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Discuss: Breastfeeding in a bar
Nutshell: this woman was breastfeeding in a bar, the bar closed her open tab and she's mad about it. Discuss.
http://www.myfoxdfw.com/story/26478792/mothers-bar-tab-cut-off-because-she-was-breastfeeding
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Re: Discuss: Breastfeeding in a bar
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I side with the bar. First of all, I don't think a bar is an appropriate place for a newborn... drinking while bfing aside, there's also the smoke and potentially loud music or whatever to contend with. That's JMO though. I say if you want to go to a bar, get a sitter. I have no problem with public breastfeeding, but I think the bar was right to cut her off if she was going to bf while in there. Had she not been bfing, then it maybe a different story.
In Christ alone my hope is found. He is my LIGHT, my STRENGTH, and my SONG!
T-TTC since Dec 2008. PCOS/nonexistant cycles(anovulation) and endo. HSG in '10 revealed both tubes blocked. Lap surgery in Dec '10 to correct. Failed Clomid/IUI and injectable(Bravelle)/IUI cycles so far.
TTC since 1/13 DX:PCOS 5/13 (long, anovulatory cycles)

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TTC since 1/13 DX:PCOS 5/13 (long, anovulatory cycles)

Clomid 50mg 9/13 = BFP! EDD 6/7/14 M/C 5w6d Found 11/4/13
1/14 PCOS / Gluten Free Diet to hopefully regulate my system.
Chemical Pregnancy 03/14
Surprise BFP 6/14, Beta #1: 126 Beta #2: 340 Stick baby, stick! EDD 2/17/15
Riley Elaine born 2/16/15
TTC 2.0 6/15
Chemical Pregnancy 9/15
Chemical Pregnancy 6/16
BFP 9/16 EDD 6/3/17
Beta #1: 145 Beta #2: 376 Beta #3: 2,225 Beta #4: 4,548
www.5yearstonever.blogspot.com
Okay, it won't let me post the link to the article, so here's the whole thing. This is from lalecheleague.org
What about drinking alcohol and breastfeeding?
Women are often warned to not consume alcohol during pregnancy, as ample evidence has shown that it poses a severe and avoidable risk to her unborn baby. The risks of consuming alcohol while breastfeeding are not as well defined. Breastfeeding mothers receive conflicting advice about whether alcohol consumption can have an effect on their baby, which often leaves mothers feeling like they have more questions than answers. So, what information should a mother who is considering drinking while breastfeeding know?
La Leche League's The Womanly Art Of Breastfeeding (p. 328) says:
La Leche League's The Breastfeeding Answer Book (pp. 597-598) says:
The American Academy of Pediatrics Committee on Drugs considers alcohol compatible with breastfeeding. It lists possible side effects if consumed in large amounts, including: drowsiness, deep sleep, weakness, and abnormal weight gain in the infant, and the possiblity of decreased milk-ejection reflex in the mother. The drug transfer table is available athttp://aappolicy.aappublications.org/cgi/content/full/pediatrics;108/3/776/T6 and the full text of The Transfer of Drugs and Other Chemicals Into Human Milk can be found athttp://aappolicy.aappublications.org/cgi/content/full/pediatrics;108/3/776
Dr. Jack Newman, member of the LLLI Health Advisory Council, says this in his handout "More Breastfeeding Myths":
Thomas W. Hale, R.Ph. Ph.D., member of the LLLI Health Advisory Council, says this in his book Medications and Mothers' Milk (12th ed.):
Important Considerations
Can drinking an alcoholic beverage help me relax and stimulate milk production?
Alcohol consumption has not been shown to stimulate milk production. Studies have found that babies nurse more frequently, but consume less milk in the 3-4 hours after an alcoholic beverage is consumed.
Do I have to pump and dump after drinking an alcoholic beverage?
As alcohol leaves the bloodstream, it leaves the breastmilk. Since alcohol is not "trapped" in breastmilk (it returns to the bloodstream as mother's blood alcohol level declines), pumping and dumping will not remove it. Pumping and dumping, drinking a lot of water, resting, or drinking coffee will not speed up the rate of the elimination of alcohol from your body.
TTC since 1/13 DX:PCOS 5/13 (long, anovulatory cycles)

