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OkCupid
I just wanted to post this because I find it amusing--My husband and I are only a 51% match on OkCupid, and 13% enemy.
When he first created his account, just to see what our match percentage would be, we were only a 17% match. The more questions he and I each answer, the more amused I am by how incompatible it thinks we are. Four and a half years together say otherwise.
(My roommate and I, meanwhile, are an 89% match and only 6% enemy. According to OkCupid, I clearly should've married her. xD)
When he first created his account, just to see what our match percentage would be, we were only a 17% match. The more questions he and I each answer, the more amused I am by how incompatible it thinks we are. Four and a half years together say otherwise.
(My roommate and I, meanwhile, are an 89% match and only 6% enemy. According to OkCupid, I clearly should've married her. xD)
Re: OkCupid
And yes, there are plenty of people who believe they're compatible for years before something happens to reveal otherwise. So if the amount of time you've been together is your only benchmark, statistically speaking you should probably give it a few more years.
But now that you've brought it up, I'm surprised. Most people I get along at all with are up in the 70th percentile at least, since you can choose how important an answer is to you. Out of curiosity, what were the important questions that you and your H answered differently? And if they're important to you, why don't you care that the other's opinion differs? How many questions have you answered? (I assume you've answered more than the minimum number of questions, since no one has decent statistics with so few responses.)
The number of questions my husband and I have both answered is somewhere around a hundred. (When he had only answered the minimum number, that's when it told us we were only a 17% match, which cracked us both up.) We match really well on lifestyle and ethics questions; the ones we don't match on are silly, petty things like whether spelling mistakes bother us or...well, basically how we feel about other people on things that I don't really feel affect compatibility all that much (Does it bother you when other people ____? Sure it does, and it doesn't bother my husband do we disagree on that, but neither of us do that so it doesn't really matter.).