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Appropriate or inappropriate

I would like to send a sympathy basket to someone who lost a close family member. Is this basket appropriate http://www.gifttree.com/p3/6743/Encore_Gourmet_Gift_Basket-1.html 

or should I stick to a fruit basket?


Re: Appropriate or inappropriate

  • I can only go from my own experience, but when my first husband passed away they last thing I wanted to eat was chocolate and cookies.  I would stick with the fruit basket.
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    vlagrl29 said:
    I can only go from my own experience, but when my first husband passed away they last thing I wanted to eat was chocolate and cookies.  I would stick with the fruit basket.
    Very sorry for you loss. Yeah maybe I should stick to a fruit basket. I also saw this (a tea basket) but still fruit?? 
  • vlagrl29 said:
    I can only go from my own experience, but when my first husband passed away they last thing I wanted to eat was chocolate and cookies.  I would stick with the fruit basket.
    Very sorry for you loss. Yeah maybe I should stick to a fruit basket. I also saw this (a tea basket) but still fruit?? 
    It was 7 years ago next month.  It seems like a very long time ago.  Life is so much different now that i barely think about it.  A tea basket sounds great.  Some tea's can be calming like camomile tea.  It can calm nerves.
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  • When my father died several years back we had so many fruit baskets sent to us it was crazy. My mom runs a daycare so the kids loved it but it didn't have a ton of meaning for us after the 7th basket. I would try and send the tea basket. It is just something a little different but still thoughtful and applicable to the situation.

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  • Agree about skipping the fruit.  Also, I'd recommend never sending a potted plant.  Sometimes people get weird attachments to them.  (I did - I cried when I threw the ones away from my dad's funeral, and my mom still has several from over seven years ago - and they look terrible.)  Stamps and blank thank you cards would be nice.  They'll need lots of those.
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  • I guess I'm the oddball here. I'd love the first basket followed by the teatime basket. I'm just not a fruit person. Plus, if they get a lot of them, you have to work to eat it all before it goes bad.
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  • I also vote tea basket, unless you know for a fact that the family are big chocoholics.  Definitely keep it non-perishable, whatever it is.  Definitely not fruit.  Whenever I get gifted fruit I always feel super stressed out about eating it all in time.
  • Depends on the person - so it helps if you know the person well. 

    Personally i'd much rather have that basket then tea or fruit! I don't drink tea and fruit just ends up spoiling. Its a lot better then watching flowers die. 
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  • I think the tea basket is sweet. I also don't think there is anything wrong with the first one. It's a very thoughtful thing to do either way.


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