Clomid 50mg 9/13 = BFP! EDD 6/7/14 M/C 5w6d Found 11/4/13
1/14 PCOS / Gluten Free Diet to hopefully regulate my system.
Chemical Pregnancy 03/14
Surprise BFP 6/14, Beta #1: 126 Beta #2: 340 Stick baby, stick! EDD 2/17/15
Riley Elaine born 2/16/15
TTC 2.0 6/15
Chemical Pregnancy 9/15
Chemical Pregnancy 6/16
BFP 9/16 EDD 6/3/17
Beta #1: 145 Beta #2: 376 Beta #3: 2,225 Beta #4: 4,548
www.5yearstonever.blogspot.com
To clarify - I don't have a problem with women drinking while breastfeeding in general, but I don't think it's wise to drink WHILE you're breastfeeding in a public place, especially a bar.. as in, simultaneously.. drink in one hand, baby on the boob. I'm not arguing the choice to drink while breastfeeding in general (or even while pregnant to some degree), I just think the bar was right to close her tab while she was there in that moment, drinking and bfing. The bar has to protect themselves and honestly, if I saw a mother with a beer in one hand while feeding her baby, I'd probably give it a good long side eye.
ETA: If anyone wants to drink while breastfeeding while at home or somewhere more private/intimate, have at it. I think this particular woman should've thought about the ramifications of doing so in front of a bunch of strangers at a bar or grill or whatever.. It's not too far fetched to think a bar would frown upon that in their establishment.
In Christ alone my hope is found. He is my LIGHT, my STRENGTH, and my SONG!
T-TTC since Dec 2008. PCOS/nonexistant cycles(anovulation) and endo. HSG in '10 revealed both tubes blocked. Lap surgery in Dec '10 to correct. Failed Clomid/IUI and injectable(Bravelle)/IUI cycles so far.
TTC since 1/13 DX:PCOS 5/13 (long, anovulatory cycles)

Clomid 50mg 9/13 = BFP! EDD 6/7/14 M/C 5w6d Found 11/4/13
1/14 PCOS / Gluten Free Diet to hopefully regulate my system.
Chemical Pregnancy 03/14
Surprise BFP 6/14, Beta #1: 126 Beta #2: 340 Stick baby, stick! EDD 2/17/15
Riley Elaine born 2/16/15
TTC 2.0 6/15
Chemical Pregnancy 9/15
Chemical Pregnancy 6/16
BFP 9/16 EDD 6/3/17
Beta #1: 145 Beta #2: 376 Beta #3: 2,225 Beta #4: 4,548
www.5yearstonever.blogspot.com
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But eh, we all judge things in life. I'm sure some will judge me and I know I've judged my fair share of things.
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If she was only having one beer, at dinner time, and wasn't doing shots and slamming back vodkas, I don't see the big issue bring baby to a 'bar' although it sounds more like a restaurant.
BR
I have definitely had a drink while nursing simultaneously because I knew my breast milk would not have alcohol in it while I was consuming it and by the time it was go-time again, I would have processed it. It was always max 1 glass of wine and only once baby was about 4-5 months old. It wasn't at a bar or restaurant but that has more to do with my opposition to driving my child with even one drink in my system, and not about judgy eyes.
TTC#1 July 2010 PCOS dx April 2011 DS born: February 21, 2012
TTC#2 June 2013 MMC Sept 2013 (partial molar), CP 02/2014 DS2 born: December 5, 2014
I think this sounds like a restaurant.
I think/know it's fine for someone to have one or two drinks and bf. Bf while drinking simultaneously is actually the best way to do it. The alcohol hits your blood stream while the baby is finishing up, and by the time the baby is ready to bf again, hour(s) have passed.
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Baby Boy M - 08/01/2013
The tab that is, one drink.. Eh, opening a tab? No.