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I have a glorious idea.

We are going to skip Thanksgiving this year.*

We host every year. H's family and my family come. We've done this for years. However... I'll either be very newly pregnant and don't want the stress, OR I'll not be pregnant and will want no part of being thankful and family time. H doesn't like going elsewhere because he wants to eat, sleep and watch football in sweatpants on his own couch.

Perfect solution right?

*I haven't run this by him. I am just thrilled with the brilliance though. :)
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Re: I have a glorious idea.

  • Sounds like a great plan. We're skipping Christmas this year and going to NYC, just the two of us.
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  • I skipped Christmas last year and I didn't miss it one bit. Didn't decorate or have a tree, didn't have to worry about accommodating every last family member, didn't give two craps about the cards with happy looking people on them that I got in the mail and promptly threw out. A big, joyous pain in my ass production was exactly the opposite of what I needed at that time.

    I don't like you but I like and approve this message. Skip a holiday once in a while for your sanity.
  • I think it is indeed a glorious idea! If that's what makes you happy, I'm all for it!
  • An excellent idea! I'm always for reducing stress, and that sounds like an excellent way to do so.

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  • Great idea! I love the holidays, but I know how stressful they are to so many people. I say skip them if you can!
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  • I think it's a great idea.  Dh and I have talked about skipping Thanksgiving this year too.  We both pretty much hate holidays (minus Halloween of course) and family time for the most part, and Thanksgiving is an easy one for us to just skip.  

    I hope your Dh is on board!
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  • Yep. It sounds like a fantastic idea to me.

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  • Yep. Family holidays are always a mixed bag. I've skipped a few too.
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  • It's a great idea!
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  • MH1006 said:



    I don't like you but I like and approve this

    Please enlighten me. What have I done to offend you?

    ONCE I did flame you, and I realized that I was wrong and apologized. My apology was sincere.

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  • We will definitely still have turkey, plus a bunch of awesome foods. Just minus the family. :)
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  • I think it is nice to mix things up once in a while.
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  • MH1006 said:



    I don't like you but I like and approve this

    Please enlighten me. What have I done to offend you?

    ONCE I did flame you, and I realized that I was wrong and apologized. My apology was sincere.

    Not a fan. Sue me. I do think it's a great idea and I say you go girl. Just can't have anyone thinking I'm going soft so I have to add the "I don't like you but..." in there if I'm going to agree with any of the monsters on here.

    Carry on.
  • We did that couple years ago.   I say go for it! 
  • That sounds really nice.

    This year we decided we would invite our families for Thanksgiving instead of going to FIL's for the weekend, which we usually do because it takes over a day to get to my parents' and only 6 hours to FIL's. It looks like DH's side won't make it, so it may just be us and my parents. We're thrilled because we love spending time with them, but I'm sure if we had hosted a lot in the past, a break would be fantastic.

    Enjoy!

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  • That is a wonderful idea ILRV! I second Aimothy's suggestion, but replace turkey with ham. I love Thanksgiving ham and stuffing.
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  • We will definitely still have turkey, plus a bunch of awesome foods. Just minus the family. :)
    That sounds like an awesome plan. More stuffing for you!
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  • If I could skip a holiday I would in a heart beat. I am very jealous of you for doing this! But I do agree with Aimothy that you must make yourself a mini Thanksgiving meal regardless.


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  • I know that my DH would be perfectly fine with skipping holidays and we don't even host, so I say go for it. Just enjoy something small with the two of you. I know some grocery stores make thanksgiving meals, maybe you can just pick one up. :)

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  • Also I have everything crossed that you are newly pregnant. ;)

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  • we actually skipped thanksgiving in 2011-it was one month after my third miscarriage and i was pretty much angry, depressed, and generally not feeling like dealing with it. so, we stayed home. we cooked our own little thanksgiving meal, DH got to actually WATCH football for a change, i watched the parade in my pj's in bed. it honestly was a good decision for us. we were content, not stressed, not exhausted, and actually had leftovers (instead of only having a little from whoever gave us some of theirs). so i totally vote to skip! i think it's much needed sometimes, for whatever the reason may be, even if there's not much of a reason at all!
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  • That sounds like a wonderful idea. 

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    3 years. 5 losses.

    Our rainbow baby boy born 11.16.15

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