GTKY How old were you?

noffgurl · November 2014

How old were you when you got married? DH and I were super young (21 and 24). The scary thought is we were the second to oldest age group (bro was 27 but HW was 19). All others in the past three generations were 18-21. The other scary part is only 3 of the past 18 marriages in bith families of the sibling/parent/grandparent generations had evaded divorce. . .

Xstatic3333 · November 2014

I was 28 and H was 33. In our area that's pretty typical. My family is tiny, and people tend to get married later and have one or no kids. H's family is all over the map. I am glad we have a couple of years to just be married before we need to start TTC.

als1982 · November 2014

We were 31 (me) and 30 (H), which in my area and circles of friends is old.

I loved and am proud of all the personal, financial and professional accomplishments I was able to make before H and I met. We were both really stable and were ready to settle down. The only negative for me about getting married later is now the pressure to have children so quickly. It would be nice to have a few more years just the two of us, but I also want to have our family started and mostly complete by 35.

My parents married young, 19 and 21, but waited nearly a decade to have children. I think that having one stress at a time (first adjusting to marriage, then achieving financial success, and lastly, children) helped them have a strong marriage.

So, like everything there are pros and cons either way!

lifeonthehill · November 2014

21 and 24. That was old for my family. I was raised Mormon so the expectations were for me to be married by 19.

In comparison all the girls I grew up with who are my age give or take a year are married with two babies. I am wayyy behind on that one.

noffgurl · November 2014

@alyssa32713‌ H was born and raised Mormon and I was baptized into it when I lived with some friends/extended family so we completely understand that. We feel old. My side of the family isn't Mormon, but definitely got together incredibly young.

formerlyGDaisy09 · November 2014

I turned 25 three weeks after our wedding, h was 27. We were the first of our friends to marry, however in the two years since our wedding many of our friends have married

MrsAshleyH10 · November 2014

I was 22, DH was 25. We knew we were meant to be when we met; DH still says he wishes we didn't wait so long.

vlagrl29 · November 2014

I was 29 and DH was 33….First marriage I was 25 and H was 36

sparklesandcream · November 2014

28 and 29. Where I live, under 25 is definitely considered too young, but I know that's not the norm everywhere. I was engaged briefly at 21, I broke it off knowing I needed more time to learn who I was. I was right!

HoneyBee973 · November 2014

I was 30 and DH 33. We were the last ones in our circle of friends to get married.

hoffse · November 2014

I was 26, H was 25 (but he's extremely young for his "grade" - we were in the same class in high school and college). That was about average for my age group.

Honestly I wouldn't have been ready any earlier. I felt like at least one of us should be done with school and working in our chosen career before making that leap. H was finishing his second year of law school when we got married, but he took two years off between law school and college. I was able to finish school, take the bar, and have about 8 months of practice before we got married. That enabled us to take a honeymoon and start to accumulate a nest egg.

Most of the people I know who got married very young are either very unhappy or already divorced. Not that everybody is that way, but you do a lot of growing up in your 20's. Obviously I wish nothing but the best for people who choose their partner young, but I think it takes a lot of work and a little luck if you go that route. H and I have dated on and off since we were 18 and 17, but there's no flipping way I would have considered marrying him before he matured a bit around the age of 22/23. Honestly, he could be kind of a jerk when we were younger. Thankfully, I waited long enough to see that he is one who has mellowed with age

dragonstarjk · November 2014

I was 27, H was 42. I would say my age was around average for my area, although a lot of my friends were already married. We dated seven years before we got married. H had never been married before--he says it took him that long to find the perfect one

RunningWifey · November 2014

I was 20, Hubby was 23. Very young but not unheard of in our area. 8 years later I will say we are very happy. My parents married young(18) so no judgment from them.

Erikan73 · November 2014

I was three months shy of 40 and hubby was 45. It was my first and his second. We were friends for about 18 months, dated for 14 months, then engaged for 11 months.

Wulfgar · November 2014

For my first, I was 25 and my ex was 24. She was a lesbian who was using me to hide her lifestyle. That was a mess, I was lonely and knew deep down I was making a mistake.

For my current marriage, I was 41 and she was 29, we already had a son and been dating for 9 years, known each other for 10 and living together for 5 years.

kmurphy2131 · November 2014

H turned 27 in march, we got married in April, and I turned 27 in May. Our wedding week was actually the halfway point between our birthdays which we did not plan (it had to be school vacation week because he is a teacher) but I thought was cool. We were dating a month shy of 4 years when we got married, and had been living together for almost 2 years.

CuriousKiddosMama · November 2014

I was 26 and dh was 34. We have a 9.5 year age gap, but it works for us. We met when I was 21, so we had been dating too long in my opinion

I was getting to the point where I was going to ask him!! Our engagement was pretty quick though- 6 months.

Kahlyla · November 2014

I was 25, he was 27 when we got married. We'd been together five years at that point, and have been married for seven now.

brij2006 · November 2014

I was 24 and H was 26. We had been together for 8 years, and were considered "old" in our area. We're in a rural area, and had been together since I was 16 and he was 18. So the expectation was that we would be married before my 21st birthday. Neither of us wanted that. As much as it sucked to wait a while to get married, I wouldn't change it for anything now.

jessica490 · December 2014

28 and 29...I feel like that is late! But anything under 25 would have been considered "too young" from where we come from. When I was younger I had always said I would be married by the time I was 25, but I'm glad that I wasn't because I was dating a loser at that time.

cbee817 · December 2014

DH was 23 and I was 24 (5 days short of turning 25). At the time, I didn't think we were young, but we were compared to most of our family/friends. I'm glad we had a few years together to buy a house, vacation, etc before our girls arrived.