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Re: american parenting is killing the american marriage
I watched my parents marriage fall apart after we became teenagers because my mom's sole focus was on us kids and never my dad. So once we became independent and didn't need them for everything, they realized they had nothing left of each other.
I refuse to allow that to happen to my marriage. I understand putting your children's welfare first, food, shelter, love, affection, well-being. But it's also important to make them independent so you can keep up your relationship with your spouse without it having to be at some little persons mercy 24/7.
My child is well rounded, social, loving, helpful, independent, and is no lacking I'm any area in his life because I put my husband first. I hope in the future he and his spouse take this same advice and apply it to their marriage.
But I'm also not going to pretend that chases 12 years on this earth have been easy, because it's been anything but. We spent 10 years in total hell over his out of control behavior and I don't ever hesitate to tell people that.
I'm sure there are many many people that disagree with our parenting technique. But its what works for us and will continue on with the next child.
@mammersoh I think in your situation it is important for a different kind of balance...A knew life before G, so I think you are doing a great job making him see that the relationships are different and one does not replace the other.
When people choose to have children, they play a lottery. Children have the same range of positive and negative characteristics as adults, and the personalities of some children are poorly matched with those of their parents.
This absolutely terrifies me. It brings to mind other familial relationships in my life (yeah, I'm taking it to the sister place). You so often hear people say, "I don't like my [insert family member here], but I love him/her." Well, I have a family member I don't like and who I wouldn't say I love either...as awful as that sounds. What if I have a child just like my sister?!?! What if I can't love my own child?!?!
I think I'm going to have nightmares tonight.
. It took up alot of time on the weekends. My parents also did not show alot of affection towards each other when I was younger and I know.that has affected the way I am in relationships. I don't get close to many people so I put extra effort into my relationship with DH.