October 2011 Weddings
ldawngirl
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MIL is a hoarder
Okay, maybe not a crazy enough to be on a tv show hoarder, but she's got a LOT of stuff. She is single and lives in a two bedroom condo by herself. She has a large storage locker in the building, and a cabin. She fills all of these spaces and also has a car trunk FULL of stuff. (Not even exaggerating...)
Not really my concern until... shortly after we bought our house, she's been bringing over some stuff here and there. It's always when I'm not around and I find out about it after the fact. And it's crap - stuff that is not important - not important paperwork in case something happens or family mementos. It's just crap. For example, she brought over a box of magazines to store and when I looked at them, I found out they were from 8-10 years ago! She's also brought over old crafting books that she "won't use this year, but doesn't want to get rid of". I just discovered this evening that she brought over a large blue bin of more crap and two large paintings to store.
Here's the thing - we have the room in our house to store stuff, but I am a minimalist and I detest having useless stuff around that WE own. And I don't want the space we have to be taken up by her crap. She has more than enough room for one person and it's getting ridiculous.
I've asked DH to talk to her, but he doesn't or won't and more stuff shows up time and time again. Finally this evening when I saw the latest batch, I flipped out and texted her myself telling her we can't store her stuff and to please take it next time she comes over. And currently DH and I are mad at each other and not speaking, which is typical when MIL issues come up.
Not really my concern until... shortly after we bought our house, she's been bringing over some stuff here and there. It's always when I'm not around and I find out about it after the fact. And it's crap - stuff that is not important - not important paperwork in case something happens or family mementos. It's just crap. For example, she brought over a box of magazines to store and when I looked at them, I found out they were from 8-10 years ago! She's also brought over old crafting books that she "won't use this year, but doesn't want to get rid of". I just discovered this evening that she brought over a large blue bin of more crap and two large paintings to store.
Here's the thing - we have the room in our house to store stuff, but I am a minimalist and I detest having useless stuff around that WE own. And I don't want the space we have to be taken up by her crap. She has more than enough room for one person and it's getting ridiculous.
I've asked DH to talk to her, but he doesn't or won't and more stuff shows up time and time again. Finally this evening when I saw the latest batch, I flipped out and texted her myself telling her we can't store her stuff and to please take it next time she comes over. And currently DH and I are mad at each other and not speaking, which is typical when MIL issues come up.
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In any case, I would be like you and absolutely not allow her to store anything at your house. If she really wants to store things, she should pay for it, in a rental unit. I am passive aggressive sometimes and would probably just throw anything away that she "left" at my house.
She still hasn't responded to my text but she might have been out at the cabin. I'd I don't hear anything by tomorrow I'll wonder though.
There's a story there @sdose13, but even I don't really know it. She has some serious issues and definitely a piece of work. Very conceited and self involved. Mental issues but not sure what exactly...
She never texted me back but she texted DH about coming over tomorrow morning and picking up the stuff. We'll see what happens.