Gender reveal party?

cloudymeatballs12 · August 2014

I never even thought of this. My MIL called me the other day asking if we were planning on one of these. I told her I hadn't even thought of it. Now she wants to have one. I, honestly, would rather not. It just seems weird to me. Hey guys come on over and lets have a party so you can find out the sex of our baby. Since I am not waiting to find out with everyone else... I want to know as soon as we actually can. I'm excited, I don't want to wait! My FIL asked my H about it again the other day. Now my H thinks it is a good idea. Well, I get it, she is excited and her other DIL isn't one to have her involved in many things, which is why I am thinking of maybe. But it isn't ever a small get together when my fam is involved. I have a huge immediate family!!! We get together, just our side and its like 25 people. So, now I am in a jumble. here. I even asked my Mil if she would want to come to an US with my Mom and us to see what the sex is. Yet she still wants a party. So what do I do??? Lol I know it is our baby and our life, but I think she just wants to celebrate, ?? I don't know. Ugghh questions decisions...

brij2006 · August 2014

I would tell her that you would be okay with a gender reveal for immediate family only. Parents, grandparents, and siblings. Then she can throw you the party, but it won't be a huge shindig.

cloudymeatballs12 · August 2014

I got that. The only thing is, my H has 1 brother, his wife and 2 kids. My side, I have 4 bros 3 sisters, and 12 nieces and nephews!! Lol it will be all my side, and it ends up so big. Is that weird? Also, when she does things, and throws them, she did this with our wedding rehearsal too, she invites her sister and brother and some of her side. I don't know if she does it because my side is so big, but if that is going to happen then my aunts and uncles should be included too, ya know?

Sewilson33 · August 2014

I agree with Brij, explain you do not want a big shindig but if she wants to be surprised and have a small intimate gender reveal party then you won't share the news with them and let them find out there.
I am the same as you, I want to know right away and tell the world! Haha

My SIL did a gender reveal by having the US tech write the sex in an envelope and they brought it to a bakery. The bakery did the cakes inside blue or pink. She was surprising herself as well.
My cousin is doing a gender reveal by throwing a party for themselves and having the nursery painted blue or purple. So we are allll, like 25-30 of us, supposed to go to their house and hover in the hallway while someone opens the door for us.

brij2006 · August 2014

Then I would tell her that you are going to have a small reveal for immediate family at your house, but she is welcome to plan a shower for later and decorate and have as many people there as she would like.

Then it's actually for a purpose rather than, "does the black and white picture show a P or a V?" Especially since it sounds like she enjoys throwing a large party.

LuckyAngel07 · August 2014

Honestly, I'd just tell her she's welcome to throw you guys a baby shower later, but you'd rather not do a big gender reveal party. If they want that "surprise" factor, maybe you guys can just get a bakery to make up a small cake with pink or blue inside and go have dinner with them/BIL's family one night, and you can tell your family however you'd like to.

amccul20 · August 2014

we did something small with our family. we had a family dinner and didn't tell everyone we were going to reveal so the people that were planning on coming to dinner came, the ones that couldn't didn't make a huge effort to get there.

we cut a cake and MIL had a silly game for everyone to play and that was it.

but really just tell her you don't want to if you don't. you may as well start telling her no now because once you give birth you'll want to say it all the time!

sgautschi · August 2014

DH and I are adamant about finding out with just the two of us. If my parents wanted a party they could throw one but DH and I would still find out together beforehand.

iwalktheline · August 2014

We had a very small party. It was us and our parents. We each got a cupcake and found out together. It was kind of nice sharing that moment and letting them feel involved too, but I get that it's not for everyone. I agree with the PPs. If you don't want one, don't have one and let her plan something else.

Venti29 · August 2014

How fun. Let her go at it and enjoy.

Pregnancy is so short and I think you should celebrate it every way you can. If she wants to throw this party, why not? You'll have fun and you'll remember it forever!

FutureMrsWright2012 · August 2014

I agree with PP's... A gender reveal should be reserved for immediate family only (i.e., grandparents-to-be and your close siblings only). My mom recently went to a huge BBQ "sex party" that was essentially like a baby shower (but not, so they can get more gifts later of course), and I thought that was the tackiest thing I had ever heard of... Not to mention this is baby #2 apparently for this couple.

Venti29 · August 2014

The gender reveal I threw a few months back .. 'What will the BEE...' Only her MIL brought a gift. It was fun and fast, just cake.

Venti29 · August 2014

Wait, no.. I served lunch.

Uptowngirl2009 · August 2014

I am thinking of doing this with baby #2 someday. I figured for #1 that I would have my shower and that was enough. For #2 I probably won't be having a formal shower so I thought it would be fun to do a gender reveal.

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