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Men who have not made any advances after months of dating
Hello, I am dating a man for the last several months. I have not met his friends or family. He tells me he is attracted to me yet he has not yet made any moves on me besides a quick peck on the lips when we part. He seems very shy, and has nervous habits. My gut is telling me he might have a physical deformity or other issue. I tried to get us alone. He has his own place but states I cannot go to his place because his ex used to live there. I don't think he is lying about his single status. I have just about lost interest in him in a physical, sexual type of way. What do you think? Can you relate?
Re: Men who have not made any advances after months of dating
Seriously, I don't understand why people don't just talk about this stuff. If you're afraid of scaring him off or something, then it's not a healthy relationship and you should cut your losses sooner rather than later. If you're afraid of "losing" a guy, he's NOT the right guy.
Something is up --- maybe he has no family or they are all scattered and at a distance -- but to not meet at least one of his friends? That doesn't sound great.
I also think he is hiding something; that you are not even spending time at his place is a real give away.
Find another guy. This whole thing is fishy and shady.
ETA: Here is another take on Mr. Shy:
He may have some sort of social anxiety or be on the autism spectrum somewhere. He might even be socially maladjusted or perhaps for all you know, you are his first girlfriend --- he may be a very late bloomer and not know where "to start" now that he has a girlfriend.
Who knows why he hasn't introduced you to his friends or family? Maybe you're still in the very early dating stages --- I'd say that if you are steadily dating for a few months and you haven't at least met one of his guy friends, it's bad news.
He does not sound like the guy for you. Don't pursue a relationship with him any longer. Meet him in some restaurant and kindly and gently break the news to him that you will be moving on.