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Step-parenting
I am married to a man who has 2 girls of his own from previous marriages and I have a son of my own from a relationship gone horribly wrong. I am a stay at home mom with all the children and I also work for home, needless to say I do a majority of the disciplining and whatnot bc my husband works long hours and the kids are in bed by the time he gets off work. Long story short, the oldest girl who is 9, is in her not listening, talking back, about to go through puberty stage. I tell my husband how the day went when he gets home at night and if there's anything at all negative about his daughter he flips out on me saying that all I ever tell him is bad stuff about "his kid". He lashes out at me like I'm the one who did wrong. I generally just ignore it or try to talk to him about it but that only leads to him getting more frustrated with me. The girl's mother has nothing to do with her and hasn't since she was about 2 years old. I'm just wondering what it is that I need to do in order to get through to him that I'm not picking on her or saying she's only doing bad things I'm just telling him these things bc I want her to respect me as much as she does him. As of right now she lacks respect for me totally in my opinion. I have to ask her numerous times to do something, she rolls her eyes at me when I ask her something, which is something she wouldn't even test with her dad.
What do I need to do???? I'm really trying my hardest but it's getting old really quick.
What do I need to do???? I'm really trying my hardest but it's getting old really quick.
Re: Step-parenting
Also I would tell you husband you would like to come up with some rules/consequences so that when any child breaks the rules or does something unacceptable you guys can back each other up. I wouldn't make this conversation specific to her though because he is obviously going to be defensive over that.
In the meantime this girl is going through a tough time reaching puberty without her biological mom in the picture, just try to be there for her and letting her know how much you love her!