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Showers

DH and I were discussing our shower the other day and both really don't know what the protocal is or what people do these days. Did you throw, host, or plan your own shower? Did anyone throw one for you?

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Re: Showers

  • My work threw a shower for me, and our moms threw one. I know some people do couples showers, but that's really not our style. Both showers were planned for us and hosted by others. In general, like wedding showers, its kinda tacky and seen as gift grabby to host your own.

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  • Someone hosts the shower for you.

    My aunts will do one for my dads side and my moms side.  Then H's cousin is doing one for his side.  So I will end up having 3 showers, but this is how it was for my wedding also.  My work is also planning to throw me a shower, but that will be after baby is born since we aren't finding out the sex.

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  • Thanks! I would not be doing a couples shower either. I know my Mom and DH's mom will probably want to help plan it but I know my Mom can't handle the financial burden of throwing a shower right now so DH and I would like to put money toward the event without guests knowing.




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  • someone hosted my showers.

    I had one with my family in Ohio, one with our friends and family on the east coast where we live, and one at work.

  • Would it be tacky if we paid for the restaurant bill or at least half the bill but my Mom and MIL "hosted" it. They did everything else for it and no one knew we were paying the bill.

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  • I had a hand in planning it, which my mom asked for. But she and others hosted it.

    DH's cousins wife is pregnant with #2 and has already planned her second baby shower (before she was 20w), sent out STD's for it via FB, and it seems that while she has planned it an is having it at her house that someone else is paying for it (at her request? No idea).
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  • My mom hosted, but is not crafty at all, so I made the centerpieces and favors. Generally you don't host your own. We are hosting a "meet the baby" party instead of our usual drunken Christmas party though.

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  • I had one jack and jill shower. My mom and dad hosted and footed the bill, but I helped set the ideas up, party games, make and send out invites, etc. They set up the day of the shower though.

    That's extremely sweet of you paying for some of it.

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  • My mom and her cousin hosted, but I did help out with some of the things.  Like I addressed all the invites to go out, but they did everything else.
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  • If others offer to throw the shower, you can certainly let them know you'd be happy to help with the costs, but let them figure out the other details unless there's something you'd like specifically.

    My SM and sister threw me one shower. They chose where, what food would be served, centerpieces/decorations, everything. They asked me a couple of things, but pretty much took care of it all.

    My MIL threw me another shower. I had nothing to do with any of it (except specifying a few friends to invite). She just held it at her house. It was really nice, but probably not expensive at all, in case your mom/MIL can do that to keep costs down.
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  • My situation was a bit different since I had my baby early and my shower wasn't until a month and half later. They - actually my one friend that was helping plan it wanted to cancel it altogether but everyone else that was helping told her no. (she created a lot of unecesary drama in the process) They wound up having the shower at my house - I had no idea it was going to be there, only the date of the shower. Everyone came to the house while I was at the hospital and set everything up. It was a nice low key day with the exception of the one friend (the one that wanted to cancel). She was so rude to not only me, but to others at the shower, including my MIL. I was pretty close to telling her to leave but decided not to because I didn't want to create a scene in front of people. Other than that the day was perfect.

    There was supposed to be a shower for me at work too but they cancelled it. They still gave me a gift though which was a very generous gift card to buy buy baby :)
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