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Some people have zero tact (pr related?...not really)

Yet another story of people who do to get that you just don't ask this shit....

I was closing a client and her family from my caseload today... As I'm leaving grandma (who is a bigger woman) comes up to me and goes

'so when are you due??'
'Excuse me???'-me
'I asked when you were due?'
'Uh I'm sorry what??' (Giving her another chance to not ask me)
'Yea you are pregnant... When are you due?'
'Uh.... Not now.. Maybe someday' and I walked out of her house...

Insult to injury... Knife to the ute cramps today from CD1 so bad I want to vomit :(
Ashley & Jeremy 10/10/10

Getting fit for IVF! :) (add another 20lbs and you have my total weight lost! :) )

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Re: Some people have zero tact (pr related?...not really)

  • Ugh. I'm sorry. That's just awful. What a jerk!!
  • Ugh some people are SO dense! I'm sorry!!

    (The other day at the car dealership the financing guy said "Wow, you really wanted to wait a long time to start a family huh, that's different". EFFFYYYOOOUUUU)

    Lilypie - XkBoLilypie - WuYI
    Me(27) PCOS, Hypothyroidism & Incompetent Cervix  DH(29) Azoospermia
    4/11- 12/11 Provera, 3 cycles clomid 50mg, all BFN (HSG-all clear)
    Dec 2011 DH S/A shows zero count - dx Azoo
    TESE 4/13/12 - Sperm found!! 5 viles frozen
    IVF ICSI #1- (Lupron protocol) 5R 2F 2dt- 2DP & 4CF - BFFN
    IVF ICSI #2-  (Antagonist protocol) Started stims 7/26
    ER 8/8 11R 9F 3dt - 9BF & 7BF (+HPT 8dp3dt)beta 1-184 beta 2- 1699 TWINS! EDD 5/1/13
    <312/9 Joshua David and Zoe Faith born too early at 19w4d due to incompetent cervix <3
    Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers
      LAP Transabdominal Cerclage - 4/15/13 only possibility of carrying my children to term
    IVF ICSI #3.2- (Antagonist Protocol) 7/26 start stims (same day, a year later from J & Z's stim start date!)
    ER - 8/7  19R 9F 3dt of 2 8BF embryos. (+ HPT 7dp3dt) Beta #1- 82.8 Beta #2- 821 Beta 3-7254
    9/11/13 - U/S showed 1 baby HR 135bpm! EDD 4/30/14
    Colin born via c/s 4/7/14 (36w5d) 6lbs 14oz - 8 days in the NICU
    TTC #2 - IVF 4 - July 2015 (Antagonist Protocol) 7/10 start stims
    15R 8F 5dt of 1E blast grade BA & 1 blast to freeze!! (+hpt 6dp5dt)
    beta #1-52 beta #2-62 Beta #3-6.5 - CP
    FET - 9/18/15 (+hpt 5dp5dt) beta #1 -225.1 beta #2-2468 beta #3-21,352
    10/29 - U/S shows 1 bean! HR 151 EDD 6/7/16 It's a BOY!
    5/18/16 Jacob born via c/s (37w 1d) 9lbs .8oz 19in - 6 days in the NICU



  • I hate that. People can be so rude. 

    My aunt had that happen to her (she's never had kids and is now in her 50s)
    She was visiting us in a fairly small town, but where we didn't actually know EVERYONE. a woman on the street as they were walking to a store asked her when she was due. She said "Oh I'm just fat, not pregnant" The woman persisted asking her like 5 times, each time my aunt denying it and saying no, honestly I'm just heavy. finally she looked at my mom and says "when am i due again" so they made up some bogus answer. 
    fast forward to 2 years later, same lady meets my aunt and mom on the street again, and says to my aunt "Oh that's so great you're pregnant again!" My aunt looked at my mom, rolled her eyes, and says to the lady " yeah this time its twins!" 

    UGH people are so rude!
    When I was 17, and nowhere near the heaviest I have been, but still overweight, I was wearing a baggy denim shirt and leggings on a greyhound bus trip. We stopped at some town for a half hour meal break and as I got off the bus I stretched, with my hands on the small of my back. An older woman asked me when I was due. I looked at her like she was crazy and told her I was only 17 and had never even kissed a guy.... she was shocked at that. 
    ~Jenny~
  • I'm sorry. People don't realize how much their ignorance can hurt others.
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  • Wtf how dense can someone be?? I'm sorry you had to deal with that and the b*** AF on top of it. :(

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  • What the hell??? 

    And the fact that people don't even have enough common sense to take back a question like that when you don't immediately respond with a due date just baffles me even more. Keep your effing mouths shut if you don't know the person, people!! 

    My friend got asked once, too. After having 2 babies and not being able to get rid of the weight. The woman kept insisting. Why the fuck would someone deny being pregnant to a total stranger to make the stranger keep asking?!? 

    And it blows even more that AF showed up. Ugh. I'm sorry.
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  • I'm sorry you had to deal with that!

    People have been asking me since I was 18 years old. It used to really hurt my feelings. Recently, it has started pissing me off more than anything. It always seems to be strangers too. Some people just have no common sense. And frankly, what's going on in another person's uterus, whether pregnant or not, really isn't a stranger's business anyway.

    I swear, one of these days I am going to go off on some stranger who asks me.



    Me: PCOS and Hypothyroidism.
    Currently on Metformin and Synthroid
    BFP: 10.7.14
    EDD: 6.15.15

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  • Ugh some people are SO dense! I'm sorry!!

    (The other day at the car dealership the financing guy said "Wow, you really wanted to wait a long time to start a family huh, that's different". EFFFYYYOOOUUUU)
    Wait- aren't you super young?
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  • WTF people. Seriously. I'm sorry that happened to you. 

