone is unlocked, and he's more than happy to look through it anytime. I don't even know how to hide pictures. He finally told me it must have been a dream, caused by his ex told him I should have done better then him. OMG really... After 5 years she's still doing this shit?! I can't right now... Seriously. I know he's scared to lose me now there's a kid involved... But I'm not cheating, I'm not going any where, I'm happy and pregnant.

That night we were going out to eat, so I put on a dress. Thinking that would make him happy. He said no, it made him feel like an ass. Well, if the shoe fits. He told me to change and he didn't care what I wore. Hopefully, he know sees how ridiculous he's being.

I don't even know where my confession is in there... Just needed to get that out.

ramstein1027 · June 2014

mana8503 said:

H has been really insecure. I've never had girlfriends, and he's always been ok with me hanging out with my male cws... Until now. I chat with one a lot. It's usually when H and I are both chilling on the couch - H will also chat with his female cws. And it's stupid sh!t like articles about harry potter , game of thrones, and other books we love that H has no interest in. H made the comment I should have married him. Um what?! The next day H said he was joking. Then I went to one of their 30th birthday parties. H didn't go since he worked. He got jealous I wore a dress. Also, someone somehow send a happy anniversary card to our printer (it's wireless) and he thought I went out with someone, thus the dress. No, you wear a dress to a birthday dinner especially since I'm 6 months pregnant and only have jeans. He said I haven't worn a dress for him in a long time. I rarely wear them! Sometimes I would when it's hot, it's just now getting hot here. He finally came out and said he's gained 30 lbs since the wedding and feeling insecure. I just blank stared at him. Seriously, now... When my body is going crazy your gonna get sensitive about yours. 1. Stop getting fast food daily. You've already blew through your spending for the month... All on fast food. 2. Work out. I even offered to get t25 because I wanna do that after baby is born. Of course these are not things he wants to do... Fine. But stop accusing me of things because you're insecure! Then the other day he out right asked if I was cheating. *headdesk *. No babe, I'm not. He said he couldn't remember if it was a dream or real-life when he was on my phone and saw a hidden folder of pictures. My phone is unlocked, and he's more than happy to look through it anytime. I don't even know how to hide pictures. He finally told me it must have been a dream, caused by his ex told him I should have done better then him. OMG really... After 5 years she's still doing this shit?! I can't right now... Seriously. I know he's scared to lose me now there's a kid involved... But I'm not cheating, I'm not going any where, I'm happy and pregnant. That night we were going out to eat, so I put on a dress. Thinking that would make him happy. He said no, it made him feel like an ass. Well, if the shoe fits. He told me to change and he didn't care what I wore. Hopefully, he know sees how ridiculous he's being. I don't even know where my confession is in there... Just needed to get that out.

Sorry he's being a goofball! Although reading it, not living through it, it's kind of sort of a little bit cute that he's jealous. But I get that it's a pain in the ass while you're all busy growing life and everything. Maybe some of your hormones are rubbing off on him

Hopefully he pulls out of this funk and gets with the program soon.

I'm also a little frustrated with DH. You know how I was so proud and excited he joined the health bandwagon with me? Well I waited all night for him to get home to eat dinner with him, which was like 9pm, and he barely ate. Turns out it was because he had a bagel for breakfast and a big thing of pasta for lunch at like 3:30. I know it's not a huge deal but I feel like he already gave up on our little health journey and here I am eating stupid oats, protein bars, greek yogurt, grilled chicken wraps, fruit, etc. like a stupid healthy moron while he's out enjoying dat carb life.

But my actual confession is that I'm on a strike from laundry & out of underwear, so I'm not wearing any today. OH I also have a dress on.

:-\"

mrshall1027 · June 2014

@mana8503 My H gets like that sometimes too, and it's usually when he's not feeling confident about the way he looks. His XW also cheated on him, so that adds to it. I just try to show him some extra love and attention and he usually starts to feel better in a couple of days. Hopefully he'll realize that he's being crazy for thinking like that and get back to his normal self soon.

@hamslabs1027 Make sure a gust of wind doesn't catch you off guard!

mrshall1027 · June 2014

I confess that I'm getting a little annoyed with how much H is letting himself go. Don't get me wrong - I love him to death and that will never change, but I miss my hunky muscle man! We've both gained weight since being together, but I'm about 7lbs away from where I was when we meet. He's about 40lbs. He keeps saying he's going to work out and diet, but he doesn't. He eats and drinks what he wants, when he wants. I don't know what, if anything, I should say to him to help him get back to a healthier lifestyle.

minionlover · June 2014

I confess that when I read @hamslabs1027 's confession I pictured the girl yesterday and her skirt flying up except there was no underwear. X_X

brainybrunette · June 2014

minionlover said:

I confess that when I read @hamslabs1027 's confession I pictured the girl yesterday and her skirt flying up except there was no underwear. X_X

DITTO!!!

ramstein1027 · June 2014

mrshall1027 said:

I confess that I'm getting a little annoyed with how much H is letting himself go. Don't get me wrong - I love him to death and that will never change, but I miss my hunky muscle man! We've both gained weight since being together, but I'm about 7lbs away from where I was when we meet. He's about 40lbs. He keeps saying he's going to work out and diet, but he doesn't. He eats and drinks what he wants, when he wants. I don't know what, if anything, I should say to him to help him get back to a healthier lifestyle.

I'm in the same boat, it's so frustrating. I feel like he thinks that's "just what happens" when you get older, but it's not. It's what happens when you stop making your health a priority, which people tend to to when they get older. Correlation, not causation. Also, dude, you're 29, not 55.

I don't want him to need a quadruple bypass in his early 50's like his dad. I don't care what he looks like shirtless, I just want him around for a long time.

mana8503 · June 2014

Ugh I don't have your names memorized anymore!

@hamslabs1027 - it would be cute, but I had more than a couple boyfriends constantly accuse me of cheating, because they were cheating themselves. I never wanted to be in a relationship with that much distrust again. That's why I love H. He knows I can have guy friends and that's all they are. I feel like I can't chat with my friend about books because H is gonna get jealous, when he's on the other side of the couch chatting to his female cws on Fb. I even told him it makes me uncomfortable because of my past and how the guy was cheating and that's why he got all insecure. He understands, and it's been ok for a few days now.

@mrshall1027‌ - Yea, his ex cheated on him. I've always tried to be mindful of that. I've been trying to show him more attention... We'll see.

H just called and he's gonna start drinking slim fast for breakfast. I said that's a good start. This is after last night he was in VA and went to a buffet for dinner. I got a text, he was on his 4th plate. Sign. I hope one was a salad...

mrshall1027 · June 2014

hamslabs1027 said:

mrshall1027 said:

I confess that I'm getting a little annoyed with how much H is letting himself go. Don't get me wrong - I love him to death and that will never change, but I miss my hunky muscle man! We've both gained weight since being together, but I'm about 7lbs away from where I was when we meet. He's about 40lbs. He keeps saying he's going to work out and diet, but he doesn't. He eats and drinks what he wants, when he wants. I don't know what, if anything, I should say to him to help him get back to a healthier lifestyle.

I'm in the same boat, it's so frustrating. I feel like he thinks that's "just what happens" when you get older, but it's not. It's what happens when you stop making your health a priority, which people tend to to when they get older. Correlation, not causation. Also, dude, you're 29, not 55.

I don't want him to need a quadruple bypass in his early 50's like his dad. I don't care what he looks like shirtless, I just want him around for a long time.

That's what I'm worried about too. He doesn't ever go to the doctor and says he feels healthy, so there's nothing motivating him to be healthier. I think I just need to make myself in charge of prepping all his meals and give him a hard time when he's eating or drinking bad. We'll see. He's been complaining about his appearance a lot more recently, so maybe he's ready to make a change.

ramstein1027 · June 2014

That's what I've been doing, and it's so much work to do for two people! I just wish he was more on board so he could take more responsibility for our food. It's really tough to plan, shop, cook, & prep all by myself. I have a job, too! Then it also takes away from my exercise time at night. I'm just really frustrated. I'm just going to say screw it and if my workout means dinner isn't ready, he's going to have to deal with takeout salads from the grocery salad bar.

brainybrunette · June 2014

H is a Physician Assistant, and STILL won't go to a Dr! When he worked in the ER, he had to have a yearly physical, which was nothing more than a TB test with a hospital nurse. His blood pressure was elevated for awhile, he tells me that it's fine now. He did get his cholesterol checked last year, because you got some $ back from your insurance as an incentive. That was ok, but I think his triglycerides were a bit high. When we moved, I asked him to find an actual primary Dr. when I made an appointment for myself. He keeps saying that he's going to see someone at one of the other offices (his group has 3 DC offices)...he hasn't. He's so concerned with me being healthy,which I do appreciate, but doesn't take his own advice sometimes.

I will give him credit for going to the gym Tues and Thurs mornings though...he's at the gym around 6am, which does take dedication to get up so early. He's seeing a trainer to keep himself accountable...we don't have $ to waste on an unused gym membership / trainer. Sometimes he destroys the hard work at the gym with what he eats though. We don't keep unhealthy food in the house, but eating too much of a good thing can be just as bad.

I thought that I didn't like Drs offices, but men are so much worse!

mana8503 · June 2014

Im kinda glad I'm not the only one. I don't care what he looks like, but I want him around long enough to be old and cranky together!

I plan, shop, cook and prep too. But I'm at a loss at what H can eat on the road. He's out most days for 14 hours. He leaves anywhere from 8pm to 5am (mostly 10pm-2am). No microwave. Lately he wants a pb and Nutella sandwich for "breakfast", and either a pb&j or a deli meat sandwich. I told him two pb sandwiches is a little much. And I've been making his deli meat sandwich with half a whole wheat pita. I've offered wraps and salads too.

But after work he will stop off and get mcd / taco bell / Wendy's so he can go home and straight to bed. I've offered making food he can heat up. But he said no. Even if it's chicken he can put on salad! He gets corndogs to heat up... Only he eats 4. 4!

I'm sure all he has to do is cut the fast food and sweet tea and he'll drop 20 lbs.

goatlady12 · June 2014

I'm sitting here eating a brownie and a cookie reading all these posts about eating healthy and working out. I'm all like, "Whatevs, I was craving sugar."

WillyH19 · June 2014

goatlady12 said:
I'm sitting here eating a brownie and a cookie reading all these posts about eating healthy and working out. I'm all like, "Whatevs, I was craving sugar."

Ha, I just finished a snack of graham crackers with cookie butter on them. In my defense, I'm burning lots of extra calories right now.

xxjen015 · June 2014

I confess that I'm picturing @goatlady12 and @hamslabs1027 siggy gifs getting into a tonguing war...

sjs1013 · June 2014

@WillyH19 Is it the cookie butter from Trader Joe's? Ive heard that's really delicious!

I confess that I no longer like to wear bottoms or underwear when I'm home. I walk around in just a tank top. It's so comfy!

consciousdear88 · June 2014

I confess that H and I just sat together and read a "where are they now?" type article about celebrity crushes from the 90s.

I have no shame.

catwine · June 2014

I'm in a similar situation as those of you with Hs who are gaining some weight. When my H and I met in college he was muscley but not ripped or anything. In the years we've been together he has stayed relatively the same size and weight until we got married. Then he gained about 50lbs. A lot of it is muscle but he got quite the paunch too. Friends and family noticed too but I didn't make any comments until he brought it up. He said he was feeling out of shape and stuff so I offered to cook different foods (less meat, less sweets, more veggies) and it's been helping him lose weight. I don't care how he looks, but I also want him to be healthy since we are TTC.

I found it really helpful to prep as much food as possible in advance so I can have dinner ready fast. For example, I cut up all the fruit and veggies as soon as I get home from the store and keep them in containers in the fridge. I also season chicken and fish and freeze it in small baggies. We still love sweets and desserts so I make something like banana bread, which is filling and sweet but isn;t terrible for us to eat.

xxjen015 · June 2014

sjs1013 said:

@WillyH19 Is it the cookie butter from Trader Joe's? Ive heard that's really delicious!

I confess that I no longer like to wear bottoms or underwear when I'm home. I walk around in just a tank top. It's so comfy!

We love TJ's cookie butter. LOVE IT. Both the creamy and the crunchy. I've even made cookies from it. Mmmm...I may have to check the pantry....we don't have a TJ's here, so we have to get it when we go to Nashville or Atlanta.

WillyH19 · June 2014

xxjen015 said:

sjs1013 said:

@WillyH19 Is it the cookie butter from Trader Joe's? Ive heard that's really delicious!

I confess that I no longer like to wear bottoms or underwear when I'm home. I walk around in just a tank top. It's so comfy!

We love TJ's cookie butter. LOVE IT. Both the creamy and the crunchy. I've even made cookies from it. Mmmm...I may have to check the pantry....we don't have a TJ's here, so we have to get it when we go to Nashville or Atlanta.

Yup, the stuff from Trader Joes, it's delicious!

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