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too quick to diagnose?
For the past two weeks I've had really bad insomnia. Abby's sleep hasn't been the greatest (due to teething or a sleep regression) which hasn't been helping. The last time this happened to me was almost 4 years ago when I had depression. I decided to go to the doctor.
I went to the conveinient care place in town and saw a physician's assistant. She basically asked me what was going on and what I thought was wrong and diagnosed depression, just like that. She prescribed pills and told me to start taking them right away before I even get blood work done to rule out other things like anemia or a problem with my thyroid.
I forgot to tell her I had anemia in the past after major blood loss and had to go on iron supplements, how I had vertigo, and just a month ago a big bout of dizziness. She didn't ask me if I was feeling sad, helpless, had thoughts of suicide, etc (syptoms of depression) which I don't. I feel she was to quick to diagnose the problem because I self diagnosed. I am not a doctor and didn't know isomnia could be caused by other things.
I am getting blood work done tomorrow and have to have an appointment later in the week to go over the results. I really want see a different doctor and get another opinion (still at the same place). I am worried the new doctor or PA are going to tell me that I already have a diagnosis and not listen to me.
How should I address the new doctor or PA I see? Please help me figure this out. Thanks!
I went to the conveinient care place in town and saw a physician's assistant. She basically asked me what was going on and what I thought was wrong and diagnosed depression, just like that. She prescribed pills and told me to start taking them right away before I even get blood work done to rule out other things like anemia or a problem with my thyroid.
I forgot to tell her I had anemia in the past after major blood loss and had to go on iron supplements, how I had vertigo, and just a month ago a big bout of dizziness. She didn't ask me if I was feeling sad, helpless, had thoughts of suicide, etc (syptoms of depression) which I don't. I feel she was to quick to diagnose the problem because I self diagnosed. I am not a doctor and didn't know isomnia could be caused by other things.
I am getting blood work done tomorrow and have to have an appointment later in the week to go over the results. I really want see a different doctor and get another opinion (still at the same place). I am worried the new doctor or PA are going to tell me that I already have a diagnosis and not listen to me.
How should I address the new doctor or PA I see? Please help me figure this out. Thanks!
Re: too quick to diagnose?
Thank you so much for taking the time to read my book of a post and responding so quickly. You asked me more questions and gave me more suggestions than the PA did. 1-3 are all great ideas and I love the way you said to word #2 when I see a new person. Exactly the wording I was looking for, but didn't know how to express.
As far as #4 I think the main reason I have trouble falling asleep is because Abby usually wakes up every two hours, sometimes every hour. This has happened for a couple of weeks now and we are trying to fix it, it is a natural regression and I think she's been teething off an on. She goes to bed at 9:30 and usually is up by midnight for a diaper change. If I go to bed at 10 most of the time I can't fall asleep because I know I'll be up with her soon. This continues the rest of the night. So I am worrying about when she'll be up. Before bed I usually check fb, pinterest, and here. Sometimes I'll watch a show. I have a small snack and some milk before getting ready for bed. If I can't sleep I just toss and turn all night. I try really hard to not look at the clock because that makes it worse.
We feel the same way as far as natural medicine or changes to diet/routine before medicine. I was medicated for a year 4 years ago, but there was no doubt about the diagnosis and I needed the meds.
Thanks again for all your input:
As for you not sleeping. I get that. For me it's actually on the nights Lily sleeps the whole night thru. I'm used to her waking at least once sometimes twice. So when she sleeps all night I wake up every few hours and have a bad night. Do you nap during the day when Abby naps?? It could be a way to get more sleep in for yourself?? Do you co-sleep? Co-sleeping was my way of getting the sleep I needed so I could take care of Lily all day so P wouldn't have to get up a lot at night so he could get his sleep. I know co-sleeping isn't for everyone. Maybe you could trade off with DH on getting up at night. Or have him get up with her first wake up. Then he can sleep while you get up the rest of the night? Just suggestions.
It helps to know Lily has a late bedtime too. I try to nap when Abby naps, but her naps are only 45 mins and by the time I get to sleep she's up. We coslept and had 2 close calls which is why we decided to try putting her in her own room to sleep. I am thinking about going back to cosleeping if it means I could have more sleep. Figuring this sleeping stuff out is tough. I ask my mil and mom for advice and they are completely different. My mom let me cry it out while my mil rocked dh to sleep until he was at least 2. Neither if them like cosleeping. I know I am the parent and know what is best. Are you worried about making the transition from cosleeping to not cosleeping later?
Neither my mom or MIl like the co sleeping but I pointed out everyone parents differently. My mom let me cry it out. Each kid is different too. I know cry it out works amazing on some kids but not others. It's just finding what works best for the parent and the kid.
I know you bought a toddler bed for Abby. Can you lay on the floor or make a pallet next to her bed instead of taking her to your bed? If you are worried about co- sleeping.
My mom let me cry it out too. My mil rocked my husband to sleep until he was 2. Neither coslept. I actualy tried bringing Abby to our bed last night and she wanted no part of it. She couldn't settle between dh and I. She has a cold now with a low fever or maybe it is teething. I have a foam mattress pad I sleep on most nights in her room. I have to remember she coslept with us almost 3 months and is now in her own bed in her own room. It is going to take time for her to get used to it. I still give Abby milk at night if she can't settle which my mom says makes things worse and mil says is ok.
Yesterday I asked a good friend about what happened with the depression diagnosis (she's a Physician's Assistant) and while she agreed the lady took a short cut, she also gave me advice to let Abby cry it out or I will never sleep. She said Abby has to learn. Ugh! I was so upset. She isn't a parent yet and told me she is sure that is what she will do when she becomes a mom.
Maybe Abby is just going through a rough patch. She could be mastering a new skill or growing. I know that can affect their moods and sleeping.