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parents + inlaws = worlds colliding?

Here is my Monday random.

DH and I, my parents and his parents live in 3 different states.  The only interaction our parents have had was last year during OOT shower weekend and then wedding weekend, and that was with additional people around. 

Today when my parents left after visiting to drive back to their state they accepted an invitation from the in laws to meet them for lunch at a spot that is on their route and near where in laws live.

My imagination has been running wild thinking of what they talked about.  I feel like a kid again being nervous about my parents going to the parent teacher conference.  Did they tell embarrassing stores from my youth?  Did they hear embarrassing stories about DH? Oh to have been a fly on the wall....

Re: parents + inlaws = worlds colliding?

  • We live in 3 different states too. My in laws moved about 4.5 years ago and my parents usually take a vacation near their area. They started making plans to get together for dinner when my parents are in the area. They've done it the last 3 years. I always worry my parents will be embarrassing, ha! But my in laws are cool and wouldn't hold it against me. I'm sure they never really talk about us a and embarrassing stories about us, but my parents can be just embarrassing!

    Anyways they always have a great time and it makes me happy that they get along so well they will hang out even without us! Certainly better than the alternative!
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  • lol, I think it is easiest to just be happy they get along and not worry about what they spent their time discussing! 
  • csuavecsuave member
    Seventh Anniversary 500 Comments 250 Love Its Name Dropper
    Early reports are that the parent-parent conference was a good time for all.  It is nice that they are friends even though they live in different states :)
  • kris356kris356 member
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    edited July 2014
    I'm with Amanda, just be glad they like each other.

    We've been married eleven years and I can count on one hand how many times my parents and in-laws have been in the same place. My MIL bought a car from my dad, my shower, our rehearsal dinner and our wedding. To be fair, they really have nothing in common so I don't find it weird at all. Now one of  my sister's IL see my parents often. My dad actually golfs with my BIL and his dad often.

    ETA: we have been together since high school, so add another 12 years to that. :-O
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    "He is your friend, your partner, your defender, your dog. You are his life, his love, his leader. He will be yours, faithful and true, to the last beat of his heart. You owe it to him to be worthy of such devotion." - Unknown 

  • Agree with Kris and Amanda. I have 2 sets of in-laws and my parents and they have zero in common so I don't really think it's that weird that they don't socialize. Both sets of in-laws are far apart in NY and my parents live next door to us so it's inevitable that there will be some amount of socializing when C's parents visit, however, it's always a little strained and uncomfortable. Be glad your in-laws are interested in your folks! ;)
    Ryan & Casey Married July 17, 2004
    Gabriel John Born February 23, 2012

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  •  it's always a little strained and uncomfortable. Be glad your in-laws are interested in your folks! ;)
    This 100%
     
  • lishielishie member
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    My parents live near us, and MIL is in a different state. Usually she comes in and stays with us about a week when she comes to visit. She doesn't drive, so at least one day each trip my parents come over when I'm at work and take her out to Lunch. DH and I have been together 17 years, and my parents and MIL know each other well, and I still always wonder what they talk about--whether they discuss what DH and I do, etc. Though I know when my dad is around the only thing he wants to talk about are his two grandsons. :)
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  • My parents and IL's live in different states as well too. They were all in town when DS was born, but we tried to get them to come to the hospital in shifts (DS was in the NICU and we could only have 4 people including ourselves back at a time) so they wouldn't have to sit around our tiny, hot hospital room. MIL, who thinks the whole world is out to get her, felt like we were keeping her away from my family on purpose because I don't like her (for some reason this is her thing lately even though nothing has changed, but this is par for the course for her). Really they all get along fine when they're together, we were just trying to be nice and make sure nobody was spending hours in the boring hospital ;-)  Oh well! Glad they get along on the rare occasions they are together.
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