Wedding Photoshoot "Encore"

xstarx05x · October 2014

I thought it would be a fun idea to have a photoshoot with some girl friends I wish were at our wedding but didn't know at the time. I'd wear my wedding gown and they'd wear whatever dress they want. (Absolutely no obligation to partake, I just figured most would love the opportunity to dress up!) DH thinks this is weird... I asked one of the girls I had in mind and she thinks it's a cute idea. Thoughts? (It's not our anniversary yet, but I finally got to change my name after 3.5 years! That's a reason to celebrate, right?!)

VOR · October 2014

Weird. really, really weird. You need to start living in the now. not the past. Really. They weren't there. Move on. And while I'm sure your wedding was a blast, really examine why it's some kind of marker in your friendships w/ people.

"You were/ weren't at my wedding". WHY does it matter?

Ilumine · October 2014

Totally odd.

You have to ask yourself why the party you threw for your wedding is still the most important memory of your life?

Because the whole point of a wedding is the marriage ceremony; the reception, the food, the wine, the music and most importantly the dress are all just props.

So if you can only focus on the fluff, then what is wrong with the rest of your life?

Not to mention, since you did NOT meet these women before your actual wedding, who is to say that they would have been in your life without your MARRIAGE? So why would you take pictures pretending that they were with you when they probably would not have been?

Odd

SheMarie82 · October 2014

Maybe rather than wearing your wedding dress, just find something fancy to do and have a group picture with all your friends dressed up nice.

artbyallie · October 2014

Yes, weird, and makes you look like a total AW to boot. I'm sure your friend only said it was cute and was really thinking more along the lines of, "Oh please no."

VOR · October 2014

I'll add - REALLY think about this. Put yourself in your friend's shoes. Seriously - if a friend said to me "Since we werent' friends when I got married - I want to get some pictures of us with me in my wedding dress!" - I'd look at them like they had 3 heads. They could be Kate and Wills and have had the wedding of the decade - but me being in pictures w/ Kate in her dress wouldn't change the fact that I WASN"T THERE.

It makes absolutely no sense.

beyondwords106 · October 2014

I saw a picture of a group of girls that got together after everyone was married and took pictures in there wedding dresses. So all the girls had their own wedding dress and took cute pictures. However this only made sense cause they were close before they got married and was involved in each others weddings.

I agree with the previous posts, it seems weird.

Maybride2 · October 2014

Weird as hell, and I promise you that your friends don't want to get dressed up and have their picture taken with you in your wedding dress. The one friend you asked was just too polite to tell you that you sound like a self-centered twit. Your new friends are not laying around their houses lamenting the fact that they didn't get to come to your wedding 3 years ago when they didn't know you. And I agree that it sound really juvenile to still be this hung up on and obsessed with your wedding 3 years later.

xstarx05x · October 2014

Thanks for the feedback and sorry for the delayed response (my notifications weren't working). Has anyone found an occasion to wear their dress again? (I may need to post a new thread... Or give up...)

nurse714 · October 2014

xstarx05x said:

Thanks for the feedback and sorry for the delayed response (my notifications weren't working). Has anyone found an occasion to wear their dress again? (I may need to post a new thread... Or give up...)

I think you should give up.

GilliC · October 2014

xstarx05x said:

Thanks for the feedback and sorry for the delayed response (my notifications weren't working). Has anyone found an occasion to wear their dress again? (I may need to post a new thread... Or give up...)

- I know someone who did a Trash the Dress photo shoot a few years later during a beach vacation.

- Another friend puts hers on every year on her anniversary and wears it around her apartment.

- Depending on the style, you could turn it into a historical costume (e.g. if it could pass for a Rococo ball gown, you could use it in a Marie Antoinette costume)
- Regardless of style, you could tear or bloodstain it and use it in a Halloween costume (bride of Frankenstein, zombie bride, etc)

- A few of my friends have talked about having a silly girls' night where we all wore ballgowns or wedding gowns out to dinner and dancing as a group.
- Dye it another color and wear it to a gala event.

OtterJ · October 2014

I actually think that if you want to wear your dress again....wear it.

Will people think it's weird? Absolutely. Should you care? Up to you.

So, you get to decide....which do you find more important:

Finding an excuse to wear your pretty dress again, and just having fun with it? -OR-
Concerning yourself with the opinions of others, and avoiding being "that weird lady in the wedding dress" ?

I personally wouldn't jump to the ridiculous conclusion that there is something wrong with you, or that your marriage is some how lacking just because you want to take new pictures in your wedding dress. I'm guessing you love the dress, you spent a lot of money on it, and it is linked to a wonderful memory of you joining with your spouse and celebrating with your friends/family. Some people are sentimental, and cherish important objects (like wedding dresses) that are linked with wonderful memories. And even people with wonderful/fulfilling lives & marriages, typically enjoy looking back, or being reminded of great wedding day moments.....none of that should be considered weird.

It is how you cherish your dress, and look back on your wedding memories that people may, or may not find weird (and you may, or may not care whether or not they consider it weird).

If you would like to create more memories in your dress that are a little more socially accepted, you could do a trash the dress photo session. If you want to involve your new friends, you could take a few of the photos with your friends helping you trash it. Or, if you just want to find an excuse to reuse your expensive purchase, you could have your dress altered into something that is a little more casual (shortened, dyed, etc.) that you could wear more regularly. It's a way to discretely wear your dress again.

If you still want to try to have a wedding dress photo shoot with your new friends, just be aware that they might think it's totally weird, and there is a good chance they will refuse. Or, if you're all a little equally weird and sentimental, they might honestly love it, and want to have their own wedding dress photo shoot.

You never know...."birds of a feather," and all that.

Samboni · October 2014

If you're set on the photoshoot/friend idea, then have everyone wear their wedding dresses. That could be fun and/or silly. No super serious poses. Wear your dresses and be photographed doing random, funny things with your friends. Then everyone gets to wear their dress again. That's the only way I see this working. Making it about you and your wedding makes you sound a little...odd. Like, you're in this new phase and should embrace it.

xstarx05x · October 2014

Thanks for the advice and encouragement

GilliC · October 2014

Samboni said:

If you're set on the photoshoot/friend idea, then have everyone wear their wedding dresses. That could be fun and/or silly. No super serious poses. Wear your dresses and be photographed doing random, funny things with your friends. Then everyone gets to wear their dress again. That's the only way I see this working. Making it about you and your wedding makes you sound a little...odd. Like, you're in this new phase and should embrace it.

This is where I'm at. Honestly, I think a group wedding dress shoot sounds like a blast!

But I think it would need to be other friends with wedding dresses. If it was just one chick in a wedding dress, not related to a wedding, then it just feels very AW to me, and I'd probably judge the friend who suggested it. (Yeah, I judge. I'm not a saint.)

xstarx05x · October 2014

Just to put it out there, this isn't about me not being able to move on. I'm well settled into married life, involved in various activities and organizations, and I have a great community of friends. I know I'm not the only girl who fantasizes about wearing her dress again haha

Anyway, I did say they could dress up in whatever dress they wanted, which could certainly be their wedding dresses. I guess if I were to do this I'd just want to be clear about that. GilliC mentioned something like this: "having a silly girls' night where we all wore ballgowns or wedding gowns out to dinner and dancing as a group." Also liked the idea of using it as a costume. It's actually similar to Audrey Hepburn's dress in Sabrina.

SIL was actually in a fashion show fundraiser where people were wearing their wedding dresses. Wish something like that would come up! That or a fancy ball (that didn't costs thousands of dollars to go to haha)

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