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Family being jealous getting me down :(
Just to briefly explain, me and my husband have recently been given a large inheritance from my husbands grandad. His grandad brought him and his brother up as their parents were in fit. So it was so hard on my husband to lose his grandad and no money would make it better. But even though this is the case, we have been put in an amazing position, both in our early twenties, had our child very young and worked hard, getting qualifications and great jobs, this money enabled us to afford a car and the insurance, pay any outstanding debts, and largest of all, buy our first house out right. This doesn't mean we don't need to work, it wasn't that much, but I was able to go on and quit my job and train to be a teacher, only 1 year and I'm earning £12000 at the same time. To get to the point, my family (not my husbands) are horrible, bitter and jealous of what we have. My mum is great, we have given my mum money to help her with things on her house and other things which we have not told my siblings about. But my siblings are very nasty, they have made continuous mistakes, living well beyond their means and now have nothing to show for it, they look at us and think we have been given everything. But we are over 10 years younger and may of had our child earlier than them, but we took the responsibility and worked hard to create a better future. We never thought we would get this money, so were always working towards buying our house and having everything we have now, but more like 10 years down the line. I am just fed up of not being able to talk to my mum about anything, because they keep bad mouthing us to her and upsetting my mum. We avoid seeing them as they do not have anything nice to say, even about our son (who had to watch their children get more when we couldn't afford much). We don't talk about our lives to them, or brag. They look on social media to find ammunition to talk bad of us.
Sorry this is a long post, but I'm tired of not having a family I can be happy around, or see my nieces and nephews without horrible comments and negative attitudes, even saying how our house is small and don't know why we bought it. We are not flashy, our house is small, but we knew buying outright would allow us to further our careers, rather than having a mortgage to pay too.
Any way, what can I do? I don't want to keep avoiding them, but I can see it all exploding and us never talking again.
Thank you!!!
Sorry this is a long post, but I'm tired of not having a family I can be happy around, or see my nieces and nephews without horrible comments and negative attitudes, even saying how our house is small and don't know why we bought it. We are not flashy, our house is small, but we knew buying outright would allow us to further our careers, rather than having a mortgage to pay too.
Any way, what can I do? I don't want to keep avoiding them, but I can see it all exploding and us never talking again.
Thank you!!!
Re: Family being jealous getting me down :(
Stop oversharing, be it in person or on social media.
Hopefully your mom can set boundaries with your siblings to stop them bad mouthing, if she can't, then stop sharing information with her.
Personally I too received an inheritance from my dad. No one except my sibling (who received the same amount) and my husband knows any details regarding this. They don't know the amount, what we did with the money...they know nothing. A few people have poked around a bit with questions but they have been disappointed as we've been tight lipped. How should I expect they would react of I were to tell them how much these funds have been amazingly helpful in my life? How grateful I am that my dad worked so hard all his life that he had some left over? No good will would come from sharing (or worse yet gushing) such details.