    Married August 2009

    3 years. 5 losses.

    Our rainbow baby boy born 11.16.15

  • I'm sorry you had to deal with that!

    People have been asking me since I was 18 years old. It used to really hurt my feelings. Recently, it has started pissing me off more than anything. It always seems to be strangers too. Some people just have no common sense. And frankly, what's going on in another person's uterus, whether pregnant or not, really isn't a stranger's business anyway.

    I swear, one of these days I am going to go off on some stranger who asks me.
    I feel like I could have written this...it used to be very embarrassing for me, but now usually just give them a look before answering with a snotty tone.
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  • I'm sorry :(

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  • People just plain suck. I think they just like to prove it every so often.
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  • Ugh! Why do people think that is acceptable???
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  • WTF is wrong with people?! Even if a person is pregnant it's so inappropriate for a stranger that you'll see for 2 minutes of your life to get all up in your business. Go away with that nonsense!

    Sorry @OceanHutt‌ and the other ladies who have dealt with tacky people in this world!


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    IVF 1.0 5R/5F/2T (ET 6/11/2014) - no frosties, but BFP 8dp5dt (EDD 3/1/2015) 
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  • abt8113 said:
    Ugh! Why do people think that is acceptable???
    The only reason I can possibly fathom that would make people think it is ok to ask is because pregnancy is, for most, a happy thing. So people think it's ok to ask about happy things to complete strangers. That's my best guess anyway.



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  • What a jerk. I can't believe that after being given the chance to back off, in the same breath, she both told you that you were pregnant and asked you when you were due. I'm sorry you had to deal with that yesterday.

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  • Ugh some people are SO dense! I'm sorry!!

    (The other day at the car dealership the financing guy said "Wow, you really wanted to wait a long time to start a family huh, that's different". EFFFYYYOOOUUUU)
    Wait- aren't you super young?
    We are 26 and 28, so yeah, but have been married over 4 years. (I know its not THAT long, but given my history it stung)

    Lilypie - XkBoLilypie - WuYI
    Me(27) PCOS, Hypothyroidism & Incompetent Cervix  DH(29) Azoospermia
    4/11- 12/11 Provera, 3 cycles clomid 50mg, all BFN (HSG-all clear)
    Dec 2011 DH S/A shows zero count - dx Azoo
    TESE 4/13/12 - Sperm found!! 5 viles frozen
    IVF ICSI #1- (Lupron protocol) 5R 2F 2dt- 2DP & 4CF - BFFN
    IVF ICSI #2-  (Antagonist protocol) Started stims 7/26
    ER 8/8 11R 9F 3dt - 9BF & 7BF (+HPT 8dp3dt)beta 1-184 beta 2- 1699 TWINS! EDD 5/1/13
    <312/9 Joshua David and Zoe Faith born too early at 19w4d due to incompetent cervix <3
    Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers
      LAP Transabdominal Cerclage - 4/15/13 only possibility of carrying my children to term
    IVF ICSI #3.2- (Antagonist Protocol) 7/26 start stims (same day, a year later from J & Z's stim start date!)
    ER - 8/7  19R 9F 3dt of 2 8BF embryos. (+ HPT 7dp3dt) Beta #1- 82.8 Beta #2- 821 Beta 3-7254
    9/11/13 - U/S showed 1 baby HR 135bpm! EDD 4/30/14
    Colin born via c/s 4/7/14 (36w5d) 6lbs 14oz - 8 days in the NICU
    TTC #2 - IVF 4 - July 2015 (Antagonist Protocol) 7/10 start stims
    15R 8F 5dt of 1E blast grade BA & 1 blast to freeze!! (+hpt 6dp5dt)
    beta #1-52 beta #2-62 Beta #3-6.5 - CP
    FET - 9/18/15 (+hpt 5dp5dt) beta #1 -225.1 beta #2-2468 beta #3-21,352
    10/29 - U/S shows 1 bean! HR 151 EDD 6/7/16 It's a BOY!
    5/18/16 Jacob born via c/s (37w 1d) 9lbs .8oz 19in - 6 days in the NICU



  • My friend unfortunately gained some tummy weight on Clomid. She had a co-worker repeatedly ask her if she was sure she wasn't pregnant, even after my friend frankly told her that her weight gain was from fertility treatments.

    Married August 2009

    3 years. 5 losses.

    Our rainbow baby boy born 11.16.15

  • My friend unfortunately gained some tummy weight on Clomid. She had a co-worker repeatedly ask her if she was sure she wasn't pregnant, even after my friend frankly told her that her weight gain was from fertility treatments.

    :-O I've got a good "evil eye" stare, I've been told. I'd be happy to take a pic and send it to all who need to flash it at someone being obnoxious and tactless, especially about nonexistent pregnancies.
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    BFP #2: 12/31/13. B/w 12/31: betas >1000, progesterone 13.6; B/w 1/2: betas 3065, progesterone 10.2
    B/w 1/8: betas 17,345, progesterone 25.6
    Progesterone suppositories started 1/2. Please stick, baby!!
    Fiona Elise born 9/9/14 - welcome beautiful girl!
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  • well...my boss is the therapist taking over the case and she was there.....so i really couldn't be as much of a bitch as i wanted to.... Boss pulled me aside the other day and was like "i am SO proud of you.....i would have punched her....and i stopped and prayed that you hadn't heard her :( " sorry for all you ladies who have been through this....and I have gotten this question my whole life but it hurts a lot more now.... Thanks for the support <3 sorry this took me so long to respond to....mobile nest has been a bitch and i haven't been near my pc :(
    Ashley & Jeremy 10/10/10

    Getting fit for IVF! :) (add another 20lbs and you have my total weight lost! :) )

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