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What do you think?
He keeps in touch with an ex girlfriend. She has a child that he is fond of, but not his. She did in-vitro, and he has known the child since the boy was born.
Yesterday, the ex arrives at our door at 9:00 am. We have a a summer home, and she was visiting friends in the same town. She states she called ahead of time, and the son wanted to see him. I do not like her because I feel she has crossed too many boundaries with us, and causes arguments. She tried to play nice with me, and I excused myself and went to the bedroom. She followed me and questioned me about this, and said she only wants us to be happy. I explained to please leave me alone, and I did not want to fight. I also explained she has crossed boundaries. She left crying, and said I was threatening to her!
The three of them went to a donut shop, and were gone for about two hours. I was livid, upset etc.... Later, I looked at his phone to see if she truly had called ahead of time. Her name is in his phone as a fake name. This upset me more than anything. I feel betrayed. I question if there is more going on than innocent phone calls and interactions.
Today, I brought it up. He responded he didn't know. I responded with a F you.
What do you think? I am upset!
Re: What do you think?
I would say that it's a him problem....he is clearly lying to you (her number under a different name...) I call the biggest pile of BS ever on the "I don't know" that sounds like an " I can't think of a legit reason so here is the most half-assed excuse I can muster......" type excuse
I would sit him down and very clearly explain your issues and tell him you want the truth about whatever the "relationship" they have going on is......
were you even invited to go with them to the donut shop? if so, why didn't you go? your choice or his?...very fishy
it ends right there. She does not visit he does not contact her and she does not contact him.
Demand that he do this immediately.
If he says no, you have a big problem on your hands. Don't let this chick run your marriage.
This is shady as it gets and not right at all:
Later, I looked at his phone to see if she truly had called ahead of time. Her name is in his phone as a fake name. This upset me more than anything. I feel betrayed. I question if there is more going on than innocent phone calls and interactions.
Something is fishy here indeed. He needs to end contact with her and if he does not, consider showing him the door. He fancies this chick, period.
As for him leaving with her after your interacting with this girl, wow. That spoke a lot to me, her over you.