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My sister asked me to be a bridesmaid then changed her mind?
Hello
Long story short:
My sister when she first got engaged asked me and my sister to be her bridesmaids, as well as one friend. Two months ago, she announced when her wedding would be, but said nothing about being a bridesmaid, so I left it. Now, I just found out that a friend and our other sister will be her bridesmaids.
I am upset that she dropped me, without explanation. I never expected to be a bridesmaid, but that she asked, and then dropped me, but still our other sister, without saying anything really hurts my feelings.
More details:
Everyone else in our family has some involvement except me. My brother will walk her down the aisle (father is passed away), mother was involved in all the planning, and sister is making her cake and is her bridesmaid.
Everyone else in our family has some involvement except me. My brother will walk her down the aisle (father is passed away), mother was involved in all the planning, and sister is making her cake and is her bridesmaid.
She originally asked me to make her invitations, because that is what I'm good at. Then when I received an invitation for her wedding, I asked my mother about it, and my sister said she had forgot. Maybe she forgot she had asked me over a year before the wedding date announcement to be a bridesmaid? Still, if she asked our other sister, you would think she would still consider asking me.
I have been asked to look after her daughter at the reception (her daughter, 3, whom I love dearly, is going through a phase where she wont listen to anyone except her mother and grandmother, and I will have absolutely no control over her. She will most likely cry, and say 'I want mommy' if I tell her to do anything, even just telling her to come sit back down.)
I am feeling upset. I have basically been excluded from the wedding, and have been given a chore. I know it's all about her, and her choice, I'm just feeling hurt. 
Re: My sister asked me to be a bridesmaid then changed her mind?
My advice stills stands: Call her and ask her what happened.
At least you will getclosure.
And do NOT baby sit the kid. A child that is unpredictable should be best cared for away from a festivity like a wedding. GL.
Do you sing or play an instrument?
I find that friends and relatives who can partake in the actual ceremony means a lot more than having them spend a shitload in money to be a bridesmaid or a groomsman.
There were a few relatives who sang; we had them do that -- others were readers or took part in the Mass itself. I myself would rather sing than be a bridesmaid --- or if you have a very talented sewer or artistic friend or relative, maybe ask them to make a veil for you. Or have that person craft a headpiece --- both are ridiculously easy to do! (I"ve made my own veil and the whole thing cost me about $50 when all was said and done)
What I'm trying to say that when it comes down to where it really is at, all a BM is is a one day thing, really. Yiou are not required to help a bride out, or go with her to dress fittings/try ons or helop her pick out this or that. All of that gets misconstrued in the mix.
Even if you buy something off rack, you're going to be out at least a hundred bucks, and that's if you find something for $100. You can do your hair yourself and your makeup also but it's still an expense -- and out here it gets extremely pricey. Add in the chip-in factor for the shower and that's more money right there.
Either way is pretty shitty