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poppies717
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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Thank you.
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Interesting article (LR)
Resolve shared this on their FB page. It put my feelings into words. As I get closer and closer to my EDD, I am so frustrated and angry that everyone else seems to have moved on, especially since we are going forward on a different path. I am super excited about our path, but I still wish Poppyseed had stayed with us. It probably also didn't help to have the new nurse at my PCP ask me if I was on BCP today. I burst out laughing, and then she asked me if DH had a vasectomy. I thought I was going to pee my pants I was laughing so hard. Read my chart, lady.
TTC #1 since Feb. '12. dx: "unexplained" IF
After 2 shitty IVF cycles and 1 loss at 6+2 (EDD 11/7/14), DH and I are pursuing DIA.
11/17/2014 - ACTIVE AND WAITING!
Pregnancy was never the end goal; being a mom was.
I've been holding out on GP: I got drunk once and started a blog: Here it is (11/7 update)
3T<3
Re: Interesting article (LR)
PR
I also can't believe how many times people have acted like because we got pregnant pretty quickly after our loss that we should have gotten over it, and we should feel lucky. While I do feel lucky and blessed, I definitely have not 'gotten over' losing a child, no matter how long my baby's heart was beating. I still have days when I mourn the loss of that baby and feel petrified about this one. Feeling petrified about the rest of this pregnancy and even the delicate days and months after birth. I think it all has something to do with the stages of grief but even DH has a hard time understanding that I'm still grieving that loss.
I skimmed the article, but I completely agree with you @Poppies717.
People responded to my first loss with a lot of compassion. After about a month, people moved on and I felt like they expected me to move on as well. With my subsequent losses most people hardly acknowledged my feelings.
It's been over 2 years since my first loss and over a year since I've been pg (or TTC), and I still struggle everyday. Recently, I politely declined a baby shower with "hope you have fun, but it will likely be a while before I am ready to go to baby showers again." She laughed and said "really?!". Idiot.
Married August 2009
3 years. 5 losses.
Our rainbow baby boy born 11.16.15
One thing I do know, the ladies here, we will never forget each other's losses. We are always here for each other and it means the world to me.