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Another wedding question - is there anything you would have done differently?

I loooove wedding talk.  I have tried to talk DH into a vow renewal just because I want to plan another one.

There is a lot I would do differently, but most definitely I would have switched photographers after our engagement session.  I was already a little leery after I first met with him, because while I was asking him questions he was all like "Wow, this is like a job interview!" and I was like "....".  Really, really should have switched photographers.

Also, makeup and hair, because I was too shy to say anything about it.
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Re: Another wedding question - is there anything you would have done differently?

  • I would have given myself more time to get my hair and makeup done- I was late. Other than that I don't think I would change anything.
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  • I would have remembered to get the marriage license BEFORE the wedding ceremony. Doh!


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  • Photographer. Wedding party would have been smaller. Photographer. Photographer. Photographer.
  • I would have paid for an extra hour. I didn't have much time to dance & just hang out.

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  • I would NOT have done my own flowers. Yes, it was cheap, but dealing with live flowers 24 hours prewedding when none of us had any experience arranging flowers was SO SO stressful. We made all the bouquets, boutonnieres, centerpieces, etc.
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  • I would have tried to make a few of my plans more clear to the DJ and caterer. We had a couple of hiccups that I'm still a little bitter about because I thought I had explained exactly what I wanted and they did something else entirely. Nothing too serious, but I do wish it had gone the way we planned.

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  • The only thing I wish had been different was the weather, and there's really nothing I could do about that. Stupid early spring in Ohio.....

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  • I would have had a longer reception and possibly not gotten married in July. I was a sweat ball before the ceremony even started. But we made the news for it so I guess it evens out. :) Also, I would have been more stern with the photographer so we didn't have to do a second photo session with a different photog to get some of the pictures on my list.
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  • I would have done it in the evening so there was more time for hair & makeup. We were late and there wasn't any time for some of the before pictures I wanted. I probably would have done different colors, too.
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  • I would have cared more about my weight- I was about 30 pounds heavier. I also wish I had done more dress shopping and not gone with the very first one.

    Other than that, the rest was amazing!
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  • We did a destination wedding and the venue didn't include a dance portion so we went to the disco, while it was fun, it wasn't very wedding-y so I feel like we missed out on that but I'm not sure what else I could do to make it work so it isn't a regret really. 

    Also, I would have given DH an upper after dinner so he wasn't so tired (and anxious to go back to the room to consumate!).  I was not done partying at the disco and missed out on a good time because DH was exhausted.  And usually he is the party animal so it was a surprise.

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  • I would have changed officiants, but really I didn't have a problem with him until the wedding day.  He did fine for the ceremony, but was late.
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  • I would have stayed longer at the reception and not had a sit down dinner. Dinner took too long, and we only had an hour after to cut the cake, toasts, dances, and bouquet/garter. We left when the photographer left, and while I loved the pictures of us leaving. I wish I would have spent more time with the older guests at dinner and our friends for the dancing. I felt like we didn't spend enough time just celebrating and being with our guests. DH was also anxious to get back to the hotel room...
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  • I would have gone with my gut and let the girls pick their own dresses in the color scheme I picked out. 

    I would have not let my mom convince me I'd found "the dress" when I wasn't sure I loved it. 

    I would have washed off my makeup and started again. I didn't love the "darkness/gold" color that was chosen, but didn't want to speak up, because I couldn't do it better than she could. 

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  • I would have eloped SATC-style. I'm glad everyone was there, but it seems like a huge waste of money looking back on it. I'm just happy to be married. I didn't care about all the other stuff, so I planned the wedding everyone expected us to have. I was so ambivalent about everything. I loved my shoes, photographer, and flowers. The venue was amazing, but it just doesn't seem worth it now.
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  • I'm actually really happy with how it turned out. My mom gave us X amount (same that she gave my sister) and we took half of it and immediately put it into our new house because weddings are one day but kitchens last forever! Then we made the wedding work with the other half and it was beautiful and an amazing time!!

    If there was one thing I HAD to pick, I would say I wish I had a smaller bridal party. But no regrets.

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  • I would get a different PHOTOGRAPHER!!! Mine SUCKED!  I never got any pics of our centerpieces or any pretty ones of the venue.  This is my one and only thing really.  It turned out beautiful and we had a blast.  Loved my dress, venue, how it all turned out, but my photographer!  GRRRRR  I ended up editing his photos.  Still haven't gotten my photo book or any of that either.  He was horrible.  Ya I am still a little bitter on this one.  Lol
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  • I would get a different PHOTOGRAPHER!!! Mine SUCKED!  I never got any pics of our centerpieces or any pretty ones of the venue.  This is my one and only thing really.  It turned out beautiful and we had a blast.  Loved my dress, venue, how it all turned out, but my photographer!  GRRRRR  I ended up editing his photos.  Still haven't gotten my photo book or any of that either.  He was horrible.  Ya I am still a little bitter on this one.  Lol

    My photographer (a friend from high school) said it took her a year to get her wedding photos. A YEAR. She said her limit was 90 days because she never wanted someone to go through what she went through.

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  • I wish we would have done a first look, added another hour to the reception, got a different photographer and videographer.  Everything else was perfect though!
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  • I would have had less to drink at the rehearsal dinner....oops.

    I kinda wish we had done our last dance differently.  The DJ talked over the whole thing (even though he hadn't talked much the rest of the evening) and I just wanted to enjoy that moment with DH.
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  • lfk2013 said:
    I would get a different PHOTOGRAPHER!!! Mine SUCKED!  I never got any pics of our centerpieces or any pretty ones of the venue.  This is my one and only thing really.  It turned out beautiful and we had a blast.  Loved my dress, venue, how it all turned out, but my photographer!  GRRRRR  I ended up editing his photos.  Still haven't gotten my photo book or any of that either.  He was horrible.  Ya I am still a little bitter on this one.  Lol
    My photographer (a friend from high school) said it took her a year to get her wedding photos. A YEAR. She said her limit was 90 days because she never wanted someone to go through what she went through.
    Well, I am partially to blame on this though. Lol, I didn't love any of the pics of us really, so it took me a LONG time to finally put it all together.  I think I am just going to finally make my own copies.  I have for our parents and such.  I just want the darn coffee table book we paid for.  The guy won't answer us.  Last time we talked with him he told us that he no longer is doing photography, obviously he sucked!  He told us to send them and he will get them back to us.  Well I figured it all out, and he wont respond to emails phone calls nothing. We may be fuxxd
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    We did a very quick outdoor ceremony, so we didn't have chairs.  We just let people stand around.  One of my favourite parts of a wedding is when everyone stands when the bride walks out and I wish I would have had that.  Otherwise, I wouldn't change a thing.
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  • I'd have gone with my initial feeling and had one of my friends as MOH instead of my cousin, in fact I think I'd have made my cousin just a guest. I'd have also only had one flower girl as the other MOHs daughter would not quit screaming during our ceremony...I also should have done more to incorporate DHs female best friend...her husband was a groomsmen and she was a reader, but now their marriage isn't doing well and I feel like it would've been nicer if shed been a groomswoman.
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  • Spent the money on a professional photographer.  We had a friend do them, who wasn't crazy experienced, and certainly did not know how to handle the light in the atrium of the hotel. They're horrible.  Plus, my GMIL wore a lime green dress.
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  • BeeLuBeeLu member
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    Told my sister not to eat the dinner at the rehearsal dinner. She has a sensitive stomach and woke up super sick the morning of the wedding. That required an emergency call to the doctor...

    Other than that, I loved everything about our wedding, really. There were a few small hitches (we came in the wrong door for our entrance, etc.), but it was fine, I can roll with it.

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