My Dad and Mom yell quite a bit.

Re: My Dad and Mom yell quite a bit.

• TarponMonoxide member

  

  November 2014

  PeopleLikeYou said:
  
  So sorry to hear; all of this is quite the big jumble and big mess.:(
  

  I think I should post on a discussion site. Just because I need support. I have no one. I'm at a random country, where I was born. My parents constantly pester and yell at me. My Dad keeps trying to control me.
  
  Have you actually sat down with these two, demanded a time out and told them to cut it out, once and for all?
  
  They have no right to talk to anybody like a common skivvy nor are they given the right to treat somebody like a piece of dirt.
  
  Do you live with them? Is there any way at all you can find work doing something -- wait on tables, work in retail, even light warehouse work -- and get yourself out of there and into a place of your own?
  
  They need to cut out the mistreatment of you and posthaste.  
  
   I have a different look on what parenting is like now. and it's keeping me from parenting my child. I just guide my child and help him. But now, my sister mostly takes care of him.
  
  Why isn't the child with you? Where is his other biological parent? does he or she know about this arrangement?
  
  
  My sister's in better talking terms with my Dad. I don't have a job, though I've been trying and trying. My Dad yells at me when I ask for money. I have nothing to do at home because my son just watches cheap downloads of cartoons. My sister has gotten his attention gone over to a different place.
  
  YOU are his mother.
  
  Demand an end to endless cartoons! I don't know how old hte kiddo is but there is reading, and age appropriate things a kid can do to keep active and keep his or her mind going -- what? she doesn't even take that kiddo to a park, our out to a playgroup with other children, give him something to do to occupy himself (what happened to blocks or toy trucks or coloring books or dolls???)
  
  You don't use a TV as an electronic babysitter -- call me a hopeless old fart, but I also don't think TV is good for a youngster's eyes. At the very most, the TV time needs to be limited to perhaps a half hour a day and nothing more.
  
  My solution is to move out and find a job. I'm away from my home country, though. So I'm just looking for a job to reduce the number of times I have to take yellings from my Dad. He tries to help by buying things, but what's the point? He yells at me and it's making living so stressful and sad. When I tell my psychiatrist, my Dad denies it when he asks him. What I can't tolerate is how my Dad's trying to say that my son is his, just because he's supporting him. But... my Dad yells at my little son, too. I just keep having to live in difficulty. My family has severe problems. Please help.
  

  You need to take your son and go elsewhere. Surely there has to be something like Section 8 housing or someplace you can go.
  
  I suggested retail or restaurants or a warehouse for you for work. Secure a job -- any job -- and get out of there, stat --- this is a toxic environment you are in and wow, if anybody dared to yell at my child they'd have hell to pay.
  
  Get roommates and move in with them --- or see if you can find an apartment where there is already 1 or 2 people living there and where they won't mind a child coming into the equation.
  
  Even a studio apartment will be good for you and yoru son.
  
  Until you get a job and get out of there, you will be in this pickle you are in. For your own sake, find a job and get out of there and when you do, cut these people off. Never speak to them again.
  
  Take back your life; tell your pig father that he is not to yell at you or your child or treat you or your child like dirt.
  
  Is there a social worker in your town?
  
  There must be one --- see that person --- I am sure they have one in your home country -- and tell this person what your living circumstances are and that you need to have your own place.
  
  If you do not have custody of your child, you need to get your child removed from there. What's happening isn't good for your child. And it is not good for you either. Get some sort of a job and get out of there. GL.
  
  
  

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• freebutterfly7 member

  

  November 2014

  I'm glad you took a chance and posted, although I'm sorry, I don't fully understand the situation. You mentioned having a psychiatrist - do you also talk to a psychologist or a counselor about your situation? Do you have churches nearby where you can go to talk to a pastor or women's leader? Sounds like you don't have much support.  Sometimes connecting with a caring group of people can give you some solid guidance rather than relying too much on your family to parent your son. I think when you get more confidence and more stability in your life you can care for him better. God loves you and will help you. Praying for you!

  
  

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