Commitment - One of the Four Cornerstones of Marriage

amandaf6383 · July 2014

I read this article and was struck by how much sense it made to me. I'm interested to hear your thoughts!

Xan921 · July 2014

It makes a lot of sense to me. My husband and I have been through some trying times in our marriage and honestly, I don't feel like love was always enough. I had one foot out the door a couple of times but it was my commitment to him and my commitment to our marriage that helped me stay.

I've seen so many people who have been married far less time than I have who are already getting divorced and it blows my mind. I understand that there are some circumstances that break a relationship beyond repair, but overall, I think if someone is truly committed to their spouse and their marriage, then they'll get through those days when they may like not each other because their commitment is stronger than their feelings.

LuckyAngel07 · July 2014

Xan pretty much covered it!

DH and I definitely had times that made one/both of us want to run. But something much more than love kept me/us together.

nfp147 · July 2014

This would explain why DH is still here after the two weeks of progesterone suppositories.

But, yes, I agree. It's much more than love and lust, it's committment and a lot of work.

jt305 · July 2014

Thanks for sharing this! When DH and I did the premarital counseling classes, we were told, "You have to choose to love each other every single day. There will be days you don't "like" each other, but you have to look past that and find love (even on days you can only think of one or two things) for the other person." This article reflects that.

I think we have become notorious for throwing in the towel when times get tough. Everything comes so easy to us (as a society), that we aren't always comfortable putting in the work and following through with the commitment we have made in our marriages.

amandaf6383 · July 2014

I definitely agree with the article. Tom and I often talk about "choosing" the be married and to be a team and to love and respect each other.

Not that there haven't been days where we've been like "What the actual FUCK did I get into?!"

lindsayandjamie · July 2014

I totally agree with this article. As a product of a very messy divorce where one person gave more than themselves to make it work when the other person made selfish and dangerous decisions at the expense of his wife and children, I have always been afraid of my marriage ending in divorce.

DH's parents have been married 40 years and have been through many ups and downs, but his role model for family is based on getting married for life which I find incredibly reassuring.

Every day we choose each other. In 15 years we have been through almost everything together, including a 6 month hiatus away from the relationship before we were engaged. When we came back together, it was a commitment to one another that this was is it. We are chosing each other. It isn't always easy, but knowing that I have someone who is in it as much as I am is the greatest gift. For us, divorce is not an option.

rccola1981 · July 2014

I agree with the article, but as @lindsayandjamie‌ points out in her description of her parents, both partners need the commitment...a friend of ours is struggling with her marriage because her husband isn't willing to try to make it work, even though she has been. DH is more close to her and when she confides in him he comes home even more determined to make sure I know he isn't going anywhere.

cloudymeatballs12 · July 2014

Agreed with everyone. This was a great article and I feel that people are always in such a rush to run and throw in the towel. It seems as if divorce is easier than getting married. It is sad anymore. Things won't always be easy, but it take two committed people to keep it working. It is something that should never be taken lightly. Two people make vows to each other. The vows should mean more to most people. It is good seeing you ladies still take marriage as a blessing. Something sacred.

I don't always like my H but I always love him..

Bubblegum5586 · July 2014

Thank you for this great article! H and I have been married 9 months and it has been so great so far (together for 8 years and lived together 4 years), but I know it wont always be this blissful awesome feeling (I mean we still argue and bicker, but it's pretty tame). I like reading (and hearing from other married ladies) of how important the commitment part is.

sgautschi · July 2014

This was a great article. I love how it says at the end that true love follows commitment. So true. I love DH more now than I did when we first started dating, and that's because we both know we are committed to each other. We know that no matter what, we will be there for each other. There have been days where I have been irritated with him, but I have never doubted that we will be together forever.

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