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MIL and Grandkids...
I trolled to see if I could find a similar topic (because I'm sure there is somewhere), couldn't find one, apologies if there is one.
Since me and H have gotten engaged, MIL has dropped hints about us having children. I ignored it because I had other things to worry about (like the wedding) and usually found a way to dip out of the conversation. Now, we've been married two months, and every time we see her she mentions grandkids. This is a repeated thing because the apartment we live in doesn't have a washer/dryer and alternate weeks of laundry at both parents's homes (super lucky, super grateful).
I know she's excited that we're married, and she's really looking forward to grandkids (as I'm sure I would be IF I have children), but the problem is, I don't think I want kids. And I've told this to her (and her five sisters who also ask) and they all tell me that I'll change my mind. We were there last week helping to set up the Christmas decorations, and she pointed out several things that she's going to save for our (mine and H's) children. Then there was a guilt trip about me not liking a frame she bought for us (which was actually a really cute newspaper themed thing that talked about the wedding, but then the bottom had "WHEN WILL THEY HAVE CHILDREN?" along the bottom) and I smiled a lot and tried to put enough words coherently together to not further offend.
I know this is a thing that mothers do, but my mom hasn't said anything. The only reason why I know she wants grandkids (other than the fact that that is who she is) is because my dad mentioned that when they move, it won't be too far because she wants to be closer to the grandkids. I usually smile and try to escape the conversation, or say I don't want kids. H doesn't comment during these conversations, but when we talk about it he's very firm in the fact that it's our decision. My thing is, does anyone have any advice on dealing with this? My MIL is very nice and all, she's just a little overbearing when she wants something.